cho cho toilet train my 3yr old?

Question

my son is now 3 years old and i'm toilet trainning him. at times he will let me know when he needs to go to the toilet and when he does he gets a lot of praise and if he does do a wee or a poo he gets to push the button which he enjoys doing. lately he has been doing most of his wees and poos in his nappy for example he did 3 poos in his nappy in one day. feeling frustrated and feeling he is not getting the concept i have tried using the time out method which understandably had a negative effect. as he is young and still learnning i feel that all i can do is give him lots of praise when he does the right thing but if anyone has any ideas of how to go about this please let me know.

Answer 1

Just be patient, he is bound to have a few accidents even when he seems to be doing really well. Don't worry, he's getting the concept! Keep up with the praise--a little goes a long way!

Answer 2

I am about to give you the best potty training advice you will ever get from anyone, and also probably the hardest to follow.......children will do it when they decide they are ready and not a moment before. The more you try to "make" them be ready, the more defensive they will get and the more you will beat your head against the wall, but there is not much you can do to actively influence the process.

You do need to talk to them about it, explain the process, let them watch when you go (if you are OK with that), provide them with a potty seat or toilet ring and a step stool - all done in the same tone of voice you would use if you were taking a walk and saying "Look, there's a pretty butterfly". Make it seem normal, natural - only let them see positive references to going potty. Never punish or scold for accidents - act like they are the most normal thing in the world and go on. (Don't give potty training too much attention - positive OR negative. When he does go, treat it as you would any new little accomplishment - "Oh, you put your shirt on by yourself, good for you". Don't make potty training a currency that they use to get attention.) For many kids, potty training is more about feeling in control than an actual physical ability. Many children have the capability of being completely potty trained long before they decide to do so. The moment that they sense it is important to you, the control goes from you to them.

The worst thing you can for you or them is stress out about it. I promise, your child will not go to college still wearing diapers! I have three kids, who all potty trained at different paces. My youngest, who I thought would potty train very quickly because she is bright and likes to act like the older ones, has taken the longest. I put out the potty rings when she was two, and talked about going pee pee and poopie in the potty, and would help her sit if she asked, but pretty much left it at that. It took her a year to be interested, but then she went from pull ups to panties in a few days with no fuss at all.

Lastly, don't let anyone (your Mom, your Mom-in-law, your neighbor, your best friend) make you feel like it is a competition - "well, little Joey has been potty trained since he was 15 months". Great for little Joey, but early potty training does not correlate with higher ACT scores, better paying jobs or a successful marriage later in life. In a few years, no one will care or even remember how long the process took.

Good luck!

Answer 3

I tryied alot of different methods when my son was potty training and I figured out that spanking them and putting them in time out was not the answer.You have to have alot of patience in potty training a child and depending on the child determines how much patience you really need.Of course we know that every child is different so it might not work on your child.With my child I would,as you said,give him lots of praise when he would go .My child sometimes wouldn't tell me at first so I begin to take him every 30 minutes to an hour weather he told me or not.Over time he started getting the concept.Even if he doesn't go every time continue to take him often and he will get it.Oh and whatever you do don't get frusterated to the point that you quit.I made that mistake when I first began and all it did was confused him.Good Luck!

Answer 4

NEVER punish him for not going in the potty. All he has known his entire 3 years of life is that a diaper is to pee and poo in. It takes time (and patience) to retrain his way of thinking. The thing that honestly worked for my 2 year old, is letting her be in control. I bought her big girl underwear with characters on them and introduced her to the potty chair. I told her that when she was ready, "Dora" and the potty would be waiting for her, and I honestly left it at that. 6 months later (at 2 1/2) she asked to wear her big girl underwear, she put them on and she hasn't gone in a diaper since. I firmly believe that letting her feel like it was her idea and that she was in control, gave her the confidence to make the decision on her own. Now I know that little girls are different than little boys, but toddlers are toddlers and they ALL like to feel like they are in the drivers seat. I never had to "try" to potty train, my daughter did all the work herself, and it wasn't work, because it was up to her. Good luck!

Answer 5

Please do not punish a child for soiling in their Nappy or pants, he is still young and not every child learns as quickly as others.
Take away the nappies.
Always take your child to the loo when you go and ask if he/she also needs to go.
Do not fuss too much when they do go to the toilet. High fives work well.
Put a protective sheet on his bed and a special one for quilt covers.
Always carry around 3lots of spare clothes.
If your child does soil his trousers, who cares take them off put clean ones on and do not fuss.

Soon enough your child will get used to it.

Best wishes and good luck

Kim

Answer 6

Take away the diapers and let him run around in big boy undies.... that is the only way it worked for mine. Even if he goes in them, take him to the toilet for a few minutes and tell him that is where he needs to go.

Answer 7

i was told that it may take a child a little longerto learn when to wake up to use the potty, so that is normal. you could try getting him to go before his nap and maybe that will help. i am not really sure though b/c every child is different, so just be patient. good luck!

Answer 8

Unfortunately, toilet training is one of the few things that you can't do anything to speed up the process. He won't do it until he's ready, and you can't really do anything to make him ready sooner. (Don't even try it; my mom tried to force me before I was ready and now I have severe paruresis.) Just treat it like anything else, and don't lose hope, because he WILL be ready someday, and his progress will amaze you.