wants to marry me and have children with me for sure. I cheated on him for 3 months and he broke up with me after i told him. we got back together a month later and now we have been together for 7 months this time. he told me a couple days ago that he had sex with some girl when he was drunk but when he told me he acted like it was no big deal. now he is acting really mean towards me and didn't want me to come over for a couple days. he still tells me he loves me. but tonight he wants me to come over, should i break up with him because he is treating me like ****. i overlooked the fact he cheated on me once because i have cheated on him so many times before. this 7 months i have been totally faithfull. what should i do?
2007-07-24 03:58:38 · 8 answers · asked by Sunny Rae 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we are not looking to get married for a couple years
2007-07-24 04:10:49 · update #1
I'll be honest, I think he's mad at both you and himself. You did hurt him, and maybe deep inside he wanted to hurt you, and when he acted on it, he hated himself for it. Now he's thinking that you two are both cheaters, and that can hurt the most. But you can't break up with him for that, that's hipocritical
2007-07-24 04:02:32 · answer #1 · answered by themusicman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well the first thing you need to do is decide if this is the right relationship for you. If you both are cheating on one another then there's something in the relationship that isn't keeping either of you satisfied enough, whether it be emotional, mental or physical.
The second thing you need to do, is when you go over to his house this evening is tell him straight out how you feel. Explain calmly that you're hurt by the way he's been treating you and that you want to know why and what it is.
If you really love him and want to stay with him, then you two need to sit down and try to figure out what is going on what you two want to do about it. There is no point in being a relationship if you're going to be treated poorly.
Good Luck.
2007-07-24 11:09:49 · answer #2 · answered by Roses ~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the two of you should just let this relationship go. Its really too much drama for the both of you. Its seems to me that the both of you are young and not ready for that type of commitment right now. You both have a lot of playing to get out of your systems even if you may love each other. I also wouldn't say that you are breaking up with him for how he's treating you because you treated him the same when you cheated for a whole 3 months. So if you are going to break up it should be mutual because you guys are not treating each other right.
2007-07-24 11:36:39 · answer #3 · answered by Richard J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In all honesty, if he says that you are the woman he wants to settle down with and get married to and have children with, THEN the two of you should go to couple's counseling.
If he's being mean toward you, do you really want to be with that type of person for the rest of your life? While it's commendable that you've been completely faithful for the past 7 months, I feel that you deserve to be treated better.
We all learn from our mistakes, so you shouldn't stick around simply because you cheated on him first. If you truly love him and he loves you, then counseling is the way to go!
Best of luck to you!
2007-07-24 11:03:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you both should wait for at least a year or more before getting married.
neiher of you has been faithful long enough , marriage means being faithful your whole life , no place for cheating .
marriage needs more maturity, get a college education, work , don't get married and have children before you two become a real couple. if you want to get engaged no problem but marriage should wait.
2007-07-24 11:07:44 · answer #5 · answered by sweet tooth 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unless you both can be open and honest in how you both felt when the other person cheated on you... talk about why it all happened.. and why he's acting different..... well..... it doesn't look good.... if you two are really serious about keeping it going... then go get professional help... seek counseling...
2007-07-24 11:05:19 · answer #6 · answered by Kevin c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not serious. Up to you if you would want to go on.
2007-07-24 11:02:03 · answer #7 · answered by boyplakwatsa.com 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have a good talk between each other...plan carefully....wad u all wan....see whether are u all good for each other....marriage is no joke..
2007-07-24 11:03:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋