Two of my friends just got engaged. I'm very very happy for them both, but recently split with my boyfriend (who is their best friend) and feeling really sad that my life hasn't turned out that way.
I know it's wrong to be self-pitying, but does it make me a horrible person? I don't want to be sad and bitter, I just want to be able to be happy for them with no other feelings attached :-(
2007-07-24 03:53:17 · 20 answers · asked by rollacoasta 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Admit to yourself that you're feeling jealousy. Say it out loud. Then Think why you're feeling this way. And then realize that its not their fault that you and your bf broke up. Shake these feelings off and move on.
No it doesn't make you a horrible person. Its ok to feel this way. But best way is to confront your feelings rather than avoid them. We've all been thru all these emotions sometime in our lives. Our reaction makes all the difference.
2007-07-24 03:58:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No it doesn't make you a horrible person. You are just upset at the moment. Instead, try and be happy for them and feel happy because your friends are happy. And remember, when you have found the right person, you will be the one in the dress one day walking down the isle feeling the happiest you ever have done before. And if your meant to be your ex, you will be, maybe just not right now.
2007-07-24 11:06:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
After a painful breakup it is normal to be a little resentful of other couples. It is great that you are happy for them, but understandable that you are a little sad. After some time goes by you will feel less bothered by their relationship.
Just remember that there is a reason that your last relationship ended and there is someone better suited out there for you - it might just take time. In the meantime enjoy the freedom of single life!
2007-07-24 10:57:53 · answer #3 · answered by Rob 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Aw its always hard when you have gone thru a split, but you know you want to feel good for them, so that makes you a nice ordinary vunerable person just now. You know you will get over this, give it time and patience and as long as your other two friends remember to include you in their social life, as normal, things will be fine.
You arent horrible in the slightest you are...human :0)
2007-07-24 12:28:06 · answer #4 · answered by theoldecrone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It never makes you are horrible person to be human. Humans have feelings the are both "good" and "bad" all the time. Its normal. What matters is how we act on those feelings. If your temporary jealousy (and it is temporary) results in your acting out and hurting someone else's feelings, then you are not serving yourself or the world well. If however, you accept the bad feelings now and know that its normal, they will go away, and your own feelings about life will improve. Good luck!
P.S. Horrible people don't ask themselves the question you asked yourself. :)
2007-07-24 11:05:37 · answer #5 · answered by Filmmaker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not horrible, just feeling sad and vunerable while it seems everyone else is having things turn out right for them.
We all feel self-pity sometimes, it's the we handle it, and you have got it right in not showing it, even though it is hard.
I am sure as well your friends will be feeling sad for you, and in time you will find your own happiness! x
2007-07-25 05:44:26 · answer #6 · answered by Thia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its understandable that you are feeling this way as you have just split up with your boyfriend, but this does not make you a horrible person, and your engaged friends should be able to see that you may be feeling down.
however life does go on, keep positive :)
2007-07-24 11:04:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it makes you a bad person....it makes you human. Feelings and emotions are never 'wrong' to have...it's the attitude you have or the actions you take because of those feelings..... Just be careful. you don't want to lose a friend over this.
2007-07-24 11:00:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No it doesn't make you horrible. It makes you human.
Let them know how you feel. I'm sure they know you want to be happy for them and I'm sure they understand you're going through a hard time.
2007-07-24 11:50:15 · answer #9 · answered by mackenzie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if they are true friends they will understand ur going thru a difficult time but on the other hand you cant take it out on them because ur relationship has failed just explain to them how you feel but also let them know ur happy for them
2007-07-24 10:58:19 · answer #10 · answered by bexieboo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋