I was thinking about a dance with my groom, or incorporating something she loved into the wedding. Like oragami, placing swans into the center pieces or favors. Is this tacky?
2007-07-24 03:45:16 · 29 answers · asked by GFAVA 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It is absolutely not tacky to remember you mother. Just make sure that you do it in a subtle way, you don't want to be depressed and weepy on wedding day. Your mother would want you to enjoy every second.
My mom died a few years ago and this is what we are doing:
There will be an empty seat in the pew. After my dad gives me away I will set a flower from my boquet on it. This is for my mom, my grandma, his dad, just a remembrance of everybody. Im not catholic so instead of the usual rosary in the boquet I will have a locket that has her picture and my grandmothers.
His dad loved lillies and there is a thing between them about white butterflies so we will include white calla lillies as one of my flowers.
At the reception we will have candle holders with votives. Beside each one will be a picture of the loved one we want to honor. Inside the candle holder around the votive we are going to put things that remind us of them...for instance his dad was an artist so we will put brushes, pencils, and paint in it. My grandma loved so sew so fabric scraps, buttons, and a crochet needle.
My moms song for her and us was "Please dont go" by KC and Sunshine band so that will be the last dance song at the end of the night.
2007-07-24 05:21:36 · answer #1 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the church ceremony, have an easel set up with a beautiful photograph of your Mother. Then both you and your groom place a white rose right by the photo. But also, I would hand a rose to the groom's mother too. This is a nice touch. I saw this done two years ago at a Catholic ceremony and the priest made an announcement and said something special about the bride's late Mother to honor her and the living Mother of groom. It was lovely. At the reception, it isn't necessary to say anything about your Mother..she is there in spirit and the church ceremony including her is so beautiful that it is really enough. People will say it was touching and well done I assure you. Good Luck on your wedding...and remember she is there always in spirit.
2007-07-24 16:05:43 · answer #2 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Incorporating someting belonging to or an interest of someone you loved who has passed on is actually a very sweet idea. My mother died some three years before I was married, and I chose to wear a brooch she'd owned on my big day. What's more, I was married with her ring. I figure that she and my father were happy together for more than thirty years, so that's a good piece of jewelry to wear!
Swans are a lovely motif. Making origami pieces to decorate the room sounds like a fun project. Do you know the Japanese saying about origami cranes? If you fold a thousand, you can make a wish come true.
Doing something like this is a lovely, meaingful act that in no way detracts from the happiness of the day. What could possibly be tacky about that?
I wish you and your fiance all joy and a long, happy marriage filled with graceful thoughts like this one.
2007-07-24 11:07:56 · answer #3 · answered by gileswench 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have anything left from her wedding day? Maybe you can incorporate it as a "something old". Her veil, her garter, the jewelry she wore, etc. I know someone who took, a wedding dress and cut off from the bottom to make garters for the brides and hankerchiefs for the men. (It was for her nephew's fiances. Their mother died and since it was just the 2 boys there was no chance of any girls wearing their mother's dress) It was very special to them and it was a way of keep her close to them on that day. You could also light a candle for her, or keep a seat in church open for her with a rose.
2007-07-24 12:23:32 · answer #4 · answered by JM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all! Do you know what your mom's favorite flower was? Why not make that a major part of your bouquet and/or centerpieces? Play her favorite song- wear something she wore at her wedding if possible. Favors in the shape of origami swans would be awesome- can they be made from the kind of paper that has seeds imbedded in it? If so, you have a symbol of your mom and then the favor can be later planted and produce flowers.
2007-07-24 16:15:26 · answer #5 · answered by Sweet Tooth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like the idea of the song. I love Tim McGraw's Please Remember Me. Or if you can remember when you were little and your Mom was living. if there was a song that she would sing to you or the two of you danced to on a regular basis. This could be a very special dance for either you and your groom or you and your dad.
You could also do something like putting a white rose in a vase and having a prayer said. Or any flower that may have been her favorite.
2007-07-24 11:21:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Incorporating something she loves would be very nice. I have seen brides carry flowers of all one color with a single rose inside of a different color in honor of their mother. Make sure to put something in the wedding program about her or a little poem. The dance is a nice idea as well. Anything that means something to you and will make you feel good about it is what you should do.
2007-07-24 10:50:13 · answer #7 · answered by Luv2Answer 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My dad died when I was 13 and when I got married my step-dad and my mom gave me away. My step-dad answered "Her father in spirit, her mother, and I" when asked who gives this bride away. Then at the reception we played one of my dad's songs and my mom, sisters, and I danced together and cried and talked about how much we missed daddy and he should be here but he's watching from heaven. So i don't think it's tacky, it's your wedding and as long as you and the groom are happy then i say honor your mom however you like.
2007-07-24 11:04:54 · answer #8 · answered by michele d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The origami swans are a great idea. You can put them in the centerpiece and in your wedding bouquet.
There are several places were you can buy swans already done too.
http://www.sparklingsweetorigami.com/origamiswan.html
Just remember two things. One, to add a note in the program about the swans and the dedication to your mom. And second, it is your wedding and it is a reflection of you, your husband- to- be and the family you two are creating.
Happy wedding:)
2007-07-24 11:04:45 · answer #9 · answered by alysiallen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go on davids bridal they have memorial candles even with a vase.Put her favorite flower in there. I was thinking about doing this for my future hubbys mom. Nothe swan thing is pretty thats what i am choosing my wedding caromony is at a lake. Good luck and congrats!
2007-07-24 13:34:38 · answer #10 · answered by pebblesqt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋