is it funny, or amusing! do they get off!
I'm serious most of the time...like when I say communicate and he just sits there! AHHH!
2007-07-24 03:23:49 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is nothing we can say that will make you any calmer. Most girls just want you to listen. It's hard to say the right thing when everything is normal.
2007-07-24 03:26:44 · answer #1 · answered by Airmech 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Much of the time we are just trying to figure out what the problem is. While you are "losing your mind", you are not rational. Many times, you are just loading us with background information that has nothing to do with the situation. I really don't care how many shoes you tried on if the problem is a dispute with a neighbor. Eventually you will get to the topic but by then, my mind may have gone numb. In addition, when one man tells another that he has a problem, it means that he would like a solution offered, if possible. We rapidly learn that if a woman tells us that she has a problem, it means that we are NOT to offer a solution. We are to listen sympathetically. We also listen carefully in case there is hidden message about us somewhere in the presentation, such as "...and she said to me - oh, your dresser top needs organization - well, she said to me..." To do all this, we have to stay calm and quiet.
2007-07-24 10:46:03 · answer #2 · answered by MICHAEL R 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem but in reverse. I lose my mind when my girlfriend just sits there. I have found the best thing you can do is change yourself and not them. Hey maybe they just dont want to make things worse and your blowing it up. Try to work on your own anger issues becasue that isnt healthy in the long run. Ask them to help you stay calm like they do. I doubt they think its a joke.
2007-07-24 10:30:19 · answer #3 · answered by the guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because somebody has to have control of the situation,, that's why.
There has to be some sense of order when chaos is running wild. It does no good if both people are running wild around like a chicken with their heads cut off. That doesnt solve anything...somebody has the be the stronger one and get a good grip on the situaion. You know? Be grounded and firm
Be grateful for your man...Good luck
2007-07-24 10:35:30 · answer #4 · answered by Warrior Guardian 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because when you are loosing your mind communication is one way: from you to us. We have learned from experience that real communication that is aimed at resolving issues takes talking AND listening, and somebody on a rampage is not listening. It is better to wait until the storm blows over and then sit down to discuss the issue
2007-07-24 10:30:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, losing your mind and communicating are somewhat different. Most guys will want to give you your space, since we can't help you get your mind back, only talk you back from the edge.
2007-07-24 10:27:42 · answer #6 · answered by sunsetstreamsky 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because staying calm and quiet is often needed when dealing with the female gender.
2007-07-24 10:27:07 · answer #7 · answered by Chris H 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some sit there dreaming,some listen to you but are scared to interrupt(as in when you're angry).So,you can find out the answer to your question by asking him one.:)
2007-07-24 10:28:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
we pushed the buttons do you think were going to press the off button now.. just as the main show is starting?
2007-07-24 10:27:05 · answer #9 · answered by . 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
AHHH
i know!!
its like you want them to at least say somthing!
but same thing...
i think they enjoy seeing us loose our minds.
GR
2007-07-24 10:28:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋