Why do most stay at home parents on here write such ridiculous?

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things at parents who work?
Some woman on here wrote that because parents work-latchkey kids are blowing up nurseries and schools? Cmon!
I have never even heard that one? Does she realize how stupid that sounds?
It's not the first I seen-not the last...Some of us have no choice to but to work-single parents like myself-married-both working..some cannot afford not too. Some people don't plan these things-things come up-people lose jobs,things happen. Why such the insults? Is the two hours that I am not with my daughter after school really affect her that much where she becomes a bad person? Give me a break!!
Really-why the ignorance?

Hey mommyash-I WAS ON BIRTH CONTROL-I was with her father FOR FIVE YEARS and her took off..so kiss my butt.
My daughter is 11- I HAVE SEEN EVERY FIRST..first word, first walk, first fall, first booboo..so as I said before PURE IGNORANCE

Answer 1

I agree completely with you, I personally am a stay at home mom but I commend any mothers that work a full-time job at work and then come home and work another full-time job at home. I think its not only kids that come from both parent working families that get screwed up in the head, they are just as likely to come from families with a parent at home all the time. It is about the up bringing, not about a responsible kid being home alone for a hour.

Answer 2

I was a single mom for the first 12 yrs of my daughters life. I worked from home until she was almost 3 and then she was in day care for almost 40 hrs a week until school started. When she was 12 I got married and now have a 2 1/2 yr old son who I stay home with and I work from home.

I have done it both ways and I agree that some people can be ignorant but I have learned a lot in my journey of parenting alone and with a partner who is great.

Being home for the first 2 yrs and then again available when they are in the middle school yrs (after school) is very important to the child and the mother.

My son will be attending pre-school for socialization this fall, 2 or 3 mornings a week. That is very important with 13 yrs between him and his sister, it is like every one in his life is a grown up.

I have no problem with mothers choosing to work full time because of financial need but do think it is selfish to put a child in day care 40 plus hours a week just to compete with the Joneses. I also know far too many screwed up teenagers with 2 parents and that has nothing to do with their parents working it has all to do with what they were taught or ignored and that is individual to the parents skills not their work/day care situation.

Answer 3

I have been both - a working mom and a stay at home mom. And to be honest I would rather work. Some mothers have the patients to stay at home and some of us don't. I am one of those who don't have the patients to do it. The reason that they try to put down working moms is because they think they are doing the right things and that all mothers should do the same way they are. But I tell ya what, I worked at the same job for almost 5 yrs and I have 3 kids ages 7,5, and 16 months. I worked the whole life of all of my children and up until March of this year I was working 50+ hrs a week. I had to quit my job because it was causing stress in my home life - kids and hubby complaining that I was not at home enough. even though I worked all those hours, my oldest child passed the gifted test and will be starting the program this year, and my 5 year old will be taking the gifted test this year as well. My kids are well behaved and self sufficient. They always use thier manners and help others. My kids do volunteer work for the elderly and also help to give out Christmas gifts with our Community. They donated 2 toys each last year that they purchased with their own money that they earned. A lot of stay at home mothers can't say that their children are like that at those young ages. I am not knocking them, but they shouldn't knock the moms who get out there and work. It is the mom's choice to work or not, but no one should be judgemental about what your decision is.


p.s. I am not saying this about all stay at home moms - just some of them who have gotten on here and made statements like "the children of working moms are the ones that are blowing up the schools and terrorizing everyone."

Answer 4

Come on! We are all mothers here. Women. For god sake we are the people who are supposed to be more understanding.
Didnt we all go through the stress of 9 months of pregnancy and horrible labor? Dont we all know the pangs of a child being sick? Why turn on against each other like this?
Stay at home or Working.. Breastfeeding or Formula. How does it matter. We all make the decisions that we think works best for us.
Let us be good women and allow others the benefit of doubt. We all have the luxury (or sometimes dont) to choose. So lets make this a better place.
Stay at home moms think that they put so much into their kids and home, get sense of satisfaction out of it but feel that they are never valued becoz there is no $ figure on their work as well as when they watch the kids of working moms pampered with things and allowed to misbehave that they are making the world for their kids a bad, dangerous place.
Working moms feel that they have to do nearly everything else during the day and come home to take care of house and kid plus feel guilty. They feel that atleast they are giving their kids a sense of understanding that moms can work and be good mom and add ambition to their kids lives.
I say..Live and Let Live?

Answer 5

Some of the parents who have the luxury of staying at home with their children have no idea what you are going thru and how hard it is on you to be away from your child when both parents have to work to make ends meet. I know how hard it is to have to pack things up at night to take them to the baby sitters, having to bath them , feed them, put them to bed and showing love and affection as much as I can while I am home in the evenings.You come home from work already tired and still have dinner to fix, laundry to do , formula to make, bottles to sterilize, etc as well as spend quality time with your kids. Like you I worked 2 pm to 8pm and my husband worke 9 to 5 so there was a 3 hour period my children had to go to the sitters for a few hours until hubby got home and they aren't criminals , or feel deprived , because we went the extra mile on our days off to spend time with them and take them to the pool and vacations. They have no experience in this area so that is why you get so many ridiculus answers and comments by other who are home all the time, sometimes it is better to be away form your children for a few hours a day , it makes you a better parent I think and the kids get a break from you also which isn't all that bad either , because you enjoy the time you are all together more. I hope I have helped in some way to answer your questions, just don't beat your self up, they haven't walked a mile in your shoes or they would know better than to make comments .

Answer 6

I have been truly blessed by being able to be a stay at home mom. when my children were little i was there and now having been a single mother for some years , im fortunate to work in my home so I have the benefit of both.we are a combined family,sharing a home with my brother and his children. (7 kids all together)
dont put a lot of worry into what ignorant people say,the majority of working women are single parents and their only other choice is to what?starve?live on welfare? what would they have us do?
I ve actually have run into more people who look down on the stay at home mom.saying things like "Oh! so you dont work!" hell being a Mom is the toughest job I know so to the women that succesfully pull off being a parent and a carreer woman. GO GIRL!
most of the women i know are working mothers and do super jobs with their kids.
latch key doesnt have to mean unsupervised.unsupervised kids get into trouble.but in this age our kids are never more than a button or mouse click away.I know where they are at all times .and the times I have to be away are scheduled.it helps that we have both older and younger kids so they are paired up as buddies,taking care of each other.We work as a team,keeping each other informed and it works.we are a close family and we have good kids.
I dont forsee any of them blowing up a school anytime soon.LOL
the thing is mothers working or stay at home shouldnt be dissing on each other.we should be supporting and lifting each other up in prayer.after all we are raising the future of the whole world.Its tough to go it alone.
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Answer 7

I was working when I first had my daughter, then I left work to stay at home with her for a year, now I'm going back to work. So what I'm trying to say I've seen it from both sides. At the end of the day, if working isn't badly affecting your child then what's the problem. I think as long as you have your childs welfare as your first priority then it shouldn't matter whether you work or not. I've seen plenty of stay at home Moms who are completely selfish where there kids are concerned, and i@ve also seen great ones. I think it's really unfair to tar anyone with the same brush as others.

Answer 8

I agree with you and I am a stay at home mom but on the other hand, I have seen some pretty hateful things said about stay at home moms also, such as they are lazy, or we are nothing more than slaves. So the ignorance really does work both ways.

Answer 9

I agree that "at home" parents do tend to have a prejudice against working parents. My sister-in-law is an at home mom and she looks down on me for planning on going back to work after my baby is born. I don't have to go back, my husband makes enough money for me not to, but we would be struggling to make ends meet and I don't want all the stress of being the sole provider to be on my husband, he has enough to deal with already. My husbands parents both worked and he never blew up any schools or buildings. It's not in the child care that is provided or whether or not both parents work, its how the child is raised by the parents and the parents child rearing decisions that affect how the child behaves.

Answer 10

I used to be a working parent both my husband and I worked all day and hardly ever saw our kids. We would have to make a point to get together and actually schedule family time to spend time with our kids. It was hard to go to teacher conferences because our desks were overloaded with work. We finally came to realize that we were missing on quality time and on their childhood. So, we decided that it was best for me to stop working. Let me tell you, being a housewife is no easy task. It is like any other job but the only difference is that I get to be on top of my children's education and I am not stressed out. I can talk to them when they want to talk and spend time with them.