A guy I know just told me that he would take on the father role for my son, honestly at first I didn;t think much of it. He's sweet and I always had a crush on him (for 4 years), but because there is a 6 to 7 year age difference I didn't think he'd ever like me back. But alot of people say that's a big thing to do or say, (and I agree) for him not to like me, What could that mean? That he's just being a good friend, or something else.
We're Not Close, I just see him once a month
2007-07-24 03:02:14 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I agree that he definitely sounds interested in you... especially to offer to be a father to your son.
It's a VERY big gesture, and a lovely thing to do (if he is genuine).
You said you are not close so I would definitely suggest you got to know him a LOT better before you allowed him to become a father figure for your son. Keep in mind that your son would become very attached to him, and so he would have to be dedicated.
Do you think that he would still want to do this even if he knew there was NO hope with you?
I think you need to either...get to know him a LOT better and decide if you also like him back.... and secondly, make sure that he is not just making the gesture towards your son as a means to get to you (because your son will be hurt in the process).
Hope it all works out... as it could be the start of something wonderful for you and your son.
GOODLUCK
2007-07-24 03:11:17 · answer #1 · answered by familyties 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only he knows what he really means. Since you have had a crush on him I presume you hope that he wants to be more than a friend to you. That could be possible. It could also be that he will step in and act in a fatherly way to your son and just be a friend to you.
You really should ask him what he meant. You can ask him in a way that wouldn't reveal your crush by asking him in what ways does he want to take on the role of father. It would be hard to be a father once a month.
In any serious relationship it's best to make sure you can be friends with the other person. See if you're compatible as friends. Then if the attraction and chemistry is there maybe it will develop into more.
Good and True friends are hard to find. It is important that you think of your son's best interest above your own at this point. If it's meant to be it will happen. Just guard and protect your son. Children are very impressionable.
2007-07-24 10:09:54 · answer #2 · answered by Rita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could mean he does not have any kids of his own and in a way thinks this might a chance for him to fulfill a father figure role in his life.
I would be doubtful as if you only see him once a month what does he really know about your son and being a father for a child. To be a real father for a child it takes a lot more than once a month, or week, or going to Chucky Cheeses and having fun, it takes years of building trust and consistency of a relationship that will ultimately have a huge impact on your sons life.
To be honest I would focus on you first, and find a guy that loves you, a guy that because of the love for you, has much love for you son as well. That would be a better option.
2007-07-24 10:13:28 · answer #3 · answered by storyt11 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How much do you know about this guy and how well do you know him? How old is your son?
This sounds weird...do you think the guy may be a perv? Seriously...he hardly knows you, doesn't even know your son, then says he'll be the father figure but shows no interest in you?
I'd be careful...and would be around whenever they are together...if the guy reads stuff into that, that's his problem. If he has no issues with you being there all the time, that may be a good sign...but the minute he insists on being alone with your son or gets ticked that you want to be there too, is a danger sign...
Just be aware...
2007-07-24 10:10:05 · answer #4 · answered by hunnygril 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The last thing your son needs is a "father figure" walking in and out of his life.
You only see this guy once a month? A father figure is someone who is in a kids life and there as an example.
If the guy is not interested in forever then you need to move on.
2007-07-24 10:07:26 · answer #5 · answered by Collette L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the mother. He wants to be the father. Then that means he wants you to be a couple - - - the mother and the father of your son.
There are no ifs or buts about it. I think you know, and you are either being coy, or just looking for an affirmation of what ou already think you know.
Don't make it difficult for the two of you.
2007-07-24 10:10:12 · answer #6 · answered by boyplakwatsa.com 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he can hardly take on the father role for your child if he only sees you once a month but it sounds like he likes you.
2007-07-24 10:06:06 · answer #7 · answered by Patty M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it could mean that he is interested in being a positive role model for your son. I would encourage it if you are comfortable with it, but don't be afraid to ask him if this is something he is doing because he is interested in you.
2007-07-24 10:07:03 · answer #8 · answered by vaughnc5920 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he looks at you and see's a future. He may be thinking about settling down with someone and starting a family and you are what he is interested in. He probably looks at you and thinks you are a great mother and envy's that love and bond that you have with your son. Good luck!
2007-07-24 10:07:00 · answer #9 · answered by .:*:.mommy 2 joe-joe.:*:. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a big thing. Either he really has a bond with your kid, or really has one with you. Whether its a friend bond or more you can only find out by asking, or waiting if your too shy, which could take forever.
2007-07-24 10:06:08 · answer #10 · answered by T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋