What is a good alternative to not having a first dance at your wedding?

Question

thanks for all the great answers!

Answer 1

Have a "snowball dance" Ask everyone who is married to come to the dance floor. Music starts, dancing (maby 20 seconds), ask everyone who has been married less than one day to sit down. Dancing, ask everyone whos been married less than 1 year to sit, etc. 5 years, 10 years, 15 years.... until there is only one or two couples left on the floor. Have them give you advise on staying together so long.

Answer 2

There really is no alternative. You either dance or you don't. If you don't, I suppose you can steal the microphone for a moment to welcome your guests and thank them for coming, but it's still really is no substitute for a first dance.

I know the wedding is all about the couple and what they want their special day to be like, but it's also about your families. The first dance is a tradition so that everyone can oooh and ahhh now that you're actually married. Before you decide to ditch it completely, talk to your family. Your parents (or his) may be very disappointed to find they'll be missing out on this special moment. Consider doing a half dance, something short and sweet or having the DJ invite your guests to join you a minute or so into the dance.

Answer 3

No body imbibed at the last wedding I went to. The money dance was about dancing with the bride not drinking with her. A guest danced a little while with the bride after handing her some cash. The DJ gave the high sign and another guest approached with tapped the first guest on the shoulder to cut in, handed the bride some cash and danced until the DJ gave the high sign to the next guest in line and on and on it went until all the guests were broke.( Just kidding) The ladies did the same with the groom and the lovely couple had some extra cash to blow on their honeymoon. Maybe the booze thing is to loosen up the purse strings. Probably nobody knows the real reason or excuse.

Answer 4

We aren't dancing and we don't have an alternative to it either. You don't need to replace the dance with something else! I'm always bored at weddings watching the bride and groom and bridal party do all the dances... especially because no one knows how to dance. It's always the little hugging slow foot shuffle!

Answer 5

Our DJ asked if we wanted the dance alone or to invite people to join us after the first minute or so.

I am assuming you or the groom may not dance. If so have everyone join you in the first dance right away if you are self conscience, hold a pose for the photographer, and have everyone join in.

Answer 6

You only get married once, so why would you not want to dance???
Tradition is a dance, so that you can show your family and friends how well you guys look together, in other words how you two work with each other.

But as an alternative, I guess depends on what you guys do as a couple best.

Answer 7

Just have the whole wedding party dance the first dance, then have the second one be for family members to join in - then have it open.

Answer 8

Maybe you could just say a few nice words about both of your parents. How they've supported you, got you to this point, all that you appreciate them for, etc...And then maybe give them a special gift or something. Just a thought. Personally I think you should JUST DANCE!!

Answer 9

Maybe you could use the time to introduce friends and family members. This is very helpful to distant relatives who didn't attend showers, rehearsal dinners, etc.

Also, you could do the story of how you first met and when you knew it was love.

Answer 10

quality time in the limo