My g/f has been going thru depression. Lately she has been having some suicidal thoughts. When I got back from a weekend business trip she has a Large bandaid over her wrist. After a 21 question session, she finally admits that she tried cutting herself. Last week she burned herself with a cig...intentionally. She is supposed to see a shrink..but not soon enough! she doesnt want me to worry about her, but what else am I supposed to do? I am furious...how else am I supposed to feel? Can someone give me some USEFUL helpful advice?
2007-07-24 01:09:51 · 6 answers · asked by suprwmn45 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Dear Sir,
Ask yourself why you're angry with your girlfriend because she is in pain, and having problems?
Anger isn't the answer... she needs some care and love....
You could also consider educating yourself by doing a web serch on SELF-INJURY and/or SELF-HARM.
Millions of people all over the world self-harm every day. They aren't doing it to make others angry, they are doing it because they have problems... and it's an outlet for their own release.
Many times, self-harm is the result of childhood sexual abuse, or other abuse.
Please take the time to do a little research on this subject, for your girlfriend, as well as YOU.
sending hugs to you and your girlfriend. it's a wonderful thing she intends to seek help...
2007-07-24 01:43:57 · answer #1 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if you love her, tell her that you worry about her cause you love her. Don't piss her off at all. Talk to her a little more often. Try to comfort her without smothering her. Do not keep asking her questions. She'll probably keep lying to you until you bug the f*** out of her. Just tell her that you probably don't know what she is going thru right now. Do not let her get pressured on too much. A little pressure is okay, but not too much.
2007-07-24 01:24:06 · answer #2 · answered by Tay :) 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is cutting I don't understand why she doesn't have an appointment immediately. You need to try to be available to her. To talk, spend time, whatever. But, remember, you can not babysit her 24/7 so if something does happen, it is not your fault. You may ask her if she is comfortable with you sitting in on her therapy to educate yourself better. If not right now , maybe in the future. Be kind and pacient.
2007-07-24 01:17:41 · answer #3 · answered by aj's girl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Other than going with her to get her help, all I can say is be there for her. Don't be mad at her for her not wanting to worry.
She is probably in her mind making herself unimportant and she might feel like she is not worth worrying over.
Calm down, being mad/furious at her is not going to help, it might make it worse. Sit her down and work out a way to get help together.
2007-07-24 01:14:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend seems to be self-mutilating. There is absolutely nothing you can do to help her. She needs professional help and fast.
2007-07-24 01:18:14 · answer #5 · answered by Aurelia B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
shes just crying out for attention......people who kill themselves, never hint at it.........they just do it.........she definitely needs therapy........she got alot of mental issues, you might want to cut the cord from her before you get sucked into some major bs..............
2007-07-24 01:22:43 · answer #6 · answered by funnybunny 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋