I'm a 20 yo guy. I'd really like to be with a "hot" girl. I never have been, you know, hot like in tv or movies.What guy doesn't? But....I know I'm not nearly as attractive as those girls are. Plus tv models are too perfect to even be real. I know all this in my mind, but I'm still attracted to them.
What should I do? I'm always going to be thinking "what if" right?
Am I really shallow? I dont want to be. Really. Help
2007-07-24 01:00:01 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not shallow, i mean it is normal for both sexes to gawk at amazingly good looking people.
It okay, its just maybe, when you are ready to settle down, you should look for people with substance. I mean do you really want just some arm candy, or a person who you can really communicate to? i mean sure you can get the full package, but everyone has their flaws. and are you sure you wanna sit and home and worry, whenever your hot gf goes out that some other guy is going to perve on her?
But mate, chill you are just in your 20s :) Have some fun, date a few hotties.
The thing is, beauty goes with age :) and well if you have a dumb beauty, when shes all wrinkly and old all you will have are the memories and well... a boring old fart sleeping next to you.
Have a great day.
2007-07-24 01:08:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you want to be with a person that is "hot" you must follow suit. Just remember that the first impression is the most important. In other words front yourself as someone you are not. But in the end this will end up not being a real relationship. So all in all you should just be flat out honest and basically buy the booty. But while your investing all this effort in getting with a person that is only outwardly attractive you will be changing your personality and becoming a shallow person yourself. If you only want the sensation of having arm candy you might as well get it over with at your age. But in the end the concept of having a hot girl is really finding a "High Maintenance" woman. You will eventually find that it is not a relationship but only you trying to please her. Sad but true. Yea models and celebrities are presented as perfection but they are people too and can suffer many faults and if they do they are more obvious. So why try and get into that class of people? If you are attracted to them you are perfectly normal that is why they are popular or were selected for the celebrity status. They are eye candy. You know I found out that in a hard way myself that the best person for me is a best friend of the opposite sex. Hope you are able to get the "hot" girl desires out of your system without losing yourself in the whole process and not getting hurt.
2007-07-24 01:15:04 · answer #2 · answered by neiltoe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try dating a few hot girls, and you will probably get over it when you find out what they are really like. No point in pretending that looks don't matter, but personality will matter to you more as you get older and get more experience. Besides, you should remember that the hot girls get fat, old, and less attractive fast.
Try sitting down sometime with a sheet of paper and write down ten or so traits that you believe that you ideal woman should have, and ten or so that she should not have. If the list is too long, then you are too picky; if it is too short, you need to think about it more. If it is all physical traits (be honest), then you are not experienced enough to know what really makes you happy. Try talking to different girls as friends and see what annoys you, and what you think is charming.
Try going to doubleyourdating dot com and sign up for the free dating advice e-newsletter if you want to improve your dating skills so that you can attract better quality women.
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This many sound odd, but hot women are less attractive to you if you start to think of them as ordinary human beings with faults and insecurities just like everyone else, instead of simply thinking of them as a hot body. Next time you are around a hot woman, make it a point to notice her faults too, and see what happens.
2007-07-24 01:39:19 · answer #3 · answered by Randy G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
settle, it's simple lower your expectations a bit although not to low if you don't you will never be satisfied with a girl. No one is perfect every girl even the hot model like one's have flaws, oh and no I don't think your shallow every guy wants what they can't get... It's the guys that learn to look for the girl that has more than just looks and a hot body, that are truely happy... if you can't get a girl like that than you should obviously lower your expectations just a little. Sorry if that sounds a little harsh but it's the best advice I could possibly give you
2007-07-24 01:03:35 · answer #4 · answered by beautiful tragedy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
At Twenty you should engross your energy into what will make u a success in life. You are already becoming shallow by publishing such a question. Find out your passion, checkout its profitability, do a mix after training and become a celebrity. The so called hotgirls will be at your beck and call. You know that guy Scorsece, he can have any girl he wants. Why? bcos he is a success. Wake up bro.
Nuch
2007-07-24 01:15:18 · answer #5 · answered by Nuch the Wise 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a buddy that looks at Playboy all the time and thinks he is going to meet a girl like that. Keep dreaming is what I tell him...you have to be realistic about the women that you date. Even at this day and age the skinny girls purge to keep that pretty figure. Just ask a girl out and if she says yes then move on to another then another. It becomes easier the more you attempt to get a date. Sure you will have failure and that is how you learn. Don't let the guys tell you BS about the girls they date putting out. It don't happen in high school maybe college if you have a good rap.
2016-05-17 06:39:20 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"HOT' that you meant doesnt showed the way media shows. It is totally hidden in ones personality even someone that you think cold in the surface.
If you are be more sporty, it might help to direct you there.
Hot that we talk about is a kind of a high energy level. Not only physical looking
2007-07-24 01:07:39 · answer #7 · answered by tresyabedkowska 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
10% of guys are really good looking
90% of girls are really good looking
That's just the way our species works. But looks aren't everything. I'm sure you're better looking than you think - most people are. Work on your personality and act as if you were really good looking.
Just remember... Confidence Confidence Confidence!
2007-07-24 01:23:16 · answer #8 · answered by keith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watch "Shallow Hal" several times.
2007-07-24 01:04:49 · answer #9 · answered by Nora Explora 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-07-24 01:02:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋