there was this guy who i had a crush on a while ago, and he liked me back. we talked alot, and we were even on the same soccer team last month. he always complimented me, and we had our funny moments, and stuff like that. but then when he told me he was moving away one day, i don't know why but i just got really pissed at him. i couldn't ignore him in school because his seat was assigned next to mine. so he kept talking to me, and i was like buzz off. "just shut up ok? hurry up and leave. stop talking to me". so for the rest of the class he was just really silent and looked like he was on the verge of tears. at the time though, i didn't really care. after school he was by my locker. so i pushed him out of the way. then the next day my best friend gave me a note from him, and it said, "i'll meet you again someday".
i don't know what's came over me that day.
i'm thinking about sending him an e-mail saying that i didn't mean what i said, but he might just ignore me. what should i do?
2007-07-24 00:56:32 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like your heartbroken. (possibly your first love?) You must be kinda young and are not sure of how to handle the loss of a loved one yet. (for most people it's instinct to get defensive or to protect yourself from the hurt you feel, that's why you were mean and pushed him away. You didn't want to hurt but you hurt him in the process and now that he's gone you realize it.) Well, in my opinion,I must say that you did go about handling what he said to you all wrong, but can't change the past and now you have to try to make the future better. You should email him right away! Tell him that you were so hurt inside that your instincts kicked in and that you were terribly wrong. I believe that he must care for you a great deal also. He wouldn't have been almost in tears if you didn't mean a great deal to him. Also, giving your best friend the note tells me that he respects you enough to give you the space you requested of him but to also let you know that he has been and will be thinking about you and that he wants you in his life, if he can't have you in his life now then someday. If you are ever in a situation like this again, try to put your hurt aside and spend as much time with that person as you can. Today only comes once, make the best of it. You're not a bad person everyone learns from their mistakes, go make your mistake better. Good luck!
2007-07-24 01:39:20 · answer #1 · answered by kellylee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, Do what you have to do. Even if you do have some type of feelings for him its better to at least keep the friendship. You guys don't sound old enough to make your own decisions about where you have to go, If his parents are moving him away, there's really not much he can do. Just write to him and apologize for what you said to him, maby later in life you will see each other and everything will work out for the best. Don't loose a friend for something that he cant control.
2007-07-24 08:10:27 · answer #2 · answered by imari104012000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should definitely email him or send him a letter. if you guys did really like each other then you should explain to him how you were feeling before he left. he probably should have given you more of a warning but then again he didnt deserve to be ignored like that. you should clear things up between you guys, so if and when you ever meet again then it wont be so awkward.
2007-07-24 08:11:43 · answer #3 · answered by k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do that. write him an email apologizing for your actions; say that you were disappointed by the news and you acted out of sorts and inappropriately. i'm thinking if he gave you a note that said something like "i'll meet you again someday," he is probably not holding any sort of grudge against you and would like to reestablish your friendship.
good luck.
2007-07-24 07:59:59 · answer #4 · answered by taryn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, he may ignore you at first. (Can you blame him?) But keep trying to get through to him and let him know how sorry you are. He will forgive you, I'm sure of it. He sounds like a great guy. Tell him you are not letting him get away that easy!
2007-07-24 08:14:24 · answer #5 · answered by Snow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hurry up, send him the e-mail.
You'll never know if you don't do it.
Based on your comment, he seems to be a very sensitive person, so I'm sure he will understand and reply it.
If he doesn't at least you tried!
2007-07-24 08:04:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
STUPID!!! you know that, that boy loves you you better email him as fast as you can and next time someone says their moving away just say (i'm going to miss you) ok now go write that email gooood lucckk
2007-07-24 08:03:59 · answer #7 · answered by Kenneth C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Totally agree with Taryn.
2007-07-24 08:02:15 · answer #8 · answered by gloria b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send the email, and this time be honest with him and yourself about your feelings about his moving away.
2007-07-24 08:01:18 · answer #9 · answered by claudiacake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did him a favor by pushing him aside, by the sound of your behavior you have some serious growing up to do...
2007-07-24 08:00:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋