ohkaty,
about 6 months ago my parents saw that i had a hickey.
i didnt have sex oor anything.now i feel like they wont ever trust me again. im still with the same guy weve been together for almost a year. (im 13 by the way) and i just want to know how to gain their trust back. it seems like everytime i try to talk to my mom about it she just ignores me completely and tells me to leave her alone. im so confused on how to make them trust me again.and it sucks.
2007-07-23 23:01:57 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i was 12 A
2007-07-23 23:09:16 · update #1
i was 12 At the time, and i didnt really know what a hickey meant.i didnt think it was a big deal.
and i had no intention of having sex with him,and i never will. i go to church and i think i know its wrong.so im not gonna do it.
2007-07-23 23:10:30 · update #2
Tell her that you have to talk about it, and that she has to understand that your not being stupid with the boy and that you genuinley like him. tell her that she has to understand that you are growing up. to be honest i can see why she might be a bit freaked out because 13 is a bit young to be getting hickeys, but for all i know you could be really mature, your mum probably isnt responding to you bacause she knows her baby girl is growing up and it frightens her, just give her time to ajust and maybe tell her that youll still be her kid.
2007-07-23 23:08:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Omg lol the same happend to me last year but i was 12 turning 13 wen it happened. I tryed hiding it but 4got after i got off the fone but anyways....my mu kinda easy 2 get to trust me i just explained that ididnt have sex and we were just having fun and it wouldnt happen any more... that by the way wasafter the 2nd tie tryin 2 cover up by playin dumb. I wouldnt knwo how 2 go about it with ur parent cos every1s parents are dif and urs jut mite b realli protective....my mum had met by bf 2 so that mite have helped
2007-07-24 06:15:42 · answer #2 · answered by mrz.charmed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, on the one hand you are 13 and they are worried...I wouldn't blame them either! I don't mean to sound judgmental here..but when I was younger I would say things and not follow thru on them(I am still like this..and LOL, it kind of gets ME into some trouble STILL!!) but, that is one thing that you might want to really REconsider...if you saying that you are NOT going to sleep with the guy..but then you are still messing with him...maybe your parents are really NOT ready for you to be dating..and they not only distrust you..but they also distrust the guy...because just between you and I and the rest of the world...guys can be sly..and I do mean sly! (and guys if your are reading this..girls as just AS sneaky as well....) so what I am saying here..is you are going to be going thru tough times...hormones are raging..and it wouldn't matter if you told your parents that you won't sleep with the guy..the facts are that there is a hormonal "surge" happening now...and your parents are scared that one day you might walk up to them and say "I am pregnant!" they do NOT want to know or hear about it...I think that you have to sit down with them and have a serious talk about what IS happening..again...with your parents...and see what their response really means...and what they are worried about and or are thinking about..and why they are appearing sooo indifferent towards you....
THIS IS IMPORTANT>..they love you...you are THEIR child...
YOu came into this world as an "innocent" and now you are learning newer things..and it probably worries them..because they don't have control over your body..and what you think...but, they are neverthless still worried...because you are underage..and they are the ones who brought you here...because they wanted to have you!!
I have been there. and I also have gotten pregnant...when I was older..but, my mother didnt' want to deal with it..but, I thankfully had a boyfriend who helped me somewhat at that time in my life...WHat if you "think" that this boyfriend would never pressure you, or get you pregnant?
How do you know that you can overpower him, and NOT get pregnant?
Things can change on you..things can happen...this is what your parent's are worried about..
I know it is only a hickey and personally, that is NOT a huge deal in sooo many ways..but, they could also be worried about YOU...and your reputation too!
You think about this...okay?
Just some thoughts!
2007-07-25 05:04:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anne99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can feel what phase of life are you going trough .In this u are not the only person having this problem .So just leave it behind ,and for some days show your parents that you are feeling so bad what had happened ,and say that its a mistake from your side and also mistake of thoughts by your parents alsi. SO GET TUNED IT DUDES , THIS IS THE AGE EVERYBODY WILL LIKE TO DO THE SAME
2007-07-24 06:10:07 · answer #4 · answered by preet p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u r sure that u didn't do anything wrong, please keep ur self more stronger, reduce friendly, spend time to do any work rather than joking or playing game to show that u r really no have tention on sex like they thought. Stop explain to them for a while to avoid confusion on u bcs whenever u still want to explain to them, they still think that u just want to get accuse from them. I'm on ur side! Do it!
2007-07-24 06:11:48 · answer #5 · answered by Pick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are concerned that you look as if you are a slut. Those hickeys look horrible and cheap on a girl. It appears as if she has been in the heat of passion having sex. You are only 13. I don't blame them . Tell you bf to quit putting ugly marks on your body. You will get enough ugly marks naturally when you get old.
2007-07-24 06:06:34 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll have to be the adult here, sit your parents down and have a calm and rational discussion about what happened. Explain to them that you haven't actually had sex, and how much he means to you. Apologise to them and promise them it won't happen again. Parents will treat their children like children, until they start to act like an adult. You're 13, you've got your childhood left, they're probably worried you're going to miss out on alot if you keep doing things with your boyfriend, after all one thing does lead to another. They're scared for you.
2007-07-24 06:05:23 · answer #7 · answered by Nicole W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to get trust back from anyone is to show them you aren't doing anything wrong and in time they will trust you. Just don't bring it up anymore that might make it worse.
2007-07-24 06:05:25 · answer #8 · answered by Jenniferann88 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
make them proud studies or something like sports and all that ur gonna have a tuff time dude. just say sorry and show them any good results tell them u ve changed
good luck!(i am 14)
2007-07-24 06:06:29 · answer #9 · answered by harsh j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do stuff for your parents,
Help out in the house,
Ask them if they need help with anything they are doing,
Gradually, they will be more trustful in you,
Good luck
2007-07-24 06:04:25 · answer #10 · answered by snoooopdogg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋