Me and my guy had a dissagrement, and I know sometimes my reaction can be a little over the top. But he says he wants to work it out, but he says things that really hurt my feelings, like calling me crazy, or he says he must be crazy to deal with this, told me i needed a couple of days to myself. what kind of way is that to move on in a relationship and make it work i dont see how dwelling on any of that stuff will help us????? I want him to stop that or we can not be together plain and simple
2007-07-23 22:38:55 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think you two need time away from each other. but if you keep on having disagreements then you should separate from him and move on to find someone new.
2007-07-23 22:42:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need time to yourself, because you're overreacting alot, and he can't put up with your drama!! So if you really want to fix this relationship- then go to counseling, learn on how to politely say what's on your mind. Ask him to go along with you, and if he says no- then you're doing yourself some good. Most women go to counseling in hopes that their mate will join them, and most men won't join us because they are afraid, however while us women are in counseling we learn a whole lot more about ourselves, and we change and we don't wound up staying with the same man, which usually upsets them.
So again, learn to cool the drama in your voice, in your thoughts, and go to counseling!! otherwise, he's just going to smack you to get you to shut up!!!
2007-07-23 22:45:13 · answer #2 · answered by babysteppin2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When one gets angry the other has to go calm.
If you guy calls you name when he calms down then tell him that what he said is unaccpetable and will not be tolerated by you any further,tell him to work his arrears or face the consequence if he gives you no other choice.
2007-07-23 23:24:27 · answer #3 · answered by Dipi s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is asking for a couple days give him his space. If you keep trying to control him he will be gone for good. If you cant handle that then you two are not meant to be together.
2007-07-23 22:41:45 · answer #4 · answered by sweetangelgreeneyes 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to talk to him about how bad calling you crazy hurt you. He needs to understand this isn't a joke to you - that it is a serious deal - in fact a deal breaker. By the same token, you shouldn't call him names that cause him harm.
both of you need to learn how to fight fair. let me see if i can get a good reference.
this looks like a good place to start.
http://www.positive-way.com/howto2.htm
2007-07-23 22:42:55 · answer #5 · answered by nickipettis 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Omg my bf does the same! It sooo horrible he says im "****** in the head" etc, etc...
Not nice.. Tell him it hurts you man!
2007-07-23 22:40:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think your both crazy...and mildly retarded....
2007-07-23 22:41:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
so talk to him
2007-07-23 22:48:16 · answer #8 · answered by pOOhPhAT 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋