in my 1st trimester of pregnancy, it started because i was watching tv in my room and all the sudden he closed my door so I was wondering why he did that so I opened the door and he stated flipping the channels very nerviously,so i know he watches pornography and quite frankly i am sick of it, so I took the remote and search for the last channel sure enough, but wait he never says yeah I did do it,It would be fine if he admits.So instead he started calling me names and saying how I planned things to get him and blah blah, on top of that his x is trying to take his children, so he starts saying I am like his x evil and mean, I have put up with him for 9years and he has hit me before but not since like 2004? so I tried packing to leave because i am tired of this,I tried to get my son he takes him from me i get mad and hit him 1 time with the remote control thinking he would let go of my son he hits on my face he bites me he starts shocking me and hit me on my nose I fell on my belly what
2007-07-23 20:12:57 · 12 answers · asked by sweet stuff 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
now he took my car keys he won't let me go,I have abdominal pain, and this time I do want to leave for good i just don't know how he did all these thrue my 1st pregnancy as well I just don't have no where to go and no money I got fired 2 weeks ago for the same reason cause I am pregnant, my son is suffering I know because he saw when he was beating me.he is scare but he took him and now I am here waiting for him togo to work in about 3hours.Yeah I have family but they don't even talk to me unless is about money or they need something from me otherwise I don't exist to them.I kow I am STUPID
2007-07-23 20:19:58 · update #1
Leave straight away. If he is trying to stop you from leaving then call the cops. They can probably help you find somewhere for you and your son to stay until you get on your feet. Don't stay, don't put it off, if he's done it before (and before that) there's nothing to say he won't do it again. If you're pregnant you need to go to the hospital to make sure you're ok, but don't go back for the sake of your son and your health. Good luck.
2007-07-23 20:47:40 · answer #1 · answered by ♥♥Mum to Superkids Baby on board♥♥ 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have been in your situation, just not pregnant. If you feel it's too dangerous to call the police right now. Wait til he leaves, then call them. You can have a restraining order against him. They don't always work, though. So if you feel more comfortable, get the police to take you to a women's battered shelter. They will help you. You and your son will have a safe place to stay, they should take pictures, get employment, feed you, etc. You need to go to the hospital, also. Still file the restraining order. Do NOT contact him. You will be putting yourself, your son, and the other women all in danger, if you do. Please do this as soon as possible. Take with you only necessary items. You can always buy things back later or win your belongings back in court. Materialistic things are not worth your unborn child's, your son's or your life. There is help out there. Please do not let fear rule you. Instead, let fear guide you out. If you start to change your mind think of your children.
2007-07-23 20:49:05 · answer #2 · answered by Suzie Q 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He has taken your keys, but he hasn't taken the phone. sneak into the bathroom with it and call the police, press charges and get out of there.
If you want to leave badly enough, you WILL do it!
One of my friends was in an abusive marriage. She stuck it out for five years before telling anyone, and with the support of a few friends, she waited until her husband went to work, took her son (19 months old) and left.
She went to the police, who took her to a womens hostel in another area.
Please DO NOT STAY WITH HIM!!!!!!!!!!
As soon as he goes out to work, the shops whatever, grab the bare minimum that you need to survive and get yourself to a police station.
2007-07-23 20:49:11 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As soon as possible call the National Domestic Violence Hotline. 1-800-799-7233. They can tell you what to do and where to go. Get out before the violence escalates. Don't forget to take important papers like birth certificates and bank acct. info with you. Also alert his ex as to what is going on. She needs to get her kids away too.
2007-07-23 21:04:42 · answer #4 · answered by EC Expert 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Please read EC's answer again and call the phone number in her answer!! Please, please do it. I have been in your position and can tell you from experience that these men DO NOT CHANGE. Protect yourself and your children and get out of this situation. Call as soon as you can do so safely and ask for help. You have to get out!
You are not stupid, you just got into a very bad situation.
2007-07-24 01:36:13 · answer #5 · answered by leslie b 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is spousal abuse and you would be very smart to just get read of him immediately before he gets any whorse towards you gal dump his dubm *** right where he sets and leave himpermanently
2007-07-23 20:27:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get out now. Don't even think about staying. It will only get worse. Get out. Go. NOW!
2007-07-23 20:18:17 · answer #7 · answered by Rough Diamond 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
there are shelters you can go to. Call the police and they will come and help you
2007-07-23 21:26:47 · answer #8 · answered by Rachel 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do have someplace to go. Go to the local hospital. Tell them you are being abused and that you need to talk to a social worker. You're NOT STUPID!!! But you and your son and your baby do need help. Go directly to your local ER with your son. Call an ambulance if you need to. Get treated medically and ask for the social worker. Please please please please please
2007-07-23 20:57:06 · answer #9 · answered by jtothep716 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
CALL THE COPS AND GET OUT TAKE PICS OF THE INJURIES AND LEAE FOR YOUR KIDS SAKE
2007-07-23 20:17:23 · answer #10 · answered by Wolf 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋