I think my sister has been brainwashed. She moved in with this guy and I told her I didn't think it was right, but it was her life. Anyway, she's gradually lost contact with everyone in the family. She's promised see us several times and not shown. She's given us false addresses and refused to answer calls from us. She is 21 years old and an adult, but I can't help feeling she's making some bad choices. We saw her at the HPDH book party at Borders and I thought there weren't any problems. I didn't talk to her much, but we haven't really spoken much since we fought. Today, she sent the entire family an email, disowning us and her MIL sent us an email cursing us, calling my mother a fat, old, b*** and calling us a cult and bible thumpers and saying they were now my sister's family. She went on, with more insults and cursing. This isn't the first time one of her in-laws has cussed us out. Should we ignore the MIL email? It kinda scares me.
2007-07-23 19:26:01 · 4 answers · asked by svs_g 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Print both e-mails along with the tracking information (IP addresses it was sent from) and the dates just in case you ever need it just because these people sound a bit unbalanced.
Other than that I would ignore the MIL's e-mail completely. What do you care what this crazy lady thinks of you? But I'd respond to your sister's e-mail as kindly as you can telling her that you're sorry she feels that way and you'll always be there if she ever needs you. And then leave it alone.
You won't ever win if you get into a fight to be right in this kind of situation. But you might win your sister back if you can let her go knowing that she can come home again when she's ready.
2007-07-24 07:08:49 · answer #1 · answered by Critter 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow hats really serious. but regardless of how many times you fight she will always be your sister what i think you should do is definitly print out the email make several copies and put them in a safe place for future need....charges to be filed....but respond to the email with love and compassion explaining you will always love her reardless of how she feels now dont blame anyone for anything just be very very sympathetic. that way if it wasnt her writting it the person who did write it will give upand if someone made her write it she;; know you know you all love each other and when she decides to leave this retard she knows shell be welcome home. more than likely theres abuse in this relationship. so always be ready for that call at 2 am to pick her up some where when she decides to finally run. good luck and never give up on her...
2007-07-23 19:33:18 · answer #2 · answered by missylukeandlissy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sure your sister with her Mother-in law made a misunderstand from you including the entire family because you said "i didn't talk to her much" , from you your sister and her Mother-in-law thought you with the family don't pay attentions to her or don't take care of her , so they were very angry with the family. and so that sent the entire family abusive email.
I would offer you a suggestion now, following is:
You ought to send your sister and her Mother-in-law an email to show you family each day wish her is happy with her Mother-in-law at that family! and anytime she will be welcome to return back to the family and the family would do any things for her ! such as etc... to her.
Please believe me when they read your email then they would say forgive me my dear to you and hope the family can accept them again !!
Wish my best wishes for the family and your sister with her Mother-in-law
2007-07-23 22:19:11 · answer #3 · answered by serceyasmith123 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please ignore
2007-07-23 19:34:13 · answer #4 · answered by Rana 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋