sex question?

Question

alrighty.....i know undoubtably that i am ready for sex-i've bought condoms and have considered all of the negatives associated with sex (STD, pregnancy, etc.)

so here lies the problem-abt 3 or 4 mos. ago-my g/f asked if she was ready for sex (in the question she said she was) but sum1 scared her w/ all of the negative-something like..."stds,pregnancy...did u forget those??"

both my g/f and i have talked about sex...she said she'd like to wait-but her question confused me

i am NOT looking to pressure her into sex...but we are both 16 (the age of consent in Ohio)...and we were both (@ 1 point)ready for sex)

i want an honest opinion:
(1)will sex change our relationship (mind you that we've been dating 1 year, have talked openly about sex MANNNNYYY times, and have even gone as far as seeing each other naked)

and two......my g/f teases me alot-like-ill be taking a shower and she'll look at me and say she wants to get in-but then she never does.....is that normal?

Answer 1

You're 16, and the wrong head is talking!!! You shouldn't even have to be asking these questions! She's obviously not ready! Just because the state says you can legally say, yes at that age doesn't mean, you still can't be raped! You better keep that in mind! You don't want to be pressuring her and it end up coming back as rape on your part! Your relationship's probably already changed, with her feeling pressured! Yes, I believe it will change for the worst, if you do have sex. If you love her, which after a year, you'd think you would, let it go!!!!

Answer 2

Yes... it's very normal at that age. It's exciting and very scary at the same time and she's probably testing her own boundaries more than she's testing yours.

It's great that you're thinking about protection and birth control for the both of you - that has to be number one at your ages. Just keep those on hand, and if you're both ready, when you're both ready, it'll happen, and I'm sure it will be wonderful.

She should be scared and concerned about STDs and pregnancy - those are valid questions and concerns for not enough young people.

If you're a bit more eager, then just have patience with her, and let her know that you want to be with her whether sex is involved or not.

Will it change your relationship? Maybe. It could bring you much closer, or it could tear you apart. You never really know how it will affect people after they've had sex for the first time.

Good luck and stay safe!

Answer 3

well yeah.
sex does tend to change the relationship.
but really if you've been together for a long time and built a relationship NOT AROUND sex, it should be fine and not change too much.
girls like to tease, thats one thing we're really good at..
esp if we know that our guy DOES want sex.
its normal, but you should probably let her know it bugs you a little and tell her to stop teasing and actually come through with something.
it's not pressuring her if you say it about the teasing thing.
and yeah the whole STDs, pregnancy thing.. its pretty avoidable if you're safe.. condoms. and maybe suggest to her to go to her doctor and get on birth control if shes really concerned about the the pregnancy thing and get checked regularly at a gynocologist if shes stressed about stds.

Answer 4

You probably don't want to hear this, but sex with your girlfriend will not improve your relationship. Long term it will probably destroy it. You probably don't want to hear this either, but sex should be avoided till your married. Listen to all those rock songs you hear on the radio and on television. Do they sound happy? Our world today is full of bad advice. The Music, the Internet, the TV all tell you to indulge yourself. But there is a better way. I waited, and I'm glad I waited. I don't know anyone who is glad they had sex at 16. Every time you have sex you weaken the bond with your future wife. Why do so many people get married? Because they want to share their life with someone. Why do so many people divorce? Because of past sexual experiences. It's like a piece of tape. Stick it down, then pull it off, it's got stuff on it. Eventually it doesn't stick, even when you want it to. The thing that no one is going to tell you is, the more you indulge yourself, the more miserable you become. Like rock stars that live in a dream house full of babes, millions in the bank, huge stashes of drugs— and they blow their brains out. Restraint is the Savor of Life.

Answer 5

ALWAYS USE PROTECTION!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It will change your relationship a lot it will either bring you closer (in which it was intended for) or tear you apart. Don't force her, and let her decide when it is the right time. It will be more enjoyable for the both of you when you both want it. For a woman, losing her virginity is HUGE and it's something she can never get back, so her decision will have an impact on how she views herself sexually for the rest of her life. Besides, isn't 16 a little young to have sex?

Answer 6

1 of course the relationship will change --- how much and in what direction no one can say

2 yes it is normal

and your girlfriend needs to get educated about the real risks in having sex and they are not as dire as she seems to believe --- millions of people have sex every day and they dont all get pregnant or catch a disease unless they dont practice safe sex --- saying that i suspect you are both a little young to be having sex --- purely on emotional maturity grounds --- you may feel ready --- having sex is a huge change in your relationship and you will find it changes how you view so many things and you may not be able to handle the changes --- ive been known to be wrong (on many occassions) so look deep into each other's soul and make the decision --- best wishes

Answer 7

my bf and i have had sex and it didn't change our relationship one bit. i was not ready when my boyfriend was i was scared about the negatives but he kept waiting and telling me that he promised never to hurt me and that he would wait until i was ready. and he did then i finally was ready and it hasn't changed a thing at all. we are the same or better. and about her teasing you she is just flirting with you cause she cares is my guess.

Answer 8

well it sounds like she isn't ready yet. she keeps making up excuses and saying misleading things and going no no im joking im joking. And yes things do change after sex, it's one of the biggest steps in a long term relationship. Just wait until your girl is absolutely sure, because from her, she sure doesn't sound like she is.

Answer 9

1) yes, it will. There's no way it can't.
2) she may just be teasing you, or she may want to get in but she's reluctant

Answer 10

Sex is a beautiful thing that is shared and is HOPEFULLY a reinforcement to a strong relationship.