Why or why not? I am a Christian and so is my boyfriend but we are having an argument about this. He claims the bible doesn't actually state "no sex before marriage". Is "sexual immorality" the same thing? How can I convince him biblically?
2007-07-23 18:09:35 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I am not a virgin, just looking to try to live my life better from now on.
2007-07-23 18:20:09 · update #1
Yes its ok. Religion says its not ok or not good but Its going to happen anyways. why wait?
2007-07-23 18:11:45 · answer #1 · answered by Tracy♡ 2 · 6⤊ 11⤋
Yeah there is nothing in the Bible that says anything about premarital sex. But also take into account that there is some stuff in the Bible that the Church doesn't exactly go along with. For example, "an eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth" is in the Bible, yet Christians are supposed to be forgiving. The Bibe also says God created the universe in less than a week, even though that's impossible.
There is a lot of gray area with that whole thing since the 10 Commandments have been amended a little. But is it okay? No form of Christianity would say so, considering all sanctions of Christianity don't allow sex before marriage.
2007-07-23 18:17:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is simple. The only sexual relations the bible approves is those between a Husband and a Wife. Taking into account the historical context of the bible this is relevant in any passage that talks about sexual immorality. There is no positive reason to have sex before marriage just look at the statistics. Many of the problems with modern society are directly related to the rise in pre-marital sex. What if marriage is not in your future? No birth control is 100%.
2007-07-23 18:19:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a Christian, and I don't believe that sex before marriage is wrong. I think that the Bible was written by humans, and that humans always want to impose their ideals on each other. Whoever got lucky enough to have their writing published in the Bible is really lucky. He now has millions of people doing the things he thought that they should do. Human minds aren't capable of determining the will of God. I see no connection between God's word and the Bible. There is no proof that these two are equivalent. Those are human words. If you live a good life and have respect for yourself, for others, and for God, if you believe in one, then God will be satisfied. Sex is a completely normal human behavior. Do you think we'd be given these urges if we weren't supposed to be having sex? Think about it this way. There are some people who have civil ceremonies rather than church weddings. Those marriages are supposedly not blessed by God. Yet, those people have sex. Do you see what I mean? Marriage is a human institution. People had sex long before there was marriage at all. If you want to have sex, have sex. It will be all right.
2007-07-23 20:10:59 · answer #4 · answered by Demon L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not OK to have sex before marriage. Sexual immorality is the same as having sex because it is going against basic christian views. So it really is the same thing. The bible does say to be moral and not to have premarital sex, it just doesn't say so in a way your boyfriend recognizes. Besides I think his motives are different.
2007-07-23 18:15:20 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. Benzedrine 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
PRAISE THE LORD!!!
Take this from a single parent father, please!! WAIT.
-Acts 15:20- Here we see that "fornication" is one of the main sins warned against in the early church after Christ died on the cross and returned to heaven.
-1 corinthians 5:11- If your boyfriend insists on wanting to be a fornicator, your suppose to leave him.(He may leave you first)
I'm not even 30 years old, but I can relate to this problem in my own way.....
The words "no sex before marriage" do not exist, but it's because the bible is written in old english from England. In all fairness, the words "sex is ok before marriage" aren't in the bible either.
If a guy can't respect your wishes, regardless of what the bible says, you should question the relationship. Ofcourse, I bet you already knew that inside, didn't you??
2007-07-23 18:40:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bible does say no sex before marriage. Yes, sexual immorality is the same thing. I think it is a wise thing to wait until marriage, too many people become complacent and do it before married, then just shack up, and all they do is use each other without commitment, and then usually break up. I know because I was in those shoes, and I wish that I could take it all back and waited for the hubby that I have now.
2007-07-23 18:14:47 · answer #7 · answered by The Nag 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
It is very clearly stated it is a grave sin to have sex before marriage. It is stated in more than one place. If he cannot wait how can you be sure when the time comes he will be faithful to you when others tempt him? Also you know your self it is a sin so you shouldn't look here to find reasons to have sex before marriage. Get a bible and look up sexual sins you will find many references to show your boy friend or better yet ask him if he wants to ask your pastor, priest, bishop or what ever if it is a sin and its ok. I am sure he will back down in a hurry with his idea it is not in the bible.
2007-07-23 18:22:54 · answer #8 · answered by saintrose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really, this isn't a question about religion.
You don't want to have sex before you are married. Doesn't matter what your reasons.
He does.
Getting the "perfect scriptural argument" to convince him of the bible's position ain't gonna help.
Unless you are planning on getting married very soon, this issue is not going to go away.
If you want to hold onto your preference to wait until marriage, you may want to find a boyfriend who shares those values. You'll probably find the new boyfriend is more compatible with you in other things as well.
2007-07-23 18:15:34 · answer #9 · answered by Rum R 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Jesus is clear in the bible: All lust is sin. Imagining sex without love is sin. If you and your boyfriend don't want to get married, don't have sex. For me and my wife, we got married when we had sex and later got a legal certificate at the courthouse. We are having a baby in three weeks and dedicating him before the church. The law is spiritual, not religious. It isn't so much about right and wrong but humility and pride. Where is your heart? If you're not willing to get married, but willing to have sex, you are in sin, separated from God.
EDIT: I agree with Meng Tzu up until the last part. You do need the Word of God. Trust the Lord and lean not on your own understanding. Even your heart is misleading.
2007-07-23 18:16:59 · answer #10 · answered by wassupmang 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. I do not think its ok. I don't have biblical supports but I always read in Health and Home (a Christian publication) that it is entirely wrong to indulge in sex before entering a biblical marriage. Sex is a good gift from God that's why its worth saving for marriage. Your boyfriend does to respect you if he forces you to do s**, I guess. he has to wait and marry you first. the bible encourages chastity, isn't it?
2007-07-23 18:19:19 · answer #11 · answered by svit-kona 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋