Her culture is better than mine.....?

Question

I work with an Indian lady (not native american, but originally from India) she is constantly telling me and other co-workers about how good her culture is, and how messed up the American culture is. She has no respect for my family because I was raised by a single parent....she criticizes that, and says families like that are always messed up. How can I shut her down without being disrepectful to my co-worker....Intelligent and educated answers only. I probably could tell her to go back to India, or why is she here- but that would be childish

Answer 1

Ask her,
Are there no divorces in India
Are there no children who disobey their parents
Are there no criminals in India
Are there no drug addicts in India
Is there no prostitution in India
Is there no injustice in India
Are there no corrupt politicians in India
Do people have freedom of speech, freedom to leave a bad marriage, freedom to practice any religion etc....

Answer 2

Um-mm. It is part of thier culture you know...to brag and "tell it like it is"..of course that is only for the people in her class...she is from money or she would not be here.No doubt her relatives in India have slaves...okay servants they keep but don't pay a living wage...She is in your culture now. She should have enough education and kooth to know our customs...one of them is being polite when in the work place. It is not as if you have a choice to be around her..you have to work. She is rude. You should ask her with all the education and smarts the make her such a great human being ..how is it that she over looked one of our great customs..being polite and not putting people on the spot .... Intelligently speak your mind..no one Else's...tell her politely that she is very rude ...maybe laugh a little and say something like, " I know you come from the Cast system and this "everyone is equal" is new to you but you should try to respect this custom. That is why we have a United States...we may have differences of opinion (serious ones at that) in this country but we all believe in being polite....that is the universal custom of free and equal society. She is being so rude...and showing how unintelligent she can be. Please stand up for yourself and your mother who worked so hard to raise a beautiful, polite American...Wa do

Answer 3

Well I would say something like- isn't it great that you have the right to express your opinion here in America!? If she makes a comment that singles families are messed up I would shut her down by simply saying- "you know, you may be right, I'm so glad I turned out ok" As rude as she is, I don't think she would know what to say to that. Or you could simply change the subject and if she continues with her rant just ignore her & walk away. Eventually she'll realize that you're not listening. BTW, I can't stand people like that! Good luck!

Answer 4

I’m sorry about what happened to you.
That is one of the reasons that we will participate in Peace Camp. One of the most important thing to live in this world, is to know as much as you can about different cultures cause only by this way, you can think better. Don't forget... there is no one that can judge you about the way that you live or what you do.
You have said that she came in America, and she worked with you. Why did she came there? Cause she had to work there but if she wanted, she could have refused the job, so she doesn't have any right to judge.
I live in Albania, and I am 19. Do you know that we have lots of different religion?! Yes, it’s true and we don’t have any misunderstand of this kind. That the reason why I said before that to know more, is better…
You don't have to do that question cause every culture of the earth is very precious. Be proud of your self, be proud that you are American, be proud of your family and do the best that you can!
See you in Peace Camp :D

Answer 5

Just say nothing, don't react, just move on like nothing happened, or was said. She will get the hint. If you engage every time she talks about something else but not when she brings up culture, she will get the hint. There is nothing you can say or do to her, that will change her attitude, but totally ignoring it when she says such things will help. Remember, just stay quiet, and go back to doing whatever you were doing. Don't look at other people and roll your eyes, or sneer or anything like that, just act like you totally didn't hear what she said/like it didn't happen.

Answer 6

Tell her that our culture here may have some problems, however everyone here knows that it is not good manners to be so disrespectful as to talk about a coworkers family or country. The U.S. is a place where we have people from all over and we respect each others culture.

I know it is tempting to ask her why she came here if we are so bad.

Answer 7

i could say that American lifestyle, like countless lifestyle has professional's and cons. inspite of the undeniable fact that that's lifestyle none the less. i could say that variety is a sturdy component of the lifestyle...that American lifestyle relies on the recommendations that it includes many immigrants. while you're actually not interior reach american than your ancestors migrated here and at that American lifestyle is crammed with numerous distinctive cultures. in case you like mexican nutrition you may go and discover it in very almost anytown. chinese language nutrition is right down the line. while you're yearning some interior reach American historical past you're loose to discover it. while you're in the temper for some u . s . a . western line dancing you will discover that too!

Answer 8

explain to her that although you value what her points of views are, you were indeed raised differently. Explain that both cultures have a different way of doing things and neither one can be considered the 'right' way. THinking so, is infact childish and arrogant. If she talks about respect towards people, you should point out, that it is her who is not having respect for how you grew up and your culture..

hope this help!!
:)

Answer 9

Tell her that the beauty of being in America is the right to speak her opinion. She needs to be told that unless she meets and gets to know every American in the United States that her statements are opinion based and not fact, she does not know of what she speaks. Don't go into attack mode, you'll just be adding fuel to her self righteous fire.

Answer 10

That's too bad. I suppose if it were me, I'd tell that I feel I have a respectful culture, and it pains me to hear people criticizing it. I may have comments about the Indian culture but I choose to keep it to myself for fear of hurting feelings.

Answer 11

Telling her to go back to India would not only be childish, but in some places it could be considered a human rights violation and therefore illegal.

Simply tell her as you would tell anyone, regardless of where they were born, that you do not appreciate such personal comments in the workplace. Point out that you are all there to work together and not judge each other by cultural differences. Then add that if she is unable to behave in a more professional manner, you will be forced to bring her behaviour to the attention of a manager.