My boyfriend (hes 22) just proposed to me, and im only 18 i turn 19 in 3 days. I said yes and plan on movin in with him around xmas time. he understands i want to wait a couple years. Is it wrong for me to be engaged so young although we wont be getting married for at least a couple years?
2007-07-23 15:05:53 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It might not be usual but I don't mind when really young people get engaged. Sure its a big commitment but people seem to forget that and engagement can be as long as you need it to be and are easily broken. All the engagement ring really does is be a visual conformation that you are taken.
Accept the ring and be happy with your love....take as much time as you need to be absolutely prepared to get married. Don't let him pressure you too much, just be open and honest about your feelings and everything will work out fine.
When the time is right you'll know...there won't be any question of it.
2007-07-23 15:18:34 · answer #1 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is perfectly fine. I know from experience. My fiance is 21 and I just turned 19. We have been engaged for a few months now, and plan on waiting at least 2 or 3 years to get married. It gives you more time to make sure it is truly what you want! Congrats and best of luck!
2007-07-23 15:19:41 · answer #2 · answered by Kim C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's better to wait until about a year out from when you'll be married to get engaged, particularly when you're so young. This way, you can get to know each other better w/o the pressure of marriage hanging over you. You may find out some things you didn't know about each other while living together. Also, should either of you decide to break up, you're not breaking an engagement.
2007-07-23 15:20:49 · answer #3 · answered by Ms. X 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a couple friends of mine ( i laugh as i read this) are the exact same ages and doing just what you guys are doing. cept she just found out she's preggers after getting engaged
. it's best to wait till you are 21yo to get married.
you can live together and get used to the domestic set up. you will both be able to grow and see how it works btwn now and the date.
being engaged for a long time isn't any different than just having a commitment from your boyfriend that he's not going anywhere and him giving you a ring to prove it.
congrats and at least you can plan every detail to perfection for when you do get married. better a long engagement than a week lol
2007-07-23 15:19:14 · answer #4 · answered by nataliexoxo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are young, but it seems like you are already looking and planning ahead. Planning a longer engagement is a great idea, no need to rush things. Sometimes you just know it's right, make sure you are really ready to make a lifetime commitment. Sometimes it desn't have anything to do with age, but how commited you are and how mature you both are.
Besides 19 is an adult, so if you feel you are ready then good luck!
2007-07-23 15:21:54 · answer #5 · answered by Reba 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-02-11 03:10:18 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am a married man. been that way for over 2yrs. things really change when you get married seeing if you can live with each other is probably a smart idea. my wife and i knew each other quite a few years we dated for a year. although being married and not just living together has helped us stay together. the first 3 months of living together is heaven after that if starts to get hard. being married makes you have to work it out. whereas the alternative gives you an easy way out.
2007-07-23 15:27:42 · answer #7 · answered by Chris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im 16 and im getting married on 3 weeks. if you feel your to young thats ok. its not wrong to be engaged for a while. and if your moving in with him you will really get to see him in the good bad and ugly and you will know him really well and know without a doubt if you want to marry him. so no theres nothing wrong with that.
2007-07-23 15:35:13 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs. Nolan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you live with him for a couple years before you get married you will sure know if you want to marry him. Make sure you don't have children just in case.
2007-07-23 15:14:32 · answer #9 · answered by dbethanid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Living with him will probably be a great option (i reccommend safe sex!!!). I lived with my boy friend for 5 years, then he proposed (about time!!!) and now we are getting married next year. I already know we are quite compatible....
Best of luck!!!
2007-07-23 16:28:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋