And it is to early to ask my matron of honor and bridesmaids to be in the wedding? The wedding is June of 2009
2007-07-23 14:22:50 · 15 answers · asked by Kim C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I do not think it is too soon to start planning. You definitely can set a date, book your church and hall and DJ and caterer and start planning a budget!
As far as your bridesmaid, it depends on who you will be asking and how close you are. I'd say definitely ask family and maybe wait on friends, unless the friends will be helping you plan thing and they may be hurt if you don't ask right away.
You really can't tell what will happen whether it is 6 mos or 2 years. I planned mine in about 1 year and 1 of my bridesmaids got married and moved away so I had to choose someone else. Some things you just can't plan for so go with the flow.
The sooner the better on your reception hall, DJ, and caterer. I waited on the DJ until about 1 year before and the ones I wanted were already booked. It never hurst to do the research and make the phone calls.
By the time everything is said and done it will all come together perfectly!
Good luck!
2007-07-23 14:42:59 · answer #1 · answered by Reba 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best things you can do now are pick up a few bridal magazines, if there's a place that you've thought about having the reception, see if you need to book it in advance and how far in advance.
You have some time. You don't need to rush anything, especially this. You want this to be the perfect day, so don't do anything.
At least ask your matron of honor, unless something drastic changes, she's always gonna be the MOH.
Congrats!! and good luck planning all of it!
2007-07-24 01:55:39 · answer #2 · answered by I_am_Meg_Griffin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's a little early. However, it's never too early to do your homework.
I would start by getting ideas of what you want and how much you can spend. Figure out your budget. Say it's 10K, then break that down into how much you plan on using for the reception, your dress, the rings, the honeymoon, etc.
Once you have that down, start looking at different options. If you are using 5K on the reception. Think about what you want for your reception and then how to get it within the 5K.
I would just toy with ideas and numbers right now.
I would not buy the dress yet. I would wait until at least a year out for that.
In addition, I would start about booking the ceremony and reception site around March or April 2008. That's more then a year, and it will ensure you get the date your want. I say you can book the reception up to 1.5 years in advance. I knew someone that is getting married in August. They booked their reception in April 2006 and the place was pretty full already.
Wait to about 12-14 months for the real planning.
2007-07-23 22:47:03 · answer #3 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not to early to pick the bridal party and start researching things like what the budget will be, what look you want, what colors, what kinds of flowers, and to get a general idea of the vendors you want to use. The earlier you start the more times you get to just say "IM TAKING A BREAK!" when wedding planning starts to stress you out.
However, most places won't actually draw up the contracts and book anything until about a year before.
Early planning also saves money, for instance if you know you want pumpkins for the centerpieces you can watch for the fall sales after the season and pick up artificail pumpkins at a deep discount vs. paying full price at the last minute. You also have time for more DIY which always saves money.
2007-07-23 21:40:52 · answer #4 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would wait to ask your matron of honor and bridesmaids. I had planned a friend to be my bridesmaid a year before I got married, but we decided not to be friends anymore and it didn't turn out. Wait at least 6-8 months before your wedding if one of your friends decides to bail out on your friendship. Then you'll have time to pick out dresses for your bridesmaids. Otherwise, start planning now, especially the location where you want to get married.
2007-07-23 22:36:12 · answer #5 · answered by Jess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I would not ask your bridesmaids to be in the wedding two years before the wedding. This site is full of questions about what is the best way to "fire" a bridesmaid. Wait until six months before the wedding, and figure out who your best friends are at that point.
Good luck.
2007-07-23 21:54:22 · answer #6 · answered by Tricia R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't start planning yet. don't ask anyone to be yoru bridesmaid yet. just make a timeline for things you need to do. perhaps start looking for a venue and dress in 6 months.
the reason i say to wait is that you don't want the next two years to be only about planning your wedding. if you do then you'll not only drive yoruself and everyone around you crazy, but you may be setting yourself up for a major case of post wedding blues. imagine spending 2 yrs planning for a wedding and then in 5-7 hours(the actual time of the ceremony & reception) it is over. focus on building your relationship, do some fun stuff together and enjoy the engagement period.
and congratulations!
2007-07-23 22:53:58 · answer #7 · answered by Roc 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is a little early, for several reasons.
People who want to say yes to being bridesmaids now, may have totally different lives in two years. They may have gotten engaged themselves, or gotten pregnant, or are trying to get pregnant. They may have no job, or a new job, or a new house, or no money! They may say yes now, and then if their situations change, they may feel like they can't back out of something they promised two yrs. before!
Also, trends for dresses, colors, etc. will change in that time. A dress you love now, you may not love then! Reception sites, photographers, florists, bakers, all may change hands or even go out of business!
Also, here's the biggest problem my brides face with a very long engagement. They totally obsess about the wedding for that whole two years! That's all they talk about, think about, live for! They drive their grooms crazy!
Think about these things, and decide what is right for you,and what you can realistically do. Also, take those gals into consideration!
2007-07-23 21:30:51 · answer #8 · answered by valschmal 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It isn't too early..as you may know, some wedding gowns can take up to a year to get ordered in and some reception venues are books years in advance...so get some stuff done now while you can and the stress level is low...you'll have a lot more to do than you can imagine, so space it out and you'll be fine :)
2007-07-23 21:29:31 · answer #9 · answered by its about time 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes it is a little early but i guess that it is better then doing every thing last minute! no it is fine to ask the matron of honor and the briedesmaids now they will be happy to be in your wedding!
good luck
2007-07-23 21:47:24 · answer #10 · answered by ??? 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋