I am from the Northeast, and have lived in TX for the past 5 years. I have shared an apartment with my boyfriend for the past 3 years. I just received a decent job offer back home which would also pay me to get a Master's degree. I do not like my current job and wish to leave the field, as the field is small and the hours are mainly shiftwork. I do miss my friends and family back home dearly, but dont know what to do. My boyfriend wont marry me for at least 2 more years until he's finished with his degree but things are going ok and i believe he will right after college. We are both 27 years old. My boyfriend will not leave TX anytime in the near future.
Should I stay in TX and try to find a better job and wait for him (I do love him very much), or should i accept the job offer and go home to my family and friends?
2007-07-23 14:05:09 · 9 answers · asked by Vanessa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is really a question hard for any of us to truthfully answer for you. Just do what feels right and there are such things as long distant relationships. They are hard, but it can be done.
2007-07-23 14:08:57 · answer #1 · answered by ArachnidDemon 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
This job gives you better benefits, a better motivation, and also you finish your Master's. Its a dream come true. I know this is a hard decisionf or you but its good opportunity vs bf. If your boyfriend really cares for you, he would not let you miss the opportunity. Your lives are moving in different directions and different places. if you guys are meant to be, you'll probably see each other in the future. This is a chance to better your employment and you, especially if its back home. Make a decision that you know that you will not regret. Cognrats on the new opportunity.
2007-07-23 14:15:36 · answer #2 · answered by Aztec girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should accept the job. In life we move forward and you need this other job offer to better your life and to get your masters degree. Also, after three years of shacking up you two still are not married. If this relationship is meant to make it, this will be the true test. Congrats on your new job!
2007-07-23 14:09:37 · answer #3 · answered by Lov'n IT! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing like having friends and family around you.
especially when you miss them a lot. especially a decent job that will pay you to get a master's degree. you shouldn't let anyone stop you from achieving or advancing in life. accept the job and move back home. bein around familiar surrondings is good for the soul.
2007-07-23 14:11:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to do what is best for you in the long run.
Do you want to wait 2 more years for your bf? Are you sure he is the one you want to spend the rest of your life with? Would you ever forgive yourself for passing up the job?
Why not make a list of pro's and con's for staying and for going and weight your options.
If you do decide to take the job, you could always have a long distance relationship. Lots of people do.
There is nothing wrong with wanting to better yourself and if he really loves you, he will encourage and support you regardless of your decision.
2007-07-23 14:10:04 · answer #5 · answered by endo_chic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, sweety. Your boyfriend isn't going to marry you. Ever.
If a man loves a woman, he wants to marry her NOW. Not after 1 year, not after living together for 3 years, not after living together for 5 years. He doesn't want to marry you. Period.
Do what's best for your life. Get out of your career and go to grad school. You'll meet so many amazing people and you'll be happier.
I guarantee this - you can tell him you're going, pack your stuff and move, and I bet you won't hear from him more than twice after you leave. He just isn't in love with you.
2007-07-23 14:10:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
in all honestly you need to ask yourself what gives you more self fullfillment... being with a man that you could spend the rest of your life with or a job that you really want and see you freinds and family... personally i would take love because you never can replace true love
2007-07-23 14:11:52 · answer #7 · answered by J.S 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take the job and run! He may never marry you.
2007-07-23 14:09:04 · answer #8 · answered by Jai 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
move, see if he will come wit cha if he wont then bye bye bf.
2007-07-23 14:08:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋