Do you find this term offensive? Not so long ago people would just say that the relationship ended which can happen to anyone and is part of life. I thought only rubbish gets dumped? And also I've heard of unfortunate animals literally getting dumped in rubbish bins - very sad. But people always have much value even when feeling rejected so why use this belittling word?
2007-07-23 13:57:41 · 10 answers · asked by kirrii 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
perhaps people dont think when they say it or the way they say it.
2007-07-23 14:06:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When someone uses that term, they mean that the relationship did not end on decent terms - the other person broke it off, and they literally felt like rubbish being dumped. When the break up happened by mutual agreement with no big drama involved, most of the time people will use the words "we broke up".
It's not that they are belittling themselves, it's that the other person actually treated them like rubbish.
2007-07-23 21:29:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many people do feel like rubbish when they are told their partner no longer wishes to continue the relationship. I'm sure the term "dumped" came into that particular usage because of the feelings generated by the situation.
It doesn't mean the person is trying to belittle him or herself, it just means that's most likely how they felt. But now it has become a common saying and the original feeling behind it has been pared away so it's no longer belittling, it's just a saying now.
2007-07-23 21:03:06 · answer #3 · answered by Allo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've very seldom used the term but I can relate to it--when my husband came in and announced he was in love with someone else and he was moving out, I felt like I had been quite thoroughly knocked down and tossed aside. And as you try to recover, you feel like rubbish that no one else has any use for. You don't feel you have any value at all. But then things get better and time moves on and you find someone new so the next time you're rejected, it's not quite so bad. You think, "I've been here before and I survived."
2007-07-23 21:11:18 · answer #4 · answered by Jess 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because that's how you feel when you get rejected, and the other person wanted to end the relationship but you didn't.
You feel like you were tossed aside like a piece of garbage.
People dont use that expression if they mutually agree to end a relationship.
You make it a valid point that people shouldn't look at is if they got treated like garbage because the other person ended it, but you cant help feel that way, especially if you had serious feeling for the one who dumped you.
2007-07-23 23:04:13 · answer #5 · answered by sara r 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that people say it because they feel as if they were just tossed out like rubbish or an unwanted animal.It is an awful feeling when someone you care very much about leaves you. You are right that it is correct to say the relationship ended...but most younger folks like to use this way of saying it instead.
2007-07-24 10:49:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some find it a softer way to tell others they've been rejected, discarded, and hurt.
In case you haven't noticed, there are many euphemisms for death. Most people will say they have "lost" someone, or that they have "passed on/away". Very few are blunt enough to say, "My mother has just dropped dead." It would hurt them too much.
2007-07-23 21:02:14 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It's just an expression. It's been used in the US for decades.
Here, we "take out" the trash.
2007-07-23 21:31:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call a spade a spade. When they are not wanted, they are dumped.
2007-07-24 03:14:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means someone took a dump on their chest.
2007-07-23 21:04:56 · answer #10 · answered by Bumper Crop 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋