what would you do if your 5 year old?

Question

smacked you in the face at the grocery store,then called you a name?

joseph sounds like my long lost brother...my parents would of beat my butt

ok,thanks for all the answers,it was not my child,it was something ive witnessed.i know alot of people have different opinions about the way we correct our children.now,if that was my son,i would of spanked his little behind in the store,and proboly not really care what others thought of it.this lady however got so embarassed her face turned red as apple,and asked him to please behave.my kids saw this...you know what they said?
"awwww,hes gonna get a whippin when he gets home"...interesting answers tho,thanks

Answer 1

I would wear his butt out.I would give him something to look forward to whenever he thought about doing something like that.When a 5 yr old is THAT brave it tells me you are not disciplining him consistently, and the disciplinary measure you do give,he doesn't even consider them unpleasant enough to dare to do something that bold.If I had EVER had built up enough courage to do something like that at the age of 5, My mom would have wore me out in the store in front of GOD and EVERYONE and told anyone who wanted to butt in, "C'mon on over here, you want some of this too?"I would not have repeated the mistake a 2nd time that is for sure!I had enough respect and fear of my parents knowing I would be punished for ever trying something like that.ESPECIALLY at 5 yrs old.If you do NOT do something now, GOD help you when he hits puberty hon.

Answer 2

OMG!!
Some of these answers!

NEVER and I mean NEVER smack anyone in the face. It is degrading. As for leaving stuff in a store and taking them to the car, that is giving in: Odds are the kid wants out of the store in the first place so telling them that we aren't going back in till you behave is a joke (in the kids mind.

We have gone into an age of "Time Outs" which are also a joke.

You spank the childs butt and tell them never to do that again. Let them cry for the 3 to 5 minutes. I don't suggest you beat their butt, but spankings work fine. Look at most people who had spankings while growing up.. they are respectful of others and recognize that there are consequences to their negative actions.

These people and their "Time Out" crud always seem to have these kids that you don't want around your kids. A time out??!! I wonder if Jeffery Daumer and these kids that keep shooting up schools are "Time Outters". This Martha Steward kid raising era needs to stop. Get control over your children before they join the street gangs.

I'm sorry but I feel very strongly about this subject.
Kids need to be guided and corrected not beaten or put in a stupid 5 minute time out. They embarrass you in the grocery store or anywhere they need their but spanked right there so they are embarrassed right back.

I blame a lot of the disrespect to seniors (robbing, beating and killing) on the slack parents who have raised these wannabe gang bangers without proper discipline. The world is getting worse so obviously the Time Out's aren't working.

When I stepped out of line I got my butt spank good. I have good morales, respect for others and raised my kid the same way. She is now 26 and owns her own hair salon with a college degree. No pregnancies or police records.

BUT NEVER SMACK THEM ANYWHERE BUT ON THE BUTT... PLEASE!!!

Answer 3

I 'd give him a good,sharp smack on the bottom or legs and then take him home for a proper,thorough spanking;a talking to about respect and then bath and bed - and *then* I'd sit down and start thinking about what I had been doing wrong to bring on such behaviour and how I was going to correct it - if it was not just a "one off" in which case the spanking and talking to should have done the trick.
Children should be taught to respect their parents whether in the home or in public - given that the parents give them love and care and don't disrespect *them* by putting *themsleves* first and so cause resentment in the child which *may* manifest itself in inappropriate ways if discipline (in the true sense of the word) has been absent,
Best wishes,
Joan.

Answer 4

I do not think waiting until you got home to do some form of chastisement is a good idea. something should be done immediately. in the case of being in a store/public place, just take the child to the bathroom for a spanking. there isnt a need to spank the child in public, but for something like that a spanking is needed. (not done in anger, tho). then you can explain to your child why both of these behaviors are unacceptable, and certainly let them know you love them still, but will not tolerate that behavior. and as others have said, obviously no treats that day if this is something you like to do when you go to the store.

Answer 5

WOW, a lot a fast answers here. What is sad is the fact that the child has learned that hitting is OK from somewhere? By hitting this child you are telling him that it is OK to hit, WTF? I have 3 children 10, 8, 5 the only time they get spanked is when they put them-self in harms way, ie running in a parking lot or out in the street.

I believe you address the situation firmly and move on to the real reason why this child has acted out and get ready for more, it is coming unless you discover what it is.

Is there abuse (verbal or physical) in the home? Does he get spanked for other smaller outburst?

My solution for acting out was liquid soup in the mouth and a very firm reason why the action was unacceptable and disappointing, and they were never sent to their room. I have only had to do the soap once for my first two and twice for my third child.

Pick your battles and stop reacting and start being proactive!

Answer 6

You should have done something to correct him right then. I would have beat his little a**. I know everyone is afraid to punish their kids in front of anyone nowdays. You have half the people wanting you to beat them and the other half waiting to call the law on you. At the very least I think you should have reminded him of what he did in the store and beat his a** right after telling him at home! You should have given it to him so good he would be afraid of ever doing it again! Kids don't have respect for parents now because they have no fear of parents. They have to be shown and told there are consequences for every action in life.

Answer 7

Thats a tough one...being in the grocery store there wouldn't be much you could do without getting turned in for child abuse...and it depends on what the situation was...was the child throwing a fit b/c they wanted something? if so anything and everything in the cart that was a "treat" of some sort for that child would be put back! I might even go so far as to leave the cart and take the child home for a time out...as for the name calling, my kids get hot sauce for calling names (really bad ones that is), and after they've been warned...we put a very small amount on the end of a toothpick and wipe it on their tongue...they don't call names much anymore, all we have to say is "hot sauce" and they stop immediately! Good luck!

Answer 8

I am currently going through this problem myself, although, not with a 5 year old. My son is 3 (4 in October). He hits me, screams at me, and calls me names.

This behavior is simply acting out, he feels he needs to do something if my full attention is not on him. Which means it will happen most often when we are shopping together, and when I receive a phone call.

When this happens, I try redirecting, such as, if I'm on the phone, get him to sit at the table and color with crayons together. Even though I'm talking to someone else, it seems to work. If we're in a store, we try going to another department or pulling out a toy or photo book from my purse. It almost always works. In the event that it doesn't, I leave the store, or call someone back. Then he and I talk about his behavior and why it is not okay.

Either way, we have a discussion about the behavior later (not too much later or he'll forget). And come up with better ways to get attention.

Answer 9

You need to deal with it immediately; you need to let him know that is very inappropriate. You can't put him time out at the store; talking to him will just go over his head, and what can you take away that fits the crime? Spanking will get his attention quickly. When you do it, say, "That is not nice" or something similar. He'll get the point.
A few pointers for spanking: only a couple of open handed swats on the padded bottom will get his attention and do it discreetly.

Answer 10

I'd remove him/her from the grocery store immediately and take away a privilege. I also would be proactive. If you give a child that age little tasks to do while shopping, it can be more fun for them. Have them get their favorite cereal off the shelf, etc. Also, set behavioral expectations ahead of time and a reward for good behavior: ie "I need you to be a good boy/girl while we go grocery shopping. No running off, yelling, ( etc. - whatever you want to make sure he or she doesn't do). If you are, we can stop at Dairy Queen (or whatever is an acceptable reward for you) on the way home."

Answer 11

Leave the store and once your in the car you tell him what he did was wrong. I try not to discipline my kids in public because I hate the idea of people hearing my kids cry . I don't personally like screaming children in the store either. So, I try to respect that. I wouldn't wait until they got home because he would forget what he did.