I asked my boyfriend to live with me and said sure if I took down my doll collection. What's the big deal? I love my doll collection, it's one of my most prized possession. I have about 40 dolls: porcleain dolls, Barbies, Bratz, and some others, but he says it's childish and says I need to take it down. I think that was kind of selfish of him, since I asked and it is my apartment, after all. What do you guys think?
2007-07-23 13:33:38 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Home & Garden ➔ Decorating & Remodeling
look if you two are going to have a strong disagreement over something as petty (i am not saying your doll collection is petty - heck my sister has one and it is worth a lot more than my gun collection) i think i would have second thoughts about inviting this individual in to MY SPACE.
2007-07-23 13:43:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am young (24) with a doll collection. If anyone told me that I had to get rid of my collection you would be certain it would be the person who would be going and not my dolls. I can understand if they don't want them all displayed in the livingroom, as it is a "shared" space but all I think this will lead to is resentment. I would definately start to resent the person who told me that I couldn't enjoy what I had. Besides if this guy loved you he wouldn't care that you had dolls he would just want to be with you!
As for people who say collecting is immature, I would like to point out that many dolls cost at least 3 or 4 hundred dollars, and are works of art, much like a statue. To say that collecting makes you immature doesn't make any sense, because owning things does not make you a child :)
2007-07-25 12:46:24 · answer #2 · answered by 1982answers 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A couple of ideas:
1) You are going to be living together. If it's in consideration of marriage, then marriage is *about* compromise. So, you may just see if you can pick out your favorite 10 dolls & put them on a high shelf, or something, maybe in a hidden area like the bedroom.
2) If you're just living together as roommates, you can "divide the house in half" and say, "Tough luck. It's in my half!".
3) You could move the collection into a hidden area, like the bedroom or a hall closet, or even the garage, where you could show it to friends but it wouldn't bug him.
4) You could donate it (for an indefinite period of time) to a safe place, like a library showcase, so it'd be safe & others could enjoy it, too.
5) You could ask a friend or relative to keep it for you, for a while. If you guys break up, then get it back.
6) You could say it's your apartment, so if he wants to move in he has to be the one to yield.
2007-07-23 13:47:04 · answer #3 · answered by embroidery fan 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a guy but really you need to pack your dolls away and start being an adult. It's time to put childish things aside. If you have a couple of important dolls, I'm sure he wouldn't mind but an entire collection is not something any man wants to live with. What if he had a cherished collection of car models? Would you really want to see them everywhere you looked in your apartment or home? When you are a couple, you design your home as adults. Both of you have to be comfortable and these decisions have to be made together. So you are being selfish.
2007-07-23 14:51:21 · answer #4 · answered by dawnb 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
There's nothing wrong with displaying your collection. It sounds like he's still a little immature. I know a lady who has a much larger doll collection. Her husband builds some beautiful display cabinets for the dolls. That way she can have them on display, but they are protected from dust and stuff.
2007-07-27 13:04:09 · answer #5 · answered by crazykaro 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Right off the bat...dont take your doll collection down... Some people collect dolls, some coins,etc. It is not childish..Good grief! Dont let him dictate to you . Might wanna think it over about living together since this came up.. It kinda makes you wonder what other habits of his are overbearing, or pushy.
2016-05-21 06:00:51 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people find Doll Collections really creepy!
2007-07-25 03:10:33 · answer #7 · answered by Tookie Clothes Pin 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I've been married to a doll collector for almost 22 years, and I remember her asking me "Do you think it's silly of me to still be playing with dolls?" My answer: "You're asking a grown man who still plays with model airplanes?" I think your boyfriend may be one of those controlling types. If he can't understand your love of doll collecting, what other things that you love will he make you give up? If you give up your dolls, then what's he going to give up in return? Real love is often based on mutual sacrifice and understanding and accepting a person as they are without trying to change them. Showed your post to my wife and she says keep your dolls and ditch the boyfriend.
2007-07-23 13:55:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
It is your 'space', but you can't hold this over his head forever. Besides, YOU are wanting to share your space with him, right? I personally hate doll collections...they give me the creeps, and I think they look tacky from a design perspective. However, if they mean that much to you, he shouldn't be so harsh and tell you to grow up. You're both going to have to compromise in order for this to work.
2007-07-26 19:05:54 · answer #9 · answered by kass 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
He is VERY selfish. But in a way, i can't blame him. I am not even a little bit of a sports fan and I don't think i would let my boyfriend bring all his football trophies into my home and put them on display. We have such different interests, our relationship probably won't work. But I do hope yours will, Good Luck!
2007-07-23 13:56:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋