He told me he wished he was dead?

Question

So for those that have been following what i've been going through with my ex...you know we broke up...and he got drunk and called me...he said that if somethingh happened to him or if he got locked up again it would be my fault...But i really do love him...nd we're tring to be friends...but its kinda hard...he tells me he loves me nd whants another chance...nd it hurts so much...What can i do...i miss him...i really do...he said he wished he was dead because i was the only one who keeped him out of trouble...i dont know what to do...Should i give him another chance?..What if he moved on already?..I can't stop thinking about him...what should i do?..♥♥♥



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We broke up just because we fought to much...nd hes going to mexico for over a month...♥♥♥

Answer 1

Irony.

"he got drunk and called me...he said that if somethingh happened to him or if he got locked up again it would be my fault...<---"

he said he wished he was dead because i was the only one who keeped him out of trouble...""

Yeah..move on. Better for you.

Answer 2

I know you must feel like you are going trough hell. I am sorry, it is always hard right after a break up, even if you are the one who did the breaking, I know. You need to be careful, you said he called you drunk. Calling is ok, though I would recommend a month or two to allow you feelings and his to calm down. Right now he is not thinking very well, neither are you, that is normal with break-ups. The reason he said the it would be "your fault if he went got locked up again or if something happened to him". That right there is a good example as to why you should be glad to be done with him. He is trying to make you feel guilty for him, and his mistakes. That is a bunch of bull. He is saying that as a desperate attempt to get you to take him back. Don't you do it! This is just wrong, if he loved you first he would not be fighting with you. Second, he would not try and make you feel guilty and like crap for standing up for yourself. third, he would not be trying to make you feel this miserable by saying what he said to you. I hate to say it but I do not see remaining friends with him to be in your best interest. The next phase he is likely to go through is anger. So please be careful, I know you think he loves you and would never hurt you. Well that’s just not true. He is already playing mind games. Like I said next he will show his anger for you and anything you care about, I would bet money on it. You are doing the right thing you just have to be strong and don't let this fool get to you. So far I am proud at how you seem to have handled everything. You are doing better then most of the women that are in the same spot you are in. Just keep your head up and him out of your mind as much as you can. Take care of yourself, :) Wow, sorry thats so dang long!

Answer 3

I don't think that there is mass man-hating in society today. Just look at the prejudice that women faced in history up until the 1960's. I'm interested to know where you found the statistic "99% of women hate men". I think what you are experiencing now is extreme prejudice and sexism, and highly reccomend that you see a psychologist who can assist you. You censored a word in the Pussycat Dolls, given the context, it was unneccesary to do so. But that's a side issue. I am female, I have plenty of male friends and don't hate them at all. Hate is a very strong word, I suggest (out of love and not-man hating) that you see someone, even just to tell them how you feel about this, perhaps they can offer some practical solutions for your problem.

Answer 4

First and foremost, it's very dangerous if he makes claims like that(it's not funny). And what I think you should do is talk to him. Look, I'm sure you broke up with him for a reason but there's no reason for him to feel that way. Also, if you feel that you need to talk to him, then go ahead. You don't want him to be depressed about it.

PS: Be careful and chose your words. Listen, he may be a bad or good person, but does it matter???? If you want to be with him, then you will. The last thing you want to find out is that he wished he was dead. So, talk to him and work something out.....

Answer 5

If something happened to him or if he got locked up again it would be his own fault. He sounds like hes an attention whore, and a immature loser, and you need to move on. Somewhere out there is a dude that's looking for you to love and respect you for the woman you are. Now get off your computer and go find him.

Answer 6

i think u should move on it will be hard since u really love him but u have to do it b cuz if u give him a second chance he might do it again or u might get into alot of trouble w him. It will be hard to move on but u have to be strong ur still young theres a lot of guys out there hope everything works out

Answer 7

Walk away. He is a loser and things will never change.
I am so sick of women who can't stand up for what they know is right just because they can't stand the thought of being alone. Grow a backbone, get some self-esteem (and self-respect for that matter) and be a little bit more choosy when picking men to date.

ETA: Good grief, you're 16! You've only been with him for three months, honey, you are NOT in love. You'll get over him, I promise. Don't waste your youth on some idiot with no self control.

Answer 8

ok to tell you the truth, if you really love him that much, and he loves you back, i think that you should get back together, maybe in time he will change.... you gotta forgive and forget at least one more time.... if he's going to mexico for a while, u got time to think everything out... but remeber that if you really don't want to get with him again, then don't listen to anyone... listen to your heart... and if he moved on u gotta move on and accept the fact that it just didn't work out

if you don't like my advice, don't listen to it cause i'm only 13.....and listen 2 ur heart...

Answer 9

If I were in your position, I would wait till he got back from Mexico before trying to start all over. Let time pass, cause you don't want to get hurt again.

Answer 10

I haven't been keeping up, but I will tell you this. Anybody who blames you IN ADVANCE for something that might go wrong, has some serious issues.

Let him get through those first, then see if it's worht taking another chance on.....