I feel like when someone does wrong, they deserve a second chance, but if they do it more than twice & keep apologizing & keep doing it, then they just use "sorry" as an excuse to do it again.
2007-07-23 13:01:38 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
You are very correct. I give everyone (most everyone) a second chance. However if she / he continues that behavior then that is it, they are out of my life.
2007-07-23 15:12:16 · answer #1 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry is not an apology unless they say what they are sorry for. I agree. I think people say "sorry" when what they really mean is "I'm sorry I got caught".
When someone apologizes, they should say exactly WHAT they are sorry for and state that they will not do it again. Otherwise, what they have to say is crap.
Forgiving someone is not something you do depending on if they actually apologize. Forgiving someone is something you do for YOURSELF so you don't carry that bitterness around with you. Don't wait around for someone to ask to be forgiven, just forgive them, inside of yourself.
And forgiving does NOT mean that you think what they did is okay or that you are a doormat for them to treat you poorly. I means that you're going to forget about what happened and move on with your life....wiser and more cautious perhaps but not holding a grudge. It's a fine line but I think you can figure out the difference.
2007-07-23 20:08:35 · answer #2 · answered by teacherintheroom 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I am too... because when I did things wrong, after and after not more than 10 times.. I think when using sorry it's acceptable, however when abuse it's a matter, because the person whom already think you are wasting time but keep saying sorry would feel "please give me one more chance, please and please", but there's no free for sorry when this is a matter at the end! However, there are some people keeps saying sorry to get your advantage and gaining your free support! Well, sorry for several time at the same matter it's acceptable.
2007-07-23 21:32:31 · answer #3 · answered by Miss Train catcher 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True, but it is hard sometimes. I remember my mother would always tell me " Don't say sorry, just don't do not it again", I always think about that when I say sorry because it is hard sometimes especially on emotional situations. I do believe in forgiveness and I remember that love is patient. But I also remember this, which keeps me straight and steady....
As a dog returns to its vomit, so a fool repeats his folly. (Proverbs 26:11 )
2007-07-23 20:17:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree! People should be responsible for their actions, and if they know enough to apologize for what they know is wrong, then they should know enough to not do it. This is common sense. People are not 2-year-olds. I try to cut ties with people like this, they are not good influences or friends.
2007-07-23 20:18:20 · answer #5 · answered by guagna 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe that one should always have a second chance.
And that doesn't mean a second chance after their second, fourth, sixth, etc...chance.
Big Kiss,
Keira
2007-07-23 20:09:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with both of you!
2007-07-23 20:08:39 · answer #7 · answered by pamela68 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As the old adage goes, "Fool me once, shame on you... fool me TWICE, shame on ME!"
2007-07-23 22:24:51 · answer #8 · answered by wyomugs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hell ya
2007-07-23 20:08:55 · answer #9 · answered by Chantel S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋