19 too young??

Question

Alright so I was watching TV and there was a show on about young adults ( around 18-25) getting married. What do ya'll think about getting married young? I feel bad for a lot of the couples because they get so much crap from other people. Do you think it's possible for a marriage to last? Should people wait until they are older to get married?

Yea it was the MTV show. And by the way...its not me thats getting married.

Answer 1

Your biggest problem at that age will be financial (which is one of the biggest contributors to marriage failure). Aside from the finance aspect, it's individual by individual. For me it would have been too young.

Answer 2

Real love doesn't pick a certain age or a certain race. I'm speaking about real love not what people are doing now a days and calling it love. My parents got married young, mother was 18 and my father was 21. they have been married for 25 years now and their marriage is so beautiful , they love eachother so much it's almost impossible to think that kind of love exist but it does you just have to pray and hope you find it. on the other hand my aunt who also got married young is now on her 3rd marriage. with 3 different baby daddy.

marriage work because both people want it to work. you have to be mature and you have to communicate and be sensitive of eachothers feelings, love and respect eachother be there for eachother while still giving eachother they space they need. Maturity can come at 25, 18, or even 16 but the person have to want to put in the time and effort to make marriage work.

Sometimes people confuse love with lust and adolesence production. No one knows what will happen but if you truely are in love you are the only one who will know that , and if an 18 year old want to prove they can do it, they just have to do it honestly and lovingly.

Answer 3

it depends on the couple and the level of commitment and maturity. There is no magic age at which you can get married and have a lasting marriage. I waited until I was 31, but it only lasted 6 years. From that I learned that it takes two people to make a marriage last and only one to break it.

Just remember that a marriage is a lot more than just 'being in love'...a sort of warm fuzzy feeling for each other. It also means a commitment to love each other, act loving to each other even when sometimes you may not feel like it. In time a deeper understanding and love may develop. This can happen if you get married at 18 or wait until 40...

How much of a commitment do you have to your fiancee and how much does he have to you? Only you can answer that.

Answer 4

I don't know if there's harm in trying. Yes, 18-20 is pretty young, but every experience shapes us in some way; even if the young marriage fails - who is to say that it didn't teach us valuable lessons? I got married for the first time when I was 18, 2nd time at 23, and 3rd time at 32 (been married for almost a year now); I don't regret any of these marriages - these were the experiences who made me who I am now. I would have done it all over again if given a chance.

Answer 5

Think a marriage can last if married young but not to young. I'm 21 and getting married Aug 11, the hubby to be is 23. I think if you are commited to that person and you have to take the good w/ the bad then yea you can make it last, but it takes 2 people working at a marriage to make it work, not just one.

Answer 6

Chelsea I can only speak from personal experience. My first marriage took place when I was 19 and my ex was 18. We believed that we were truly worldly wise and had found the answer that mankind has been seeking all their lives in regards to relationships. Fact of live is that we were both too immature at that age and this marriage only lasted for 2 years. We did have a son who is now 32 and has a family of his own. Luckily my ex and I continue to be good friends till this day and are able to laugh at how foolish we were really while believing we were so mature and in love. Life's lessons are sometimes ugly and not nice but they are all there for a reason, it's whether or not we learn anything from them that is important.

Answer 7

I'm 19, and two people I know who have basically just turned 20 have got married this saturday past. If it is going to last, then yes, but you never know that, you can get married at 30 and there is a chance the marriage won't last. I think it is good to be mature, and sure about it first though. It is a huge, symbolic commitment.. some people don't take it seriously.

Answer 8

This is one of those questions that has no "right" answer, b/c its different for everyone. Is 19 too young? It depends on the couple. I am 20 & engaged to be married in a little over a year & no, I don't think its too young for me or my fiance (who is 23). It can work if the couple is serious about making it work & are getting married for the right reasons. I can't think of anything me & my fiance will be missing out on besides sharing our life together. I know he is the right person for me, so why would I keep looking for something I already have?

Answer 9

is 19 too young to get married? no, BUT it doesn't make marriage any easier than it already isn't. the thing is we really haven't finished growing into ourselves when we are 19. strangely enough this is typically something that you can't explain to someone who is 19 because it is hard to understand until you've have gone through it. basically the person you are at 19 will not be the person you will be at 29 or 39 for that matter. when you get married to someone at such a young age you must be prepared and willing to endure the changes that each of you will go through as you mature and become the person you want to become. people will come into your lives and you'll have experiences that change the way you feel and think. each of you much adapt to one another as this happens. communication and commitment are imperative during a marriage, especially during times such as these.

Answer 10

I know it's possible for the marriage to last. I have a friend who married at 18 and has been married nearly 10 years now. However, I think the younger you are the more you rob yourself of life experiences and finding out who you truly are. I think it's better to wait but getting married young doesn't always spell out divorce.

Answer 11

Everyone's different, so it's hard to say something like this is right or wrong for everyone. But generally I feel sorry for people who get married so young, because I think they are cheating themselves out of a lot of personal development and growth and discovery. I'm sure many of these marriages last and are prefectly healthy and fulfilling, but I think other people rush into it for the wrong reasons and rob themselves of the life they could have had, and of the strong relationship they could have had if they had waited until they knew themselves a bit better.