I tired og playing guys and in the end hurting there feeling i want to change my life for the better. Whats the first steps i must take?
2007-07-23 11:58:39 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First you need to figure out what you're looking for in a guy. Then, find the guy that matches what you want. Just focus on that guy and dont let other guys get in the way of that. Don't flirt around unless it's with the guy you're focusing on.
2007-07-23 12:21:26 · answer #1 · answered by grant w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First step has been taken, you decided not to hurt people any more.
Second step, find out why you wanted to hurt people and fix that.
Third step, be yourself and stop playing games with people. If you find yourself messing with someone, back off immediately. Apologize to that person and explain you're trying to change.
Fourth step, build a real relationship with someone. Take it slow, and really get to know each other. This doesn't have to be a dating situation, could be a guy friend. The point of this step is to allow someone to really get to know the real you.
After that, you should be able to date without immediately reverting to destructive games.
Good luck.
2007-07-23 19:09:26 · answer #2 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you've taken the first steps at realizing that you are actually hurting someones feelings by being a player. I believe, that just like an addict, you have to want to be better first before anything else can happen. good luck, it sounds like you're coming into your season of relationship maturity.
2007-07-24 08:41:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to relalize that its painful for the guys. You have to come to the conclusion "What if it was me?" scenario. You could join a fellowship or consult guy friends or married husbands and see their point of view. It should help you to understand the consquences or reasoning behind the so called player.
2007-07-23 19:04:02 · answer #4 · answered by grc_iemacy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only flirt with the guys you really like, the guys you know
and think of it this way
people will date a player
it just depends on how you treat the person you want to go out with
how you talk to them, and what are you thinking while you're with them ?
if you're truley happy, then success
if you're thinking, you will be happy after you get what you want from him
no good
quit going out with him because you'll only hurt him.
2007-07-23 19:07:01 · answer #5 · answered by Nick723 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must first learn that other people matter. for this you must travel to the homeless shelter and offer to help out with cleaning or cooking for a month.
from there you will learn what the word "consideration" means. you are on your path
2007-07-23 19:03:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to just stop. That's awful.
Just take a look at each guy, figure which one you like, and go with that one for awhile.
2007-07-23 19:02:29 · answer #7 · answered by slowlygoinginsanelex 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know its hard casuse i use to do it but just DONT! If you with someone just dont do it its easier said then done and people who have never played them game dont understand why thats so but it is very hard... when it comes down to it its all in your head whether you wanna settle down and be faithful or not.
2007-07-23 22:51:01 · answer #8 · answered by Petie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be true.And don't let your mind think of ways to be a player, just think about being honest, and let a person know that you like them.
2007-07-23 19:04:21 · answer #9 · answered by timothy m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to be ready first to stop just jumping around. it is a state of mind. then your heart will follow.
2007-07-23 19:03:13 · answer #10 · answered by woodlvtohlp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋