I have 2 kids, a boy 14 and a girl 12, both good kids. My girl made a mistake, nothing serious but I thought she deserved a small lesson. I'm doing research for a course I'm taking, so I selected some texts in several books to type them. I told her to do this. It'd take her about 3 hours, working slowly. No fun for a summer afternoon, but nothing harsh either. I left and when I came back, 90 min later, it was ready. Since I got amazed she'd finished so fast, she confessed my son helped her. He's good at comps and used our scanner (thing my girl can't use) to make things easier. She said she didn't ask for his help, it was his idea. He conffirmed, said he felt sorry for her and decided to give her a hand. He apologized, said maybe he didn't do the right thing, but said, "Well, siblings should help each other right? And now, mom, you have your work done, without typos and even with the pictures." Frankly I got embarraessed, I love heir friendship, but my girl didn't have her lesson.
2007-07-23 11:53:37 · 19 answers · asked by Melissa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Some people said shame on me for making my girl do my homework. My homework IS NOT typing texts. It is doing research, analysing the texts, comparing diffrenet opinions, etc. My instructor is interested in my research, not in who typed or scanned the texts!
2007-07-23 12:03:06 · update #1
so wait, your girl's punishment was doing your homework? that is an excellent lesson to teach your girl. next time, make the punishment fit for her age, like taking away the tv or extra chores.
2007-07-23 11:57:23 · answer #1 · answered by Christina V 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow! you really care about your kids learning new skills as they grow up. However three hours of continuous work for a 12yr old kid might be too much. Just think how boring it is to type all those paragraphs when you don't know what they mean. Next time you can give her one hour of work and also explain her what the work is about. So it will become more interesting for the girl.
I also do research, and when I type something, I like to have full knowledge of what I am doing. After all she is your daughter. May be we should respect kid's interests.
Please don't punish them. They are too cute and honest with you. You can talk to them and make them realize that they were not doing the right thing.
2007-07-23 12:09:29 · answer #2 · answered by smitha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually that was a lesson to be learned by all. It showed you just how much they care for one another especially when one is in trouble. Now that you know this about them, give more next time. Something that will keep them both busy for a while and after a while your son will be fed up and say that he doesn't deserve to be punished and will let your daughter do it on her own. You will be able to remind him that he punished himself by butting into his sisters' business. Make sure he completes the task that he started helping her with and the next time he will let her do it by herself.
2007-07-23 12:05:39 · answer #3 · answered by von 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you have two good kids. I'm not sure what she did but it couldn't have been that bad for one day of research. I say laugh about it and let it go. Maybe just revisit to her how disappointed you were in the decision she made and the consequences there will be if she does it again. Just an idea.
2007-07-23 12:17:19 · answer #4 · answered by Pennstate98 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to make the consequences for your daughter's mistake match the mistake itself. For example, if she broke something, make her pay for it. If she wronged someone, she must make amends with that person. If she abused her privileges, take those privileges away temporarily.
If you assign her a meaningless chore as a punishment, the only lesson she'll learn is not to get caught next time.
For this time, I'd suggest letting it slide (rather than re-punishing her) and come up with better consequences next time.
2007-07-23 12:02:12 · answer #5 · answered by rainfingers 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would find another lesson for her because you gave her a lesson that your son loves to do and kids loves to show what they are good at. Next time make it clear that this lesson is for your 12 yr. old and no one is to help her unless told so. I would be proud of the fact that he help her and wanted the lesson to look nice.
2007-07-23 12:12:18 · answer #6 · answered by bert bert 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi...from what you told me you have been given the chance to teach your daughter a wounderful lesson how siblings can help each other in their worst hours....for example your daughter is in the middle of a punishment...she must have dreaded it but lo and behold....her brother come to her rescue......the way i would do it i would not let this chance pass
I would sit by my daughter and talk to her making sure she realize this (that often hardship time will come our way and that we have some one to help us) and would make sure she show her gratitude and appreciation for her brother help..............and to your son that what he had done does not go un notice and praise him for it (this will promote and encourage this kind of behavior in future from both your children)
By doing so what you set out for a well intended punishment to teach your daughter what is wrong comes out to another lesson in life.....well not to be ignore. However ensure your daughter that what she did wrong does not mean she will be able to do so in future and this time to let her go with a stiff warning
2007-07-23 12:05:56 · answer #7 · answered by soundfamiliar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you did the right thing by making your daughter do your assignment. I think the punsihment should be age appropiate and well suit the child. I think you should punsih your son for praticipating in the job of helping the sister out, they should have a fair grounding or restriction of computer or t.v. whatver suits the occasion.
2007-07-23 12:00:58 · answer #8 · answered by grc_iemacy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shame on you for having your daughter do YOUR homework, you just taught her to cheat. Right? Who needs to learn the lesson here? You my dear. Maybe you were the one who needed to be taught a lesson. Maybe you should have just taken away a fun filled afternoon. Hummmm...
2007-07-23 11:57:56 · answer #9 · answered by Only In Dreams 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Kindsa humorous how those youngsters try this to us huh. i might definatley enable them to understand that there grew to become right into a lesson to be learnt right here by purely sitting down and talking with them the two. show on your son that there grew to become right into a reason your daughter grew to become into to try this by herself. i'm unsure if i might enable this circulate till nest time and chortle it off after your communicate, on your very own in a closed off room or make her type something else, That specific is a toughy. solid good fortune.
2017-01-21 14:58:57 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋