My dad wants me to play basketball. But I don't because he calls me useless. He also wants to be my manager and spend big money. But because he calls me useless, I don't wanna play basketball. I wanna play soccer. What should I do?
2007-07-23 11:50:02 · 21 answers · asked by banksandmyself 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The issue is not the sport, be it basketball or soccer, the issue is the verbal/emotional abuse that your dad is giving you. Until that issue is resovled, no matter what you play, neither of you will be at peace.
2007-07-30 16:40:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first you have to sit down with your father and talk to him about the name calling. With your father calling you "useless" it wouldn't matter what sport you played, your heart would not be in it.
I am not sure what you mean about "big money" and him being your manager unless you are going into professional sports. Other than that, why would you need a manager for any sport. When you go into sports, you have a coach and a full staff of trainers, assistant coaches and all.
If you are not interested in Basketball, then you need to make it known this is not the sport you want to play. Your father must of played basketball at one time or he was a "wanna-be basketball player" and HE cannot live his life through you.
Tell him your interests is in "soccer" and this is the sport you would like to pursue. Good luck!
2007-07-23 11:56:46 · answer #2 · answered by Patty G 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No Parent should call their child useless. It sounds tome like you have a lot of talent. If you like basketball better than soccer go for it, just tell your Dad to back off that you want to have fun playing without the added preasure from him. It should be your choice on what sport you play. It sounds like he is trying to live out his dreams through you
2007-07-23 11:54:26 · answer #3 · answered by Cristy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if I were you I would go out for what you wanted to do. Just talk to him and tell him how you feel about the situation. Your father should not call you useless, because your not. Go out for soccer and show him that you are great at that. He should be proud of you and support you in any decision you choose. I hope this helps!
2007-07-23 11:54:18 · answer #4 · answered by ~♥moe♥~ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He probably only calls you useless when you are useless. You think your dad is dumb and he thinks you are a punk, and you probably are. Lazy lay around and sleep all day stay up all night and run your mouth all the time just like my son does. thinking you have all the answers in the world and the world will bow at your feet because you are Mr. tuff stuff. you better listen to your dad he has seen the sun come up a few more days than you have.
2007-07-30 15:06:38 · answer #5 · answered by book writer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, the most important thing to remember is not to get defensive. If you start yelling at your dad you will become irrational and will not be able to resolve this problem. You should start with something like this, “Dad, I really appreciate that you want to help me with my sports. However I am not interested in basketball. I am interested in Soccer. Will you help me with this instead? I really love your support. It makes me feel special knowing that you want me to do my best.” Once the problem is addressed the solution will come naturally. Just remember to include your dad in your soccer life too.
2007-07-23 11:56:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your dad that your not interested in playing basketball and you'd rather be playing soccer. It's your decision and he should support you in what you choose. You could have the coach of the soccer team contact your dad to discuss the rules and importance of the game. If it doesn't work tell another member of your family what your interested in and maybe they could help sway your father.
2007-07-23 11:55:57 · answer #7 · answered by grc_iemacy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him your not really into basketball. Tell him you wanna play soccer, that its your favorite sport, and you do well at it. Why play basketball if you dont like it. You shouldnt have to like or play it because your dad does. Hopefully he will understand!! Good luck.
2007-07-23 11:55:41 · answer #8 · answered by Dalia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well since you are useless play soccer. that is good game also. show this to your dad. let him know that maybe you are not happy with basketball i love it personally but then again i can't push it onto my kids and if i called them bad names it would not go over very well either.
2007-07-28 05:46:41 · answer #9 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dad really needs to let you make the decision of what sport to play.And it is soooooooooo wrong for him to call you useless.Talk to your dad and tell him that you are not interested in playing basketball.
2007-07-23 11:56:05 · answer #10 · answered by flavagirl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋