I don't think we will get a divorce, because we have decided to stay together for the sake of our son. I still love him but also hate him at the same time. Is possible to just live together?
2007-07-23 11:38:21 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
you should never stay together based on the whole "we are doing it for our child" because in turn the unhappiness you guys experience is also being shared by your child. you definitely want your child to be happy, and if that involves a separation, then that is what must be done. Remember if you guys are suffering from a bad relationship, then your son is suffering too. Maybe even spending time apart from each other could help re-kindle your relationship. Most important though is that your son see's you guys happy, not at each others throats. If a divorce is required to achieve a healthy environment for your son, them by all means you should get a divorce.
2007-07-27 17:08:34 · answer #1 · answered by master j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be interesting to know what has happened between the wedding and now. Most married people work a relationship and those that don't end up sitting in a couples therapist office, divorce court, or one of them writes to Yahoo Answers and seeks the advice of strangers. Why punish the child when you make it sound as though neither of you love one another any longer. Divorce is so commonplace these days that I wonder why people bother to marry. Children don't need the stress and trauma visited upon an unhappily married couple. How can he develop and learn to love other people if he doesn't observe it in his care givers? IF you love your husband and you care about the well being of your child then you need to do whatever the two adults in your family need to do to make the relationship a loving nourishing environment for the child you have created. Love and hate often live in the same space. How one responds to this volatile emotion merge will determine which will emerge victorious.
2007-07-23 11:52:24 · answer #2 · answered by LEC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that a wedge has been allowed to enter into your marriage. back in the day bad marriage's were usually prolonged for the sake of the children.but, psychologist have found that this can be extremely damaging to the child's mental and physical health. I sense that there is a little more going on than meets the eye. perhaps a third party has entered into your union. It is not humanly possible to love and hate someone at the same time. this, is your me factor speaking. self gratification. based on self induced GUILT. you and I both know two wrongs, can't make a right. it can only serve to teach your child to grow up and treat his female partner the exact same way that you all are treating each other.he is just an excuse,for two consenting adult's who are hell bent on having it (my way or the high way) so to speak. you alls refusal to accept your roles as the adult's in your marriage is causing an innocent child to be pulled in two different directions at the same time. a marriage where there is no communication and unspoken anger is like living with two ticking time bombs. you never know whats going to be the straw that breaks the camels back. If there is no room for recconcilliation and or counciling,its time to call in the lawyer's and a truce, while the two of you decide whats best for your son until he turns 18yrs of age. at which time he will be old enough to be the man and exihibit the maturity that his parent's could not.
2007-07-31 09:22:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do anyone any favors by staying together for the sake of your son! You either will be together for the right reasons or you need to part. Your son will be a product of his environment, just living together is not a good example.
Figure out how and why you are where you are and make your decisions. The hardest thing you can do is take that first step!!!
Good luck
2007-07-30 03:43:30 · answer #4 · answered by monise62@yahoo.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and stay with him if you want to be miserable the rest of your life. What is your **** and if it is a bad habit, why don't you try to change whatever it is that is bugging him. This question is hard to answer without knowing what is wrong with you and why he is critical about it. Yes, it IS possible to live together, but not a very healthy atmosphere for your child. You did not say how old he is either. If you are not going to change, and you cannot get along, get away from each other for the SAKE of your son.
2007-07-28 06:32:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never mentioned what the sh@#$t was that you needed to get together its normal to have a love hate relationship with your husband you spend as much time with him as you did with your brothers or sisters and wasnt that the same love hate thing ? You will die of jeoulosy when he starts dating and you will make eachothers lives a living hell if it doesnt work out move close by for the sake of your son but thats not a reason to stay together you will make his life miserable watching you go guys go at it all the time he will have had a better life and example of what real parents who love eachother are supposed to act like he will think this is normal and do the same with his wife and you will be responsible for creating a circle of horrible marriages in your own family try to work it out. Its worth it if theirs love if not you both desearve to be happy even if its not with eachother .
2007-07-31 03:40:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not good to stay with someone for the sake of the children because you will hold that against each other. The children will begin to pick up the bad vibes between the two of you and you don't want that to happen. That could leave a child scarred for life. And not only that, but you need to think about yourself in this whole matter. If mom is unhappy then the whole household could be turned upside down. You need to be sure of the decision that you make. You don't want to live the rest of your life wondering, "what if ". The best of luck to you. Love yourself enough to make the right decision.
2007-07-23 11:54:00 · answer #7 · answered by von 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about what is best for your son living with parents that dont want to be with eachother and that tension will be such a negative force on your son or be with 1 parent at a time as they decide to do the right thing to live seperately and reflect on their own life/person/needs etc without that negatism and tension your child will get to know 2 happy persons and will grow up realizing that ending a relation is most of the times better than doing nothing you will show your kid whats right... choose for yourself, your happiness then you can be a happy parent as well.If you stay in a bad marriage you will only end up blaming your son and he doesnt deserve it.
2007-07-28 00:37:13 · answer #8 · answered by ajal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly dont stay together for the sake of the kids because if parents are living in comtempt of eachother and arguing all the time the kid will start to think he/she is causing the problem and will do more harm then good if i were you i would try to work out what ever problems you have with your husband and maybe even go back and try to remember what it was like when you were dating there obviously was some love then if you can work out your problem that way go for it if not it would be better for everyone to just divorse or at least seperate for a while to find out if its what you want
2007-07-23 11:45:28 · answer #9 · answered by Derk S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Staying together for the sake of your son is a pathetic excuse. Do you think that your son won't see that your relationship is not like other kid's parents? Or that he won't notice that Daddy isn't always sleeping at home? Give me a break. You both can have a healthy relationship with your son even if you don't live in the same house.
2007-07-23 11:44:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋