Do any other mom's ever get tired of other people's nosy opinions?

Question

Like when you go to the store & your kids act like little monsters so people stare at you like your a bad parent or better yet you get on to them & then they look at you like your a bad parent or when people try & tell you how to raise your kids & offer you advice in a snide way when you didn't ask?

Answer 1

YES!! It drives me nuts when my son is being a little brat and I am doing my best to keep him quiet, calm him down and people are staring at me or even come up to me and say "looks like somebody needs a nap!" or something to that effect. I'm frazzled and the last thing I need is for you to tell me what my kid needs or how to stop him. All I know is that to stop you all it would take is a right hook to the jaw...

Answer 2

I was once at a store and there was an approx. 2 year old child throwing an all out fit. She had been screaming at the top of her lungs for quite some time. To be honest, it was getting on my nerves. I couldn't see her until we were halfway up the escalator and some guy screams from the other side of the store, "HEY! SHUT THAT F***ING KID UP!" The look on the poor mother's face was awful. She was doing the best she could with the situation, was obviously embarassed, frustrated and at a loss with what to do. We finally made it to the top, came back down the other side and asked the woman if she needed some help. We carried her bags while she carried the kicking, screaming kid to her car. She was in tears when she finally strapped the little girl in and said, "I swear she NEVER does this." I felt so bad for her and try to keep her in mind anytime a kid has a meltdown.

Answer 3

I am 24 and am married with a baby. I as a rule speak to my mother as soon as an afternoon! She is not nosy, we do exactly plenty in combination. She simply acts like a mother who's worried if she thinks there may be ever any drawback! My Grandmothers as a rule name a pair instances every week too. I have an overly near household. Maybe she is simply discovering a technique to keep almost her daughter. Now that you've matured probably she wishes to be your pal alternatively of your parent. PS. YES, my mother does force me nuts typically, however I have no idea what I'd do with out her!! OH and consider fortunate you might have a nosey or worried mom, a few do not provide a crap!

Answer 4

I do hate it when people try to tell me how to raise my children. Every parent should be able to raise their child as they see fit, with out people butting their noses into it. Thank God my parents do not try to tell me how to raise my children and their father's parents do not either, that would drive me nuts. Some people try to judge parents over every thing they do when they should just keep quite.
With that said, I do believe if a child is acting up in public like in a store or restaurant you should leave were ever you are. Not every one wants to hear my child throwing a fit so when this happens I take my child away from other people, usually home and punish them. I know when I go shopping or out to eat I do not want to hear some one else's child throwing a fit screaming and crying. Usually they will stop after you leave the store a few times. I no I may seem judgmental, but I just hate to hear kids throwing fits in public. That does not mean I am going to go up to the parent and give her my opinion though, because I know she does not want to hear it. Unless the child is in the store doing some thing to my child or some one else I am with, it is not my place to tell them how to raise their child. It is hard being a mother and all children have their moments of bad behavior. Not one parent can say their child is perfect. What I see fit for my child may not be fit for some one else's.
I have 3 children and I have a different form of punishment for all 3. I put my youngest in a corner or make him set on his bed, because I know that that is the one thing he hates the most. My oldest son usually gets his toys taken away for about a week depending on what he has done. With my daughter I can usually just raise my voice and it hurts her feelings and usually straightens up. All children are different and all parents are different.
Some times children do just have bad days or maybe they are not feeling well. Even the most well behaved child acts out at times for different reasons.

Answer 5

Yes, it drives me up the wall and half way across the ceiling. But you can't stop people having opinions. I find myself doing it to others sometimes, so I can't talk.

I love some of the responses here, though. Putting the kid in the other woman's basket just cracks me up!!

The people I can't stand are those who hate kids and think you should keep your kids out of their face. I wonder what they'd do if no one had kids. When they get old, who would be there to run society. No one would be left to care for them when they're old and sick. No doctors or nurses to wash and feed them. Then they'd complain about why no one bothered to keep the species going.

Answer 6

One of the rudest things you can do is tell someone how to raise their kids. Unless a kid is about to cause property damage or hurt someone, others need to keep their mouths shut. However, having said this, if someone saw my son behaving in an inappropriate manner or doing something that was harmful, I would appreciate someone telling me. But, they could keep their opinions or conclusions regarding him and my parenting to themselves. Just give me the facts and let me handle it. I would never give someone advice on raising their kids. I give my brother and sister observations regarding the wealth of talent and the wonder I find in their kids. I would never tell them they are doing something wrong in the way they are raising them.

Answer 7

Well there are certain rules and behaviours (like showing respect to others and queuing in shops etc.) that make for a civilised Society and when *some* parents don't adhere to them themselves let alone pass them on to their children it is just as well that others show disapproval in a public setting in the hope that the *parents* will learn some manners and then,hopefully,instil them into their children.
Parents should remind children of how they are expected to behave in public *before* they leave the house - and once out the *parents* should set a good example and correct their children when they misbehave too - most decent people would admire them for that not think it "bad" parenting!
Best wishes,
Joan.

Answer 8

Yes this used to bother me... but know I have a new way of thinking you raise yours and I will raise mine "so move your basket out of my way".... But what about family members that give you their opinion on a daily basis..... I have a sister in law that has just had her first.... she loves to help out when they misbehave ( so she thinks) .... I will be correcting them for their wrong doing... and here she comes right in front of my kids and will say maybe if you say this to them"mommy" they will not do that......So I finally had my fill and sent my kids back to play ...... And told her " I really wish you would save your expertise .... since you are a expert in rearing children you should put it in a book.... because if you don't it will spoil the suprise for me when I read it..... Then I told her I hope you get my point... "Butt out"

Answer 9

Well i don't have kids but i thought i would put in my two cents worth.

First of all i don't think mums can complain about other people giving their opinions. Mums with kids are never afraid to give an opinion to a receptionist/sales assistant/customer service representative whenever they like, but then complain when it comes back the other way.

Also, people looking at you in a weird way does not mean they have just given you their opinion. You have just made an opinion of that person based on how they are looking.
SO BUTT OUT OF THEIR BUSINESS.

If you choose to bring kids into public, and they aren't well behaved, expect it.

Answer 10

This happened to my friend the other day and her 5 yr old was acting up at the store and this woman looked at her and said "you need to control your child." So my friend looked at her and said "You think you can do a better job at raising her? Then you take her!" and she put her in the woman's basket. The woman's mouth dropped to the floor. We laugh about it all the time. It also got her daughter to stop crying and acting up. It scared her straight.