I meet this really cool guy, who I like a lot. We ended up going out for drinks, and then back to his place..... And then you know. Just wondering what people thought about this?
2007-07-23 11:17:08 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I love this question as it relates to a situation I'm currently in so please allow me to explain briefly and hopefully we can help each other out.
About 4 or so months ago a co-worker that I barely knew asked me out. She was older and incredibly gorgeous, so I was pleasantly surprised and extremely excited at the time. So we went out on the date, had a blast, and yada, yada, yada...we had amazing sex that night. Fastforward 4 months later...I just ended a relationship with her after 4 tumultuous, heartbreaking months where she did things to me physically (the good) and mentally (the bad) that I've never before encountered in my life.
Of course just before I'm set to end things with her, I hit it off with my sister-in-law's best friend. I have an amazing connection with this woman and share some of the most engaging conversation of my life, some of which included explaining my then "open" relationship with said girlfriend. When sunrise hits, all I can think in my head is how fitting it would be to kiss her. I go in for a kiss and she straight rejects me. She says whether I'm in an open relationship or not, she has respect for my girlfriend despite what she's heard and she would rather save our first kiss for more opportune time. I was blown away. Her saying that was better than the unbelievable sex I had with my now ex-girlfriend that night. No joke.
And not long after, I ended it with the girl and have since been in close contact with the new one, though we haven't yet been able to get together due to extinuating circumstances. However, when we do, I know that first kiss will take place and I know that it will be very special.
So to go back to you...after my personal experience, I have to say I respect the hell out of a woman who's able to say "no" on the first date. Sex is a powerful drug and if there's strong chemistry on both sides, sometimes it's easiest to give in. But if what you truly want out of a guy is respect and more than just a physical relationship, I think you should have given it more time. I'm no angel so I'll admit that I've had sexual encounters on the first date plenty of times, but in almost all circumstances, my mind (and penis) were thinking in just one place.
2007-07-23 11:32:40 · answer #1 · answered by Phenom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every guy is different. I think the opinion of most people when they think of sex with a girl on the first date is that you're "Easy."
But that's not necessarily the case in every situation. I've heard of some people having sex the first date, and then having this great relationship with the person for a long time.
So, I guess you'll just have to wait and see how things turn out for you and your beau.
2007-07-23 11:22:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Majority of guys that I know think that these woman are great to have as one night stands or be called upon as old reliables. But most do not want to have a relationship with a woman who has such morals as often guys will question how often this has happened in the past and do not want to be seen going out with a woman who has a reputation as being easy or loose.
2007-07-23 11:23:35 · answer #3 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
properly, in case you merely wanted a guy to hold out with, yet you will possibly somewhat have intercourse with women people, then what's the factor? do no longer you mean which you like having men as acquaintances, yet you opt for women people as companions? i'm optimistic that youthful men might in all probability leap on the prospect, because of the fact they could anticipate that meaning you will possibly enable them to demonstrate screen or which you would be up for a threesome, yet after a collectively as maximum persons merely want an superior half and if it became obtrusive which you wanted a woman and not a guy, i think of a guy might strengthen into bored after a collectively as.
2016-10-09 07:33:49 · answer #4 · answered by nicholls 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The usual assumption I believe is that a girl that puts out on the first date is easy. After all, most guys are not so confident in themselves that they think it's just them you'd do that for. So at this point, you may have some preconceived notions to work against. And there's no point in trying to back track and be all chaste and pure now. Accept what's happened and move forward.
2007-07-23 11:21:27 · answer #5 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's fabulous! Most guys will respect you more for being brave and self confident. If the chemistry is right, then why not go for it? At least now you have a really authentic connection and you get to explore what else you want to know about each other.
2007-07-23 11:39:29 · answer #6 · answered by ajabaja 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you do with your life is your business. Do not worry about what judgmental people might think about you as a result. People who go out of their way to judge others about things which do not concern them are themselves nursing some pretty serious problems.
2007-07-23 11:22:54 · answer #7 · answered by Mike 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My best relationships had sex that started early. I definitely don't think less of a girl that clicks well with me sexually.
2007-07-23 11:22:18 · answer #8 · answered by Mike M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
bad idea!! because half the guys out there will think if u give yourself like that to him that fast then your his to do what he wants with and u don't want that. u need to show some resistance to what guys want. don't let them have it all!!
2007-07-23 11:20:44 · answer #9 · answered by Laura 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Works for me!
2007-07-23 11:22:38 · answer #10 · answered by handyman7799 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋