Okay so My boyfriend is older than me we just had a baby...I recently saw that he was texting another girl asking her if she wanted to hook up that night...I confronted him and of course he tried coming up with excuses I don't know what to do I wanted to end the relationship but its way harder with a little baby involved...
2007-07-23 10:35:27 · 27 answers · asked by XxKMA5xX 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is what he wrote to one girl this was over like 3 days...and our baby was a week old.
him: hey cutie sorry I didn't call I've been at the casino all day and I still am...
(which was a lie cause he was at home with me and the baby)
another night at like 11:30pm
him: Hey cutie just wanted to say goodnight
then he wrote to a diff girl the day he went back to work
him: I was wondering if you wanted to hook up tonight...
Give me your opinions on his stupid texts....thanks
2007-07-23 10:42:57 · update #1
Ok I am 20 and he is 28...
2007-07-23 10:50:08 · update #2
Uh-oh.
This is trouble. If he hasn't fully cheated on you yet... then you should see that it is only a matter of time before he does.
You can't solve this if he doesn't want to stay faithful (and it's obvious he has no plans of doing so).. so you'll have to end it. I'm really sorry to hear that now a child is involved.. but if you just stay submissive.. there's a chance you'll be mistreated and perhaps get more hurt than now..
A lot will agree that you should end this, no matter how hard the future without a guy(more so the father) around.. But hey.. you'll make it. Many single moms have before you.. as long as you care for your child.. you'll be OK. _
2007-07-23 10:55:56 · answer #1 · answered by Rogee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I think you know the answer to this question. He is texting other girls late at night and lying about what hes doing. He is probally cheating. I mean he might not have done anything with them (im being opptimistic) but the possibilities he did are high. Having a baby involved makes it all that much harder. You need to immediently confront him and ask him whats going on. Tell him he has a family and if he cant handle the fact that he has a family to not waste anymore of your or his time pretending. Its so hard when you love someone and you have a child with them but you dont want to bring your baby into a bad home. Your baby only deserves a happy home and family and if hes cheating you cant bring your baby into that.
2007-07-23 10:50:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want something you have to fight for it. Maybe he is cheating, or was leading up to it. Maybe he feels left out since you have a little one now. Maybe he needs you more then you are offering him. No this does not excuse him for what he has done, but maybe you need to give him alittle more of your time.
On the other hand, keep your eyes open, and lay it all on the line. He can have his family, or he can have the single life, but not both. And stand by that. You are better then to let some man walk all over you.
2007-07-23 10:39:48 · answer #3 · answered by Brandi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Part of the reason so many people counsel about waiting on children is because this happens. You're going to have to end the relationship, and not worry about how hard it is for baby, because it's not going to get better. Find a lawyer and work out child support.
2007-07-23 10:40:02 · answer #4 · answered by Jess 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes he probably is and never stay in a relationship for the sake of the child. You may find later on down the road it will be more tramatic for the child if they grow up seeing you two fight and him cheat. End it now while your baby is still a baby.file for child support no matter what happens so you can take care of your baby.
2007-07-23 10:41:12 · answer #5 · answered by spiffymo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what on earth is the matter with you? you had a BABY with a BOYFRIEND? no legal commitment? you deserve whatever you get, that has got to be just about the most stupid thing I've ever heard of a woman doing. Give the child up for adoption so it has at least a chance at being raised by someone with a brain, that cares for it more that you do, you obviously care only for yourself and the hard time you may have as a result of your idiocy.
2007-07-23 10:41:19 · answer #6 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You have a baby now. You should not raise a baby in an environment where you will be disrespected. I'm so sorry he did this to you. He should not have done that. But he did, and you need to get you and your baby into a positive environment with a loved one perhaps. All is not lost though. Perhaps he would go to couples counseling. It might help. Right now you need to go ahead and leave until he figures his sht out.
My thoughts are with you. I'm sorry he's a moran.
2007-07-23 10:40:58 · answer #7 · answered by JDawg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on how old you two are, he's probably not ready to end the partying and the dating even after your baby was born. You need to end the relationship before it gets worse. Maybe live with your parents or relatives for awhile if you can so you can get yourself situated without your boyfriend. Obviously he's not ready to settle down and he is probably set to cheat on you. I hope everything goes all right for you. Be strong!
2007-07-23 10:46:57 · answer #8 · answered by Jess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a piece of sh*t. If you get the chance, lock him out of the house. He'll know why you did it. And it's best when your baby is young so he/she won't remember this. Fight him in a paternity case. You will win, since he's cheating on you. Find someone else that really cares about you and would want to raise your baby with you.
Fu*k that guy
2007-07-23 10:39:29 · answer #9 · answered by ♀♥♂☮Trippy Hippie☮♂♥♀ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be better for the child involved if you went your separate ways now instead of a few years down the road. He is definitely cheating and you need to find someone else to spend your life with. Good luck.
2007-07-23 10:39:24 · answer #10 · answered by Steven M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋