they were so bloody expensive, I put them in myself and it nearly killed me.... how do I make her stop? now theres dints and Im sobbing into my pillow...gargh!
2007-07-23 10:33:19 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I would go to her house wearing golf cleats. When she complains say that you refuse to take them off (I know this sounds good, and if you did it I would really love it). Explain to her how much time and money you have spent putting in the new floor and show the damage. If she is still stubborn then kick her a ss out.
2007-07-23 10:38:44 · answer #1 · answered by Mr Mugwump 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
She is just so vain, she feels her outfit won't look right without the high heels. Or, her pants will probably be too long, and her pants might get dirty on the bottom. So next time she's coming over, tell her to be dressed to take her shoes off. That should solve it. I'd bet money, she'll wear a dress or a skirt. Unless it's not fancy at all. Then she'll wear her crappiest jeans. Oh, so much we gals have to worry about!! lol :)
2007-07-23 11:12:34 · answer #2 · answered by LadyLynn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she won't take them off ..I would first question her "friendship". However, the next time she comes over tell her that you noticed after she left last time that her shoes left dents in your new very expensive floors . If she refuses to take them off then say "well if you want to leave your shoes on then we will have to either remain on these floors (if you have another room without the new floors) or we could step outside and visit". Once she gets tired of being outside she may change her mind. How rude of someone. In some countries you don't come in somones house with shoes on at all ..what would she do then?
2007-07-23 10:40:57 · answer #3 · answered by Stiletto ♥ 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The wooden floors in my house are seventeen years old and still as good as new. Nobody has ever taken their shoes off to walk on them and they have not got damaged just by walking with heels. Yes there are scratches and thats mostly done by us when we dragged furniture. Also some fading where the sun directly gets it. Otherwise its just fine.
2007-07-23 12:28:36 · answer #4 · answered by David M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wood floors and the heels created dents?
Looks like you put them in incorrectly or you got crap material and was overcharged royally for it!
Wood floors wont dent like you describe, if so then all your furniture would ruin the floor.
Think about it.
She is, ok, a bit wrong for not adhering to your request, but furniture weighs far more and if she is in those heels, i am sure she is thin. However, liability falls on the material and installation of product.
2007-07-23 10:38:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Next time spend more money on better quality wood and materials. If her shoes damaged your floor then you got cheap wood. Did you offer her a pair of slippers or something else to wear? Some people are not comfortable being barefoot. If I went to someone's house and they had a no shoes policy and didn't offer me a never been worn pair of slippers or sandals then I wouldn't go to their house anymore. I am NOT going to walk around someone else's house in my bare feet or socks. That's disgusting.
2007-07-23 15:09:47 · answer #6 · answered by Coop's Wife 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time you invite her over, if you ever do, show her the damage she's done. Explain to her the reason you politely asked her to take off her shoes when she visits your home. Also, explain the cost and sweat equity you must incurr to rectify the damage that she has done. There are more polite ways to phrase this of course. I'm sure she doesn't want you crying over the fact that she damaged your floors and your hard work.
2007-07-23 10:43:17 · answer #7 · answered by Not quite perfect 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your friend needs to respect your wishes. Set clear boundaries with her. Tell her she can't come over if she wears shoes.
For future info, if someone has a foot problem and has to wear shoes, you might want to get some things that slip over a person's shoes - like the booties that surgeons wear in hospitals.
But that idea won't work for your inconsiderate friend.
2007-07-23 11:10:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anna Lynn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not in favor of people asking everyone to take their shoes off inside, a house is meant to be lived in. But real damage or excessive dirt should be avoided; if a farmer came in straight from the cow shed or someone is wearing these kinds of stiletto's then yes, you have the fullest right to expect them to take off their shoes! Be more assertive; insist she takes her shoes off or she's not coming in, period.
2007-07-25 01:15:12 · answer #9 · answered by Sheriam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, your friend is being a little inconsiderate, but wear and tear is a normal part of having a home, especially if you entertain. Your new floor won't be new forever, no matter what you do.
2007-07-23 10:55:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋