Girl at work just will not stop talking. Everyone talks to her,we would not be nasty but people try to avoid her now. She is aware that she has verbal diarrhoea and we are up front with her&tell her enough is enough but still it goes on and on.
Do we have to get nasty? We cant get any peace when we have a break/lunch hour. Any suggestions before we do the drastic move of sticky tape over the mouth? She is driving us mad...
2007-07-23 10:16:16 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
If she's aware then perhaps you could make a game out of it. Help her practice. Appoint coaches to assist her with silence. Reward her with chocolate after certain periods of silence. If she gets it, make sure someone talks to her voluntarily, since she needs the interaction. Reassure her she's a valuable person even when she doesn't talk. Maybe at morning tea it's her turn to talk as much as she wants, other times she can practice quietness.
Change is hard and slow, so work with her.
2007-07-23 10:21:25 · answer #1 · answered by teef_au 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ugh--I feel for you. The lady who sits at the desk next to mine is like this. I could be sitting here surfing the web, or I could be sitting here furiously working on a project with a short deadline--doesn't matter to her. I can be typing with my dictation headphones on, staring at the computer screen and obviously ignoring her, and she'll just stand at my desk, going on and on for what seem to be HOURS about trivial, uninteresting, unimportant things. (She just got a new pedicure--how do I like the color?; Her dog kept her awake all night because he has heartworms and the medicine is making him act funny.; Her hot water heater blew up last night.; etc. I've gotten to the point where, when she comes over, I'll type a quick email with the subject line "CALL ME NOW!!!" and send it to two or three co-workers. (This lady can't see my computer screen, so she has no idea what I'm typing.) I act like it's an important call, and It works every time.
I've even excused myself one time to use the restroom, went to get a cup of coffee from the kitchen, had a conversation with a friend co-worker that lasted a good 5 minutes. I got back to my desk and this lady was STILL STANDING THERE.
I'd try the email "call me" trick and see if that works. If not, it sounds like you've tried everything else. I think you've run out of nice ways to try to get her quiet, so maybe it's time to get rude. The next time she starts running her mouth, give an exasperated sigh and say something like, "(sigh) I'm sorry Mary, but I'm REALLY busy right now and I don't have time to talk. I really have to get this done, so you're going to have to go now. Sorry." and turn to your computer and start typing.
2007-07-24 02:44:32 · answer #2 · answered by brevejunkie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe when you tell her she thinks you are joking.
Tell her that you have been looking for another job because you can not stand it anymore. Then tell her the job centre was full of her other workmates all with the same idea.
Then quite tactfully all of you pull a different job application form from your bags and tell her you decided that it would be less hassle if she were the one to leave.
2007-07-26 03:29:45 · answer #3 · answered by Jadore 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yup get nasty. thats what it takes with some people. i had to do the same with another girl. but this one wasnt only talking to much she talked junk about other people and used me for rides. and most of that junk was about me. i kindly told her how i felt. she didnt stop so i kicked her to the curb.i yelled at her for being disrespectful towards me for not giving a rats bottom what i tried to tell her. from what i hear she still plays her old games. but now when we talk she keeps it to the minimum. she needs an intervention.
2007-07-23 11:21:26 · answer #4 · answered by usexythangu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a pet anorak or technical nerd to wire a microphone from her work station to the receptionists tannoy. Then when she is in full flow just switch it on. If that doesn't stun her into silence, she needs help.
2007-07-23 10:39:07 · answer #5 · answered by d00ney 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her tasks. Everytime she comes up and starts talking, ask her if she can do something for you, or help you, or whatever. It will take some time to condition her, but she'll be thankful for it in the long rune.
2007-07-23 10:27:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could she be nervouse, if all else fails switch break time or lunch time so you don't have them together or just keep telling her to be quiet till she gets the message.
2007-07-23 10:35:08 · answer #7 · answered by starlight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I would tell her she has a twin.When she asks who? you can say Charley off Big Brother!If she does'nt watch it she will be curious and when she sees gob almighty she may just be shocked enough to stop it!
2007-07-23 12:02:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes get nasty if its botherin yall tell her straight out stop talking so much if she gets mad at quit it might be a good thing but if she starts cryin explain to her why yall did it
2007-07-23 10:19:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe try being a friend to her ask her out for coffee and really listen to her maybe she goes on and on because she doesn't feel heard by anyone . i don't know her but i imagine it just her desire to have friends that pushing you all away from her . tell her in a nice way away from everyone else . don't hurt her feelings .
2007-07-23 10:21:33 · answer #10 · answered by sadeyez 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋