I've been keeping contact, about every two weeks, with my ex. It is strictly platonic, I have no feelings for him, we usually just catch up on each others new relationships and work. Lately I've been feeling like I should end this contact for good. Is it wrong to communicate with your ex when you have a boyfriend that you love dearly and would not want to hurt for any reason?
2007-07-23 10:00:47 · 19 answers · asked by Sleepdeprivd 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's ok as long as you are open and honest about the situation with you current bf. That means reassuring him that you have no feelings, and being honest about when you see him....even if it makes him uncomfortable. If you cant do that..then the trust you and your bf have with cumble.
2007-07-23 10:09:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I firmly believe that it's hard on the other person (your boyfriend) when you keep up a relationship with an ex. It may be totally platonic and everyone may be cool with it but there may be a small part in your boyfriends head that's saying "whoa" and he's probably too nice a guy to throw a fit on you and make you stop. Now if you had never had a relationship with the ex, it would be okay.
2007-07-23 17:07:19 · answer #2 · answered by jacquie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's fine...when everyone involved is mature and secure in their own relationships and there is nothing more between you than friends, then I don 't see a problem with it. However, either your boyfriend or his girlfriend have an issue with it in anyway, then out of respect I think the two of you should agree to not hang out...if you see each other in passing then it's fine to speak and ask how they are but you want to have respect for your partners. In addition....I think it's a good idea to draw some boundries on your friendship anyway as long as either one of your are dating someone else whether they are o-kay with it or not....don't get into the habit of talking or emailing everyday....this is hanging on to old feelings whether they be of friendship or otherwise...don't hang out with each other alone....for the same reason above. If you all in a crowd of people, I think it's fine to be friends...if one of you has a tragedy in your family or a birthday, I see no reason why you can't call each other and an occassional email or phone call, but just keep it very casual!
2007-07-23 17:20:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's absolutely fine...and actually very healthy of you to be friends with your ex. Just because you two weren't meant to be together doesn't mean you don't still care about each other. I would talk with your current BF about how he feels about your contact with your ex. Tell him that you don't have feelings for him anymore but you'd still like to keep in touch. If your boyfriend feels uncomfortable with you still talking with him...come to an agreement...that you'll only call him once every month or something like that. I wouldn't ever completely break off contact with him though...unless there comes a reason to.
2007-07-23 17:06:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you Feel you should end the contact.. there must be some Underlying feelings there that get started up again when you talk to him... Something that's causing enough Guilt to have gotten you to think about it and ask this quesiton. if your boyfriend is okay with it, and if you Really are over your ex completely.. and if it's been AWHILE since you broke up (most experts say to wait 6 months and then you can go back to being Friends)... then there is no problem with it. I am still friends will all my exes but one. it just depends on the person...
2007-07-23 17:11:13 · answer #5 · answered by sweetaction 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if it is strictly platonic, does it upset your boyfriend that you keep in contact with the ex? If he doesn't know about it...if he did, would it upset him? If the answer is yes, then go ahead and end communication with the ex, simply because it is the respectul thing to do.
2007-07-23 17:07:47 · answer #6 · answered by Meredith526 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would advise you to stay away from your X for a while. Give them some space to forget the past and that way you won't give false hopes to the other person. I know you don't feel that way for your X anymore, but you don't know how they feel, what if that person thinks they can make a comeback in your life? Just give it space and time and then like maybe 1-3 years later talk to them as friends if that is what you both wish. Best of luck to you.
2007-07-23 17:08:48 · answer #7 · answered by VortexHunter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, I think it's ok. I don't know what you mean by EX - ex boyfriend or ex husband. it makes a difference.
if it is an ex-boyfriend then it is perfectly ok - you can have many friends but one soulmate. it's perfectly fine.
if it is an ex-husband then do you have children or not. - if you have children with that ex - then you have to talk with them. if not then it's still good to have a good relationship with them. If it is violent or abusive then no.
it depends. but most of the time yes, it's ok.
2007-07-23 17:05:56 · answer #8 · answered by art_flood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it;s ok b/c u most likely still have things in common and were possibly friends before u started dating. don't let a past relationship ruin a friendship. it's not worth it. and ur bf should accept ur friends regardless if u went out with them.
2007-07-23 17:06:00 · answer #9 · answered by heather 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you think of your ex as a good friend and you and your boyfriend are really close, i dont think your boyfriend would feel hurt or threatened...it took me 2yrs to be able to talk to my ex...even now...we cant talk to each other normally...you should feel lucky...
2007-07-23 17:06:31 · answer #10 · answered by pyon88 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋