Truth on cheating?

Question

I am a 32 year old college educated mother of two. THis may sound bizzare but I had to ask. I think I'm pretty damn with it and I just wondered how many people can honestly say they HAVE cheated on a spouse or bf or loved one? I am reading all these questions and everyone seems so damn self righteous and swears they would never cheat when I bet half of them are lying their asses off.... So is anyone going to tell the truth? And God Bless all of you who really are telling the truth.

Answer 1

I cheated once on a boyfriend, and ended the relationship as I was 1) ashamed of what I did, 2) obviously not in love if I cheated on him. This was 10 years ago, and the only time I cheated.

I figure it's like trying drugs, smoking MJ once in your lifetime to experiment does not make you a junkie or an addict. Same here, tried it once, felt so awful it was not worth it. That's why I say "twice a cheater, always a cheater".

Answer 2

Wow, I think that's pretty amazing. Although I feel like the rape is way more traumatizing, the cheating can be very devastating as well on a person, depending on how attached and devoted they were to one another, how long the relationship was, etc. And everybody deals differently (I have a very hard time dealing, stressing to the point of vomiting), so I think that's a good point you've brought up. I believe that society does take cheating too lightly. Everyone discusses it like it's very simple, from magazine articles to people saying, "There's more fish in the sea." But nobody ever stops to think how much the person who was cheated on is really hurting, and what all is going on with their body and mind from the stress. In my opinion, though, there isn't any reason a rape should be considered far less terrible.

Answer 3

Cheating doesn't count as much when you are really young and it's not a serious relationship, or if it's long-distance and part of the reason that it is going to end.

That said. i have cheated on my HS boyfriend when I went away to college and then we broke-up over the phone, which was inevitable. He had cheated on me as well. We were like 19 years old!!

Now that I have found my soulmate and I'm older and wiser (in my 30's) I would never cheat on that person. We are engaged, so it's much more serious.

However, I believe some people cheat on their spouses and it's so sad but true. I don't think it will ever happen to me. But I guess you never really know anybody but your self.

Answer 4

I have never cheated on my spouse or BF, my first husband cheated on me more than once, I can tell you that after going through that I would never ever do that to someone. I'm glad your pretty with it, sounds like you have cheated before since you feel more people have cheated than you see on the boards and you feel they are "self righteous" and lying.

Answer 5

Yea I have cheated on every guy I've been with except for the most recent ones... Alot of it is insecurity, immaturity and plain old stupidity. I'll admit it. It all ended the minute I grew up.

But I've learned from my mistakes. And I can also tell when someone else is doing what I stopped doing so long ago.

Answer 6

i have and i'm not as proud of it as you are b/c my mate was extremely hurt.i learned that cheating is really unnecessary!if you want to be with someone else then tell your mate!if you want your cake and it it too then you are no longer considered a cheater to me you are a asshole!if there is something missing in your relationship that can only be filled by you cheating than the least you could do is try telling your mate what it is that you want!don't just go and cheat.i'm thinking that you have been cheated on and you probably do it for some type of revenge thing!

Answer 7

The statistics tell the truth. A significant number of men and women cheat at some time in their life... over 50%

Answer 8

I'm a stat guy and the only important stat that people(especially kids) should know is this.......50% of all marriages end in divorce here in the U.S.A. And talking about a country who believes in righteousness, wouldn't you agree???

I do believe in the "one" or so on. But life is more complicated than people seem to know.

PS: I studied a little psychology and I was investigating the cultural difference in relationships. Believe it or not, it's one of the most complicated subjects to date(literally). The only thing we do know is that it has a cultural effect but as to find out the cause of it, it still remains to be seen.

Answer 9

i agree lots of ppl. lie....or they have no sex drive at all...and i think the ones that don't cheat work or live in a place where they don't have any contact with nice looking opposite sex ppl....cheating is very exciting after a relationship has gone stale...if couples would just talk about it and be open to try and do new things together if you know what i mean maybe no need for cheating

Answer 10

its a hard question....ive never had anyone so no one has cheated on me, what i dont understand is why get in a relationship if the person intends to see other people and put their loved one through pain, they may as well walk around with a big sign on thier head saying "s l u t" or "pimp"

but to me if a person can cheat, they can do it again