Everyone has tricks they use to help forgive someone that they really don't want to have to forgive. What's yours?
2007-07-23 09:38:04 · 20 answers · asked by Hazy H 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I look at my own sins against God and know I have to forgive to be forgiven.
2007-07-23 09:41:12 · answer #1 · answered by Thomas Paine 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The truth is that you don't really have to forgive anybody. If you have to use tricks, then it is unwarranted and it is really not forgiving.
What you should do, instead is just live your life. If you don't like someone, you don't like them. There's no law that says you have to like everybody in the world. However, do try to look at each person as a composite. There are good and bad things about everybody. Instead of forgiving someone, just try not to allow their actions to control your life. Move on.
If later, the person tries to make amends for what they did, then perhaps you can give them a second chance. After all, nobody is purely good or bad, no matter how you define it. And even if you choose not to forgive something that someone did, that doesn't mean you have to cut yourself off from the person completely. You can still work with them and even be their friend. You might never be completely over what they did, but you might find some other value in them. You have to learn to put things in perspective and try to see things from others' points of view.
Things are rarely black and white. They are almost always relative. Accept this and you'll be a lot less stressed out about the particulars.
2007-07-23 16:41:42 · answer #2 · answered by nondescript 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That is a great question!
I don't have any tricks, I just know that if I continue to want forgiveness, I need to forgive.
"Forgiveness is NOT forgetting, it's just letting go of the hurt"
2007-07-23 16:48:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if its a trick and I wonder sometimes myself if this is really forgiving someone or just giving them another chance. I think I forgive, however....I don't forget. And on top of that...if you do it again then thats it.....not forgiven for the same thing twice.
2007-07-23 16:47:27 · answer #4 · answered by MLJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to forgive someone is to pray for them. It's crazy, but the minute you start praying for someone the bitterness starts melting away. Pray for them to see how they hurt you, but most of all, pray for them to be successful. God says to pray for your enemies. Read 1 Samuel in the bible and see how David treated his sworn enemy Saul, and this will help get you through it. You can also read a book called Facing Your Giants by Max Lucado.
Forgiveness is NOT an emotion you feel. It's all mental. Even when your heart hates that person, mentally you have to wake every day and make a mental choice to forgive that person. Eventually, your heart will fall in line. Number one, PRAY, PRAY, PRAY!
2007-07-23 16:57:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a trick. It is Obedience. God tells us that because we have been forgiven, we are to forgive. Forgiveness is not a feeling, it is a decision that becomes a feeling. At first, you won't feel that you have done it. Later, you will notice that you feel it.
2007-07-23 16:59:06 · answer #6 · answered by 4HIM- Christians love 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I remember how much God forgave ME...and with that humility, I ask that HE take care of the vengeance that I would like to exact on the person who hurt me. I realize that it could just as easily have been ME that hurt someone else...so
I let it go.
This doesn't mean, however, that I just pretend that the other person will never hurt me again...I have to exercise caution and wisdom. Forgiveness is letting go of the need to get even...it doesn't mean that you just let the person keep on hurting you...Reconciliation is not always on the heels of forgiveness.
2007-07-23 16:43:23 · answer #7 · answered by Cheryl Durham, Ph.D. 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Return to the Kingdom Gospel rather than the Pauline Gospel we have these days. The original gospel brings about natural forgiveness based on inner fulfillment.
2007-07-23 16:42:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I try to remember that who ever i need to forgive is only human...and i remember God's sacrifice...the trick for me is not to let my own selfish pride get in the way....I ask Jesus for help,even if it's just the willingness to forgive....
2007-07-23 16:47:56 · answer #9 · answered by allyn h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really a trick, but I ask myself how long I want to let the anger and hurt impact my life. Some things will leave marks that never completely disappear, but for me to put them in their proper place, I find that I need to forgive.
And sometimes, as silly as it sounds, saying it outloud (even if you are the only one in the room) works wonders.
2007-07-23 16:51:59 · answer #10 · answered by Church Music Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no trick, you have to feel it. but realize that God always forgives us. maybe you should try thinking on how the other person feels when u dont forgive them. personally i feel awfull so i ALWAYS forgive
2007-07-23 16:43:15 · answer #11 · answered by Eltohn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋