What should do with a girl i'm seeing, what should i expect from here, i feel hurt need advice?

Question

i have been going out with this girl for over 2 years and we've done a lot of things, but she has been frustrating me. i love her, though i've never told her, but with the attention i give her she should know and i have told her i care for her many times, i can't tell her i love her when she is not my girlfriend, though we've been dating as if we have, being intimate, going out, meeting her family, talking on the phone everyday, and her getting jealous at times,etc. i want to ask her to be my girlfriend,I know she will come up with her story of how busy she is, with school, work, and her two kids, but i've have been around them they love me, which feels very bad of her to let us get close if those are not her future intentions, or are some girls just like that? i found out through myspace that she is going to have a date, she is not my girlfriend but isn't it implied she is if we have been seeing each other for 2 years.

I feel so hurt, she would accept a date, from a friend i guess she used to know, and who just recently contacted her. I can't confront her, i saw her myspace email, it was mostly unintentional i saw it, i had gone to her room and she had it open when i sat down by her computer.i want to ask her to be my girlfriend so i can break up with her, because i know she will say no. I love her, but i feel so terrible inside, that i want it to stop, maybe its time for me to finally let her go, i dont know if i can continue with this ongoing frustration. And her not wanting a commitment should be my way to leave her. Part of me wants to let it go, and just say well in time she will come around etc. We get along great, when we are together, and i've never met anyone i liked as much as i like her, but... you know the story, i don't know what to do. i'm just so mad right now, i don't want to do anything stupid or act harshly, by breaking up. Any ideas? should i just let this go?or ask her to be my gf

to see what happens, if she says yes great if she says no, i would need to break up with her?

Answer 1

im sorry brother

i suggest to sit down and ask her to be your gf
(what is so hard about that) if she comes with this story im soo busy

so then tell her, its ok, i understand you are very busy to have a bf. tell her i love you and i will wait for u but my life has to move on
and from there on start making ur self less available

maybe she will come around

but this time alone will help u realize that u deserve better

also one big note
stop putting ur self thru this ordeal
u cant really blame her because u r not letting go of this girl
and r allowing ur self to be taken advantage off and taken for granted

good luck

Answer 2

If you are going out with someone then they are your girlfriend