I'm a 30 year old guy. Over the past year, I've gotten to know a cute, friendly 19 year old through mutual friends. One day, I was giving her a ride and she said: "we should really hang out sometime."
Since then, we've "hung out" twice. Our physical contact so far has been hugs and footsies (initiated by her). Recently, I asked her if she'd like to go to the beach with me. She said Yes.
While I enjoy her company, I'm wondering where this is all heading. Are we dating or are we friends? I want to respect our friendship, if that is what it is. Dating, of course, would be tricky, given the age difference, but I do like her. We seem to have little in common, but we get along very well.
What's happening? What would she see in me?
2007-07-23 09:03:12 · 32 answers · asked by Tom 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Usually younger girls go for older guys because they're more settled in their lives, more mature and are willing to commit to a long-term relationship.
If you feel as though she may like you, but you're not sure, the best thing to do is to ask her what she feels about the situation. You are both adults, so you should be able to talk about it openly with each other.
But I'm kind of getting the vibe that she does like you as more than a friend since she is prompting that the two of you "hang out" by yourselves, isn't pulling away from physical contact but initiating it, and is willing to go with you places. I wouldn't necessarily call it dating, but you are on your way to being more than friends.
2007-07-23 09:11:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a range of reactions. Most people are not even interested - they have more in their lives. Of those who are interested:- Generally, if the guy was really ugly, people would think that he was rich. Men the same age as he is will be envious, but some of them may try to take liberties with the girl. Women of his age get really hostile, because they find it terribly upsetting that they or their divorced friends cannot get a man. There is almost no difference in the divorce rate as between couples of the same age and couples where the girl is at least 22 and the man is more than 10 years older or more. It is better to be an older man's darling, than a young man's slave. The real people to worry about are the girl's relatives - particularly the mother. Feminists cannot take it - unless it is Monica - then it is something you do not discuss!
2016-05-21 03:10:27 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you two are going out on dates. When it's a date, it is just you and her. But I have no clue on what she sees in you. Maybe she likes the fact that you are 30 years old, or the fact you two may have good times together. Overall, don't rush into things yet, because of the age difference, it might be difficult to have a relationship without others talking behind you two's backs unfortunately. Age may be an issue with people.
2007-07-23 09:10:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is good if you two remain friends for the time being. It sounds as though you do not want it to go any further, at least not yet. You never know, she could be the love of your life. The age difference isn't too extreme for things to take flight and work. She could see your maturity level. That is what I love in older men. It seems from your info that now you two are friends but it could lead into more and she sounds like she may be willing to do so. If you are not comfortable with things, then speak with her about it and see where she stands with the whole situation and what she expects. That will give you more insight into what you are looking at.
2007-07-23 09:09:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you're 30 years old! Put your big boy britches on and ask her how she feels. Be honest with her. It sounds like she's sending you signs she's into you, but she might just be flirty by nature. I am sometimes that way. She evidently likes spending time with you or she wouldn't be spending time with you. Beware: 19 year olds are full of life and want to experience everything and anything. It's hard to get one of those little suckers to commit to anything, so don't put your heart into it until you know for sure it's okay. You asked what is happening. Well, what is happening is she is trying to get to know you. She's trying to test you out and see what you're all about. Be real and who you really are and have fun with it. What does she see? Well, I'm not sure. I see someone intelligent and thoughtful. I'm sure she does, too. Ask her what she thinks about you. She sounds like she's pretty open about what she wants. I'm willing to bet she'll have no problem telling you. If you feel her at all shying away, let her. Nobody likes pressure, but for now she's not feeling it I don't think.
2007-07-23 09:10:59 · answer #5 · answered by Teresa Dagger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm older an i have very little interest in girls my age, we have little in common. They seem to know it all. It's all in how your attracted to each other, if you keep analyzing it then you will trash it.So enjoy your time together for however long it lasts. If mistakes are made than learn from them.If you enjoy her company stay laid back an let her do the moving as you might push her away.Have fun it's not all about sex?Learn what you like an don't like,then you will be able to cut threw the wrong one's.
2007-07-23 09:22:48 · answer #6 · answered by 45 auto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my 27 years of life, I have realized (most recently actually), that you can't help the way you feel. You really have no control over your feelings...that's why they are called feelings. From what it sounds like, she may be interested in more than just friends, but is probably having the same reservations that you are. Give it time, and don't rush into anything. Let it take it's course, you will know!
2007-07-23 09:15:01 · answer #7 · answered by Kate 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age knows no boundaries when feelings are involved! I was 18 when I dated a guy that was 36. Of course he wanted more than I did as far as commitment. I am now 27 and my bf is 36. Age means nothing if your feelings are there! Younger girls tend to go for older guys seeking maturity and commitment. I know thats why I go for older guys! See where it goes and good luck to you!
2007-07-23 09:08:29 · answer #8 · answered by Just me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Younger girls love to date older guys mostly because it is a status symbol to their friends. There are exceptions though, and only you will be able to tell if what you have is true or not. I am 30 and I am dating a 22 year old, and we have an awesome relationship. Adults are adults regardless of their age. If she acts like an adult and you like her, what are you waiting for? Less thinking and more action!!!!!
2007-07-23 09:11:38 · answer #9 · answered by ERIC E 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people love to judge....do what feels right...coz at the end age is nothing but a number. Im 23 and my bf is 29 ...i know you have a bigger age gap but hey you like who you like. And no it aint always about the money!!...my bf is in school and i am working so i dont think money is the deciding factor. Its hard to find pple you get along with and until you dont try you wunt know. best of luck....and only get into it if you both are serious.:)
2007-07-23 09:09:30 · answer #10 · answered by ab 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋