my guy loves me so much and we have been together for two and half years but he has been asking for more than i am willing to give. I love him and want to give more but it is physically impossible. I mean I want what he wants but I dont want to catch anything form him and he refuse to use anything. please help.He still loves me,he just likes what he likes,i just do not roll like that.
2007-07-23 08:59:14 · 19 answers · asked by beth 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have no idea as to what you are talking about......you could be talking about catching fish......
if you are talking about sex what are you afraid of catching.....because you can catch a sexual disease from oral, anal or vaginal......
What makes you think that he has something?????
2007-07-23 09:04:34 · answer #1 · answered by Been There Done That 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well just do what you feel is right. If he really loves you, then he would respect your feelings and desires. If he really cares for you, then he would calm down and wait. But if you love him, you would sit down and explain that to him.
Think about it, even though the two of you are in a loving relationship, but at the end of it all you is have yourself. Relationships come and go. Friends come and go. Sex and all that stuff comes and goes. But at the end of the day, you still are you. And if you aren't comfortable, or if you don't want to do something, then you don't have to do it. Life is short. Don't waste your life on petty issues and drama.
2007-07-23 16:06:52 · answer #2 · answered by king_q83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say what are you willing to give?
And if you don't roll like that then your partner should respect that if you partner do really loves you like you say.
Remember just because someone say I love you that doesn't mean anything...Actions mean more then words.
2007-07-23 16:07:28 · answer #3 · answered by nena_en_austin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got to live your life for you. If you think he's got something for you to catch, especially after 2.5 yrs of being together, then why are you even with him? You're either implying he's not been exclusive with you, or you got with him knowing he wasn't disease free...
If you've been in an exclusive relationship for 2.5 yrs with each other, then both of you getting tested and getting clean reports should be satisfactory to alleviate your fear of "catching anything from him".
2007-07-23 16:03:31 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him exactly how you feel. If he is not willing to accept you for who you are then he needs to hit the road anyway. He may want to experiment or trying things your not into and that is fine but if he is forcing you or not willing to accept how you feel about it and respect your feelings then this guy needs to take a hike. Good luck.
2007-07-23 16:05:58 · answer #5 · answered by misbotta 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sweetie there is nothing wrong with that if you have already told him you do not roll like that then that should be the end of it. You can't trust anyone these days and I think it is very smart of you to do what you are doin. Good Luck!!!
2007-07-23 16:05:16 · answer #6 · answered by KH 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He obviously does NOT love you, if he's not willing to put aside whatevers' holding him back (Macho-ness, fear of buying condoms, etc.) from using protection and thinking of yours & his own health.
I'd suggest that you tell him, if he really does want to be intimate with you, it shouldn't be a fight to use protection, he should automatically want to so the two of you don't run the risk of diaseses, but also unwatned pregnancies.
If he can't see your point of view, cut him loose. Theres' no reason to fight with someone who won't think of anyone's health and happiness but his own. Save yourself anymore of a headache or future heartache.
2007-07-23 16:05:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want children yet? If not, don't have sex at all.
If you're willing to accept the responsibility of your actions, then go have a full battery of tests done. If you both come back clean, then have fun.
2007-07-23 16:02:46 · answer #8 · answered by Shayna 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
condoms, jimmies, vests, umbrullas, condoms, bloomers, tell him to wrap it up or get lost. no love is worth dying of AIDS. orrrrrr you both can get tested, and if you both are negative on both counts, then go for it using spermicide and get tested every three months because like i said before men will stick their dick in any warm thing that walks.
2007-07-23 16:06:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIRST-if you are scared of STDs then you prolly dont want to date him
SECOND-he just needs to respect your boundaries. If you truly love someone save it for marriage
2007-07-23 16:04:11 · answer #10 · answered by The_Truth_Finder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋