In Islam there is always a concept that no matter how sinful u r u can always change...and well this is not exactly a sin but I don't feel as if I'm as hospitable or kind as other people.
If we have someone for dinner we don't pour them their water or serve their plates. We just sit back and let them do it. I dont wanna make them uncomfortable but I feel like other people r more hospitable and giving than I am (not as in money, but as in guests and friends).
Thanks for the advice. Peace.
2007-07-23 08:46:49 · 6 answers · asked by justmyinput 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
In the Name of Allah, Most Compassionate and Merciful
As-salamu 'alaykum.
Insha-Allah this reaches you in the best of 'afiya and iman.
Alhamdulillah... Allah has given us this opportunity each day to make it better than our yesterday. Change of any kind is easy for Allah. The concept you're talking about is khidma or goodly service. This is the key to drawing nearer to Allah Most High. When you see middle-aged women who have a working relationship with their Creator, we find that it's not because of large amounts of worship or many hours of dhikr each day, but it's because they've spent their life at the service of others with little recognition for it. This opens up a door unto Allah that others don't experience.
So how do we get to be a khidma to the umma of Muhammad (Allah bless him and give him peace)? Honestly, what you need to do is fake it. This is how these good traits are acquired. If you go against your nafs and your instinct to do what you've been doing, eventually it will become more difficult to not be at the service of others. The way of picking up good character traits is by imitating those that have them. Then Allah puts it into someone's heart so that it becomes how that person is all the time. Don't see people as something independent from Allah Himself, but rather see them for what they are -- rulings/actions of Allah that you've been placed in front of. What would please Allah in each moment? It's not about who the people are, but what they are.
One needs to get fed up with how gross one is in this regard and decide that they're going to change. Be the one organizing the shoes by the door or the one refilling people's tea, etc -- not for human recognition, but because this is Allah using you for something good. And the mark of one's state with Allah is found in what He Most High is occupying one's moments with. And Allah Alone gives success. And all praise is due to Allah, Lord of all the worlds.
Was-salaam.
2007-07-23 09:41:39 · answer #1 · answered by Jeremy C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My question is do you really want to change. If so, this is the best start. Then start, maybe a little at a time, maybe the water this time, and the plates the next, then both. Write it down, so when the situation comes up, you will follow the list.
2007-07-23 15:52:50 · answer #2 · answered by RB 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
observe and imulate the behaviors you term as hospitable. in my family you only get plates and such for guests. witch have a diffrent more distant relationship then freinds, and family. in my own home my rule is simple the first time you visit your a guest the next time you visit your a freind, and can there for find your own cup
2007-07-23 15:53:24 · answer #3 · answered by slo18 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in the bible, it says to *practice hospitality*...
practice makes perfect, as the saying goes. work towards being kind and hospitable by serving your guests and seeing to their comfort.
people will not remember what you did or said, but they will remember how you made them feel...
2007-07-23 15:50:51 · answer #4 · answered by chieko 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Comparing yourself to others AND trying to meet EVERYBODY's standard of what's "hospitable enough" or not is impossible. Make all of your deeds altruistic and you'll be doing that which is pleasing and virtuous.
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2007-07-23 15:49:29 · answer #5 · answered by vinslave 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray,pray and then pray some more
2007-07-23 15:52:52 · answer #6 · answered by Gods child 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋