I'm with a guy who is in an open relationship. He says the relationships he's been in that have worked are open, and at the moment we're flirting outrageously. The only problem is, I don't know if after things have happened between us, will he drop me and move onto the next person? I really like him, I don't know what to do.
2007-07-23 08:34:40 · 12 answers · asked by Nicola U 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
open relationship is another word for sl ut
yes once he is done have sex with you he will move on to the next guy
2007-07-23 08:38:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well by most answers this is unacceptable.
As for my experiences, I have had up to five girlfriends at one time. Never have I kept any of these women in the dark, they always knew that I was going to see other people and they were welcome to do the same.
Not all women are willing to accept this type of arrangements.
You must be honest and communicate your desires and needs.
After these relationships, I entered into a 13-year open marriage, again this is a shared, accepted agreement. This marriage ended due to drug usage.
In between this time and my next marriage, I was seeing and dating multiple women again. As for my marriage now, we were exclusive for the first 7 years or so.
A short while back I was given "permission" to sleep (not date) other women. She chose to remain "with me only. The first was my wife’s sister, before I hear all this moaning, think MY life YOUR life. I can think of nothing that we currently do that ruins your life. From there I have seen at least 4 other women (some arranged by her),over the past year. For us I cannot see women outside the house, I also must keep my wife aware of who and when. I inform anyone interested of just what to expect and the fact of marriage and the option is sex only , if they are not interested they just say. I haven't lost any women friends due to this and no one has openly frowned at it.
Yes we are aware of the S.T.D.'s and use precautions for such. Our family doctor is aware also and requests certain information for his records.
My wife knew my history before our marriage, she didn't and wouldn't allow this from her past boyfriends or husband. I asked why now, question her love for me and found that for some marriage is about love and commitments, for us there is a huge difference in sleeping with someone and loving them.
My wife's reply as to why now? She always felt I need more than just one sex partner, she had concerns of my staying in love with her. She said that there are thing I do , I don't know what and she doesn't say, that made her realize the commitment and love I have to her as a woman and she now feels she can allow and accept this.
I love her deeply and will someday die knowing my love for her and to each other.
To close I say, seeing other is a matter best decided by the "we" involved. Always respect any decisions and never push any idea that brings hurt, pain, and arguments in your home.
2007-07-23 12:11:52 · answer #2 · answered by Chief Whachusa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't subject yourself to a situation you're not comfortable with. If you feel you want a monogamous relationship, gather up your self respect and stop with the swinging player boy. It would be his loss. I truly don't know any happy women who have an open relationship. Most women want to be able to trust their partner and share a one on one bond with them. If you fear he will "drop" you, look at his past behavior. Is that how he has treated other girls? Just open your eyes, realize that there are many fish in the sea and give yourself the opportunity to find the right partner.
2007-07-23 08:41:00 · answer #3 · answered by ThatGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way an open relationship will work is if you guys are both on the completely same page. It's so easy to have your feelings hurt if both of you don't feel the same way about the relationships. Are you going to feel comfortable going out and meeting new guys while you are in an open relationship And will you feel comfortable if he is dating other women while you are with him. I know I couldnt do it. I would advise you against it.
2007-07-23 08:40:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep. "Open relationship" is a guy's way of saying he doesn't really care about you and wants to get it on with other girls. The second you are not interested in that, which would be right now if you have any self-respect, he will dump you and move on to his next kill. If you're smart, you'll drop him first. There are better men out there, and you are worth it. Good luck!
2007-07-23 08:37:36 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A monogamous dating, yet a in ordinary terms romantic one because of the fact i'm asexual. because of the fact i've got not got intercourse, "one night stands" and such are meaningless to me. i don't think of i'd desire to maintain a romantic dating with diverse companions, or that it may well be acceptable for the folk in touch. The logical decision is a monogamous dating, then.
2016-12-14 16:53:09 · answer #6 · answered by cegla 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you keep giving it to him while he is out getting more he will keep you. You stop letting him dip his wick in the community gene-pool and he will be gone in a heart beat.
When will women learn? Men are obsessed with pink tacos.
2007-07-23 08:40:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course, thats why he's in an OPEN relationship, he can open the door and leave at anytime!!
2007-07-23 08:38:40 · answer #8 · answered by carolyn h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes he will drop you like its hot and move on to the next chick and tell her the same line...see that sh it pisses me off becuse thats how diseaseases spread..crabs..chalymida..aids.. think about what you are getting yourself into
2007-07-23 08:38:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy it while you can. Why overanalyze things? Go have fun!
2007-07-23 08:44:26 · answer #10 · answered by Hank&Tracy S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋