I am not close with either of them, but I really like them both a lot from what I know of them and I thought they might make a good couple. I'll call them Sally and Bob.
On the casual meeting, Bob appeared to "really" like Sally and I could not tell about Sally towards Bob.
They did exchange phone numbers on that first meeting, but it was on the suggestion of Sally. Hence, I thought Sally must have liked Bob.
However, Bob has called, text messaged and even attempted to surprise her with a visit but all of the above was met with what appeared to be indifference although Sally did return a couple of calls and a couple of text messages.
Bob has recently contacted me and asked if I had heard from Sally, which I had not. I really don't socialize with Sally enough to "chat" with her daily.
I'm now feeling guilty that perhaps I shouldn't have arranged for the two to meet because perhaps Sally will hurt Bob and I don't want that to happen.
What advice do I give Bob
2007-07-23 08:05:28 · 15 answers · asked by littleb 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-07-23 08:07:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Your intentions were good. You did not set out to have Bob or Sally's feeling's hurt.
I would recommend telling Bob the truth that you do not talk to Sally on a regular basis and do not have any idea as to why she has not returned Bob's phone calls.
I would comfort Bob the best you could, and express to him that there are plenty of other fish in the sea.
2007-07-31 08:09:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had good intentions for introducing Sally and Bob to each other. You have no control over what happens between them after that so don't feel guilty.
Sally probably suggested exchanging telephone numbers because she wanted to get to know him before dismissing him as a potential mate. I think Bob may have gotten his hopes up too quickly and has gone out of his way to try and make something happen, which may not.
My suggestion to Bob is to be patient and give Sally space.
2007-07-31 08:03:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you shouldn't feel guilty if the match doesn't result in a long relationship. You tried to do something good. Maybe it didn't click for Sally. Just tell Bob that you haven't talked to Sally but her not calling back is not a good sign. Tell Bob you'll try to keep on the lookout for other suitable partners.
2007-07-23 08:09:47 · answer #4 · answered by hottotrot1_usa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe no one else is a friend to you b/c you've spent all your time (until now, that is) with these two crumb-buns. Look and see who else seems to be around you. Don't be afraid to sit alone for a bit. Bring a book and remind yourself that your own company is much better than bad companions. Oh, and when one approaches you with out the other? Walk away. They don't know how to appreciate you, so dump 'em. It is a hard truth to learn, but you came to it on your own and I'm proud of you. So cry if you have to, b/c it will feel weird and lonely for a bit, but just know you made the best choice for you. Once you finally close this door, another will open. You aren't friendless, merely free. Good luck.
2016-04-01 09:12:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bob should wait to see if Sally calls. Sounds like he's made it clear he is interested.
2007-07-23 08:08:23 · answer #6 · answered by timssterling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a tough one. Tell Bob you will call sally ( THEN CALL HER) and ask her whats up.. tell her that it wont affect your frindship with her you just want to be honest with Bob.
then cal BOb and tell him the truth.
Being honest is always the safest thing in these situations.. (just make it a softer blow if she his harsh)
2007-07-23 08:10:57 · answer #7 · answered by mickeyr813 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is introduce them and the rest is up to them. Bob is a big boy and he will be able to handle it if she does end up hurting him. Besides, how were you to know that this would happen. I think both appreciate your effort (or at least they should)
2007-07-23 10:49:02 · answer #8 · answered by cc_rider41 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell Bob that youare sorry, and didn't know her well enough to know that she was flaky, and let Sally know what a b.yotch she is.
2007-07-23 08:09:16 · answer #9 · answered by ilovelilPhof 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell bob not to worry if sally ignores him then its her loss!!
2007-07-31 07:47:00 · answer #10 · answered by PIRATE LOVER FOREVER!!!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately, these things happen when you play matchmaker. You should just tell bob to chill out, if she wants to goout with him then she will let him know.. tell him 'you can't win em all!'
2007-07-23 08:10:04 · answer #11 · answered by c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋