My BF told me he wont delete his HDTV recorded porn films after I kindly ask him to. I've told him how I felt about porn in general. I have even watched it with him per his request. I have tried naughty "porn like" things for him during sex because he said "I need go beyond my sexual comfort borders and try to be more aggressive". But down deep I still feel so uncomfortable doing porn like things and watching it but most of all having him watch it. Yes he has said he "watches it for the positions not the hot girls. but I dont buy that. He used to watch it before we met and now 3 yrs of dating and the porn watching is still around and hes talking marriage to me. If I can't get him to delete porn from his life how can I start thinking so that I can feel ok with him watching it??. I will never except it, but maybe if there was a way of thinking differently about him watching it I might can live with it. Should porn still exist in a marriage??Should I put my foot down about his porn??
2007-07-23 08:01:45 · 22 answers · asked by cookie77 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Watching some porn here and there really isn't a big deal, and isn't something you should be worried about. However, if it seems like an addiction for him and is interfering with his daily life, then you may have to intervene.
2007-07-23 08:08:46 · answer #1 · answered by Gornographic Headache Machine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why? It is obviously something that he is happy watching so what is the problem? It doesn't do anything for me personally but I don't see anything wrong with it. He obviously likes sex a lot and wants to try and watch new things. It seems as though you are seeing it as him being unfaithful or dirty but I don't think that I have ever met a person who hasn't seen a porn movie at some point in their life. Leave him be and just tell him that you would rather he watches it in another room if it bothers you.
2007-07-23 08:09:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether or not porn should exist in a marriage is completely up to YOU. If you don't want it in your marriage, then it shouldn't be in the marriage. It is an opinion whether or not porn is ok or not, so I don't want to pass judgement on your boyfriend, but if he is not willing to respect your view on this, what makes you think he will respect your view on other things that might be more important? Relationships require sacrifices. You need to decide whether or not this is important to YOU. If it is, then yes. You need to put your foot down, and if he loves you then he should sacrifice. If not, then let it go... but be careful. You give in now, and he may well expect you to give in on everything. It really sounds like you two have different sets of values. He may simply not be the right man for you. Good luck!
2007-07-23 08:06:36 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should let him have it, after all it's only porn, it's a fantasy thing honey, and although you don't have it in you, that doesn't mean that he shouldn't have it in him!!!!! I don't see anything wrong with it, I would love it if my mate was into porn along with me, that would put a smile on my face for sure.
I also think that yes, there should be porn after marriage, that's when things are suppose to come out in full colors!!!!
2007-07-23 08:09:36 · answer #4 · answered by ♥preciousluv♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG... your funny.... you can't **put your foot down** you're not his mother.... sounds to me like you two are NOT COMPATIBLE sexually..and if you try to get him to delete or stop watching then all that will happen is he will start sneaking it and being dishonest all in the name of not makin you mad. Porn and the lifestyle surrounding it are huge deals in a marriage...and if you can't stand porn and being kinky and he loves it..then save yourself a lot of heart ache later when your married with 3 kids and find his DVD collection in a hidden panel of The closet and then you'll be really mad at him for something you've always known he was into. break up now. Seriously. You guys will thank me later when you find you a man who is into missionary only and he finds the girl of his dreams who hangs from the sex swing....
2007-07-23 08:10:47 · answer #5 · answered by Sharlala 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I notice that YOU told him how YOU feel about porn. It's all about you, eh? I'm sorry that you are so insecure in your relationship that you are threatened by a bunch of people that he will nevr know or ever be with. What makes you think that you can MAKE another person do anything? I am assuming that you are very used to getting your way.
2007-07-23 08:09:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trying to take porn away from a guy is like trying to take a banana away from a monkey. It's the one thing most guys cant live without. You can ask him to be more discreet about it. Or if you really can't stand it, why are you still with the pervert?
I'd say either let it go or let him go.
2007-07-23 08:08:03 · answer #7 · answered by Jake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try this once, tell him to get rid of the porn and have him promise never to have it again. And tell him if he does you will make a full length film of just the two of you in as many positions as he can think of and that will be the only porn he can watch from now on (with your permission) and make sure you are the only one who holds the film. (so you don't have to worry about it if he breaks up with you) and if he really needs to have porn after that you can tell him you knew it was all about the girls on it the whole time.(and of corse distroy the film you have made.)
2007-07-23 08:19:38 · answer #8 · answered by Maynard h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm one man that doesn't care about porn.Even though someone here said that ALL men do.Why would I want to see someone else do something I already know how to do.If I was lame enough to watch it and my gf asked me to stop i would.I'm all man and I've got a lot of my own ways to please my woman.She's well satisfied or a great liar.
2007-07-23 08:18:10 · answer #9 · answered by joystoy33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your uncomfortable with it you definitly shouldn't have to watch it. However I don't think you'll ever find a man that doesn't look at porn, only men who do it descreetly. If you don't want anything to do with it thats okay, but you're gonna have to accept that he is most likely gonna watch it, and ask him to keep it more private if that helps.
2007-07-23 08:07:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋