I am 28. I have two boys, 7 and 3 years old. After 11 years I have spilt with thier father and once again find myself alone. i have alot of mixed feelings about finding someone else. One being that I really don't want to get hurt again, then also I have to think about the boys and I don't want them to see lots of men coming and going from thier lives.
I understand I have alot of baggage and also it would have to be a very special man to take me on and to be a good role model for my boys, I not looking for him to be a father but more someone they know and respect and be there for them if needed. It is more so for me to have someone to share my thoughts at the end of the day and to have someone to hold. After my bad relationship, I have raised to bar up but I feel that I deserve to find someone who can be my companion. Or should I just go with the flow and also should I always be upfront that I do have kids or should that be told after a few dates?
2007-07-23 08:00:30 · 7 answers · asked by mk 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Of course there's someone for you... Just as there's someone for me. We just haven't met them yet. I would tell your date up front... If he's not mature enough to accept the children as part of you, don't waste your time, because he's obviously not mature enough for you. Just be patient... That's what they tell me... :)
2007-07-23 08:04:55 · answer #1 · answered by bluedevil1642 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your children should always be your pride and joy! Tell them if they do not like it, they can take a hike.
First make sure you get rid of all that bagage. You do not want to drag that into the next relationship.
I would say find a singles group in church.
But make sure he is really a man that fears the Lord. A man that truly fears the Lord has authority over him, someone to answer to. Jesus and they will be good to your children and you.
But there are many people who pretend to be what you want them to be in the begining. Remeber that and since you are vulnerable the men who like to pretend to be something they are not know you are and they are looking for that. Be smart aware and stand strong. I would definitly say you have 2 kids, but don't introduce the kids unless you he is the 1.
2007-07-23 08:07:57 · answer #2 · answered by mariaaa 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I married a lady who had two children and we had no problems for seven years and the when she thought she could handle life again she had an affair with some one so yes there is a good chance you will find that some one special good luck to you
ps
never give up hope
2007-07-27 07:05:14 · answer #3 · answered by raggy1852 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes there is someone out there for you and your 2 boys but they might have baggage of there own,you must be upfront about your boys some men will run some will accept them and you as a whole package ,its the latter you need ,there some geniune men out there for you ,so if they run then they are not for you ,keep searching and you will find him ,good luck
2007-07-23 08:11:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go with the flow.......as with life in general. The mention of kids usually comes out in general conversation anyway. Dont ever feel you have baggage just because of kids....we ALL have a past of some sort.
2007-07-23 08:08:23 · answer #5 · answered by Kit Kat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you damn well bet there is.......you will find Mr right sooner or later but your 2 boys are the most important thing at the moment although your love life comes a close second,,,,,I met my wife and acquired a step daughter aged 16 ,,,I arrived on the scene just after all the adolescent screaming had died down,,,,we all get on very well together and have financially bailed my step daughter out a few times and she calls me her step daddy.....mwah
you sound just a little lost at the moment but in time things WILL get better,it`s just that the light at the end of the tunnel is just a glimmer in the distance,,,but who knows what tomorrow will bring,,,
Hope all turns out just fine for you....
all the very best for now THM
2007-07-23 08:03:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
there must be because if there isn't then there's no hope for me
2007-07-23 08:07:01 · answer #7 · answered by Tamzi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋