i have no one. my family is falling apart and my mother has a whole pot of her own issues. she takes everything out on everyone else and she says the sumbest and meanest things to me. i am going through enough and she just makes it worse. i am just so tired and sick and so unhappy about everything. professionals suck.
2007-07-23 07:34:36 · 9 answers · asked by * 6 in Health ➔ Mental Health
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2007-07-23 07:35:15 · update #1
I am so sorry to hear you are going through such a terrible time. I understand and have been there. Let me tell you that you are great, wonderful, amazing and beautiful. Let me encourage you to let you know that you are not alone. It's bad when people have their own issues and take it out on others. You stay strong and go around some positive people and let someone give you a push. If you don't find anyone, then you take that first step and encourage yourself. Go in that mirror and say, "I am great, I am wonderful and I am beautiful." I will keep you in my prayers. Take care WONDERFUL person!! In spite of, you are a WINNER and not a LOSER!!
2007-07-23 07:41:01 · answer #1 · answered by beaddiva 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
accept that it isn't your job to deal with her problems. If your old enough move out, if not find something to do that keeps you out of the house as much as possible, even reading in a library will do the trick. The bottom line if lots of parents shoudn't have been allowed to have kids they weren't ready for it financially or emotionally and if you let them they will turn you into little clone of their own messed up selves.
If you have to start going to a local church, just make it your mission to be away from the problems. If your worried about your brothers or sisters, don't think its your job to take care of them or keep them safe from a psycho mom... you can always call DHS to protect them. Foster car isn't great but if your mom is making life unsafe it would be an improvement.
2007-07-23 07:42:50 · answer #2 · answered by IG64 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Good for you for realizing that the things your mother says to you aren't about you at all--it's her stuff coming out! I think you need to get away from the house for a while and find something to do that makes you feel good and people who are supportive. I strongly encourage you to do some volunteer work. That might sound kind of hokey, but at least you will be in a place where you can focus on other things and where people are appreciative of your efforts. Try it! It couldn't hurt. And hang in there.
2007-07-23 08:01:46 · answer #3 · answered by Aargh! 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
All the things you enjoy doing, find a way to spend most of your time engaging in those activities. Find more pleasant people to be around, like you said you have your own life to deal with, try not to add other peoples negativity and stress to your life. Give yourself a break, get a massage and your hair done. Just have a day for YOURSELF, and enjoy it!
2007-07-23 07:55:11 · answer #4 · answered by kandy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
professionals? why dont you find someone in person to confide in right now? you need a friend at this time. someone close to you. maybe your should start seeing a counselor with your mother. my mom and i dont get along very much, either. but once we started seeing a family counselor, weve been getting along a lot more. try finding out what makes your mom tick right now and do your best to avoid it. maybe when shes in a good mood (if that happens), tell her about your problems in a calm voice and tell her you need help right now. you want to have a close relationship with her, but you cant do that if she wont listen.
if your sincere about it, hopefully she'll lay off and help you.
but honestly. you both could use a counselor.
i suggest (if your in california) to see ken arkin. he works at kaiser permanente. hes wonderfull and is very helpfull.
hope all goes well with your problems<3
2007-07-23 07:42:36 · answer #5 · answered by kay lay 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
no one can do anything to your inner happiness that you do not allow. If you are tired of all those external disturbances to your peace and contentment, don't let them in.
if you are looking to a therapist to solve your problems, it isn't going to happen, that isn't their job. all a therapist does is help you identify your issues, what you do about them is up to you to solve not them. i would suggest that is it high time you stopped whining about things over which you have no control and take control of the things you can. what happens in your mind, your attitude, your emotions and your feelings are all under your control, it is time to stop looking outside yourself for what has existed inside yourself all along.
2007-07-23 07:45:29 · answer #6 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are right! Her issues are not about you. She must take responsibility for her own actions.
If you can move away from home. Find your own place.
If it helps visit my site which is about you helping yourself.
http://themeaningisyou.com
email me with any questions.
2007-07-23 08:51:49 · answer #7 · answered by HJG 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you just need to get away from it all. I suppose it depends on your age, but you probably just need to get away from your family if they're causing all these problems.
2007-07-23 07:38:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Try to find your happy place and do not put too many attention to things that bothers you, try to wait for better times.
2007-07-23 07:38:43 · answer #9 · answered by Veronica M 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋