My son is wearing my underwear. This past weeken he stayed at his nana's house and came home with 3 pairs of his aunt's underwear hidden in his stuff. I have no clue what to do. ANy ideas?
2007-07-23 07:31:37 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Since some have been asking this I will answer. He is sneaking them. He will put them on under his underwear and then put his pants on. Whenever we see him walking around with a look on his face that says hey I am hiding something then we know to look and see if he is wearing my underwear. Also in response to I am the parent comments. One the door to our room is broken. two you can't be glued to your kids 24-7 and third If they want to get away with something bad enough they will
2007-07-23 07:54:02 · update #1
Nothing...at this age he is imitating his mother. He loves her and may have seen her putting on her panties. Relax. There's nothing "wrong" with him.
2007-07-23 07:39:38 · answer #1 · answered by ladydamorea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with ladydemorea's answer. Your son is just modeling after the person he is closest to,spends the most time with and loves. I dont believe that at this stage of the game it has anything to do with sexual gender at all. I have seen this before on many different levels. Mom went away and he was comforted by a familiar fabric or article of clothing. . Most of the time it is the material they are made of silk lace or cotton. I have a friend whos 5 yr old had a blanket hat had that silky material around the edges and he used to rub it on the side of his face and suck his thumb. He lost the blanket one day and guess what my friend found he was using as a replacement? her underwear. She about freeked.....
Another theory is detachment anxiety that can manifest in various behaviors. Ive been practicing in the psychiatric field so many years and This is a very common conversation piece. I can tell you that even Dr. Spock wrote about it in his books. Just play it off, get him interested in a different item you have in common (silk pillowcase?) it should pass.
I do want to say that this is not something that would be taken as lightly if you were dealing with an abused or neglected child from the foster care system if this were the case I would suggest a psych evaluation and watch for any destructive behaviors that evolve
2007-07-23 08:03:20 · answer #2 · answered by confused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let him wear your underwear. Your room is off limitls to the kids when you aren't in it. Maybe time to put some sort of lock on it. Make him return anything he has taken from nana's, be it underwear or anything else, without nana's knowledge or approval. And make sure HE apologizes for having taken them. Maybe the embarrassment alone will be enough for him not to be doing that again.
2007-07-23 07:45:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him that it's not polite to take things that don't belong to him. Have him deal with the natural consequences of doing that. First, he must wash them, return them and apologize. Second, he must do something to make up for the inconvenience he caused the person who he took the underwear from - chores, early bedtime, missing a fun outing that he might have had with that person, etc.
Also, teach him that it is not hygienic to wear someone else's undergarments.
2007-07-23 08:36:39 · answer #4 · answered by Maureen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a friend who was a nanny to a 5-year-old boy who did the same thing. His father was disgusted with the idea of his boy playing with women's clothes and would tell him off every time he found out. Seeing that it didn't work, both parents stopped talking about it and the boy grew out of it.
I think you shouldn't worry or make it a big deal. Let him experiment and once he's satisfied with whatever makes him curious about it, he'll move on to something else. Good luck.
2007-07-23 07:48:09 · answer #5 · answered by No se 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy him cooler underwear. He is just curious...not nasty. Take him shoping and show him girl underwear and boy underwear. Find the pinkest, girliest underwear you can find and ask him if he wants it. If he says no, tell him that it is girl underwear just like nanas and yours. See what he says.
2007-07-23 07:36:30 · answer #6 · answered by MrsKat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter if it's women's or men's - it's someone elses, right? He doesn't need to be wearing ANYONE else's underwear.
2007-07-23 08:05:38 · answer #7 · answered by bigorangefan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he actually wearing them, or did he just take them? Don't make a big deal out of it, and this phase will pass.
2007-07-23 07:35:26 · answer #8 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is just being a kid. My 5 year old used to put my bra on his head - wanted us to laugh. They playful at this age.
2007-07-23 07:40:50 · answer #9 · answered by Mother'f3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure he's wearing them and not just taking other people's stuff? Why don't you talk to him about it? I mean, he's 4, but he's not stupid.
2007-07-23 07:37:50 · answer #10 · answered by Heidi W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋