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They are super old-fashioned. They are in there sixties and I know I might effect my their health.

2007-07-23 07:30:03 · 29 answers · asked by Gia 1 in Family & Relationships Family

My parents are really religious and depend on me alot. I am 22 and still live with them. I support myself. I feel that they will disown me. I know I am over 18 but for me it is important what my parents think.

2007-07-23 07:57:55 · update #1

29 answers

You don't. Get married or engaged and the rest will follow. There's alot of wisdom to be learned in not 'playing house.'

2007-07-23 07:41:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

being in their sixty's don't make them old. Tell them the truth, and let them feel the situation out. They are not senile, they want what is best for you, and if they are very religious then so are you. Don't be no fool, no man or anything on this earth is worth you loosing your soul for. Think and feel your heart ask God for Your guidance, because sin is sin you are about to fornicate and that is not good. Don't be a fool I am in the same situation like you and I wish I had listened to my parents because now I have a child with this man and no marriage. Now we fight like cats and dogs because God Don't Bless No Mess and He is coming soon just take a look at whats happening in the world today. I'm not saying don't do it, but just think real hard on it. Let God be your way and not that boyfriend of yours. Talk to your parents and let them speak first and please listen WISELY.

2007-07-31 05:59:33 · answer #2 · answered by reddie 3 · 0 0

I think you know the answer already, deep in your heart. Don't disappoint your parents. What more are you going to get out of your relationship by moving in with the b-friend? I am pretty open minded about most things, but I have seen what happens when couples break up and it's usually the girl that has to find a new place to live. Stay where you are at and enjoy the dating life :)

2007-07-30 13:26:52 · answer #3 · answered by Esjae 3 · 0 0

Why would you want to make life so easy for your boyfriend by giving him all the benefits of marriage and deprive yourself of the benefits you deserve (like being on his health insurance, or being able to inherit what is his should anything happen to him...etc)
If you do move in with him dont expect him to ever marry you. He will already be getting everything he would get if he was married. I understand why it would bother your parents. Its not just about being old fashioned it is about an equal commitment and providing the essentials needed, many of which you will be doing without.

2007-07-23 07:51:57 · answer #4 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0 0

I know you are over the age of 18 and legally an adult, but as I tell my kids, you are always going to be accountable to someone. Whether it is a husband, parents, boss, God-whomever, you will answer to someone. Why the rush to move in with your boyfriend? You have a choice, go against your parents wishes and beliefs and risk shutting them out of your life(for something that may or may not last) or sit down and talk about this with them.

2007-07-31 00:34:19 · answer #5 · answered by WVPV07 4 · 0 0

Why are you moving in with your boyfriend? If you are already sexually active then, the sin has already been committed & hence, your folks may be worrying about the wrong thing. The bottom line is this: Does your boyfriend respect you now? Will he respect you if you move in with him? If you all are in the relationship for the right reasons, the rest will follow. It appears that subconsciously, you may be using your parents as a skapegoat to keep you from doing something that deep down, you really don't want to do yourself. Always, trust that inner voice & best to you.

2007-07-30 16:38:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Why haven't you moved out on your own yet? Seems to me you might be moving from the frying pan into the fire - if you know what I mean. Are you looking for the next arrangement where someone else is taking care of you? Since you didn't say anything about the way you feel about him, I'd strongly suggest you get out there on your own first and grow up a bit more - without the safety net.

2007-07-30 16:28:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

First, are you an adult, i.e., 21 or older? If so, ask to talk with them together. Let them know you've made a decision, that you have thought out the pros and cons (hopefully you have) and that at this point in your life you are ready to make this type of commitment. Unless they are supporting you financially in some way, I can't see how they can stop you from living your life.

2007-07-23 07:35:29 · answer #8 · answered by dufus4 2 · 0 1

When I first moved in with my ex husband before we were married I was scared of what my grandmother might think, because she is a slightly strict christian woman. However she said she had her opinion and did not agree with it ( Since it was against her beliefs) but it was my life and she was not going to be the one to judge me. This just may be the way your parents react. Some times people will surprise you

2007-07-23 07:38:33 · answer #9 · answered by Cristy 3 · 0 1

How old are you? Are you sure they are "super old fashioned" or do you just perceive them that away?
If you are 'of age', then sit down with them and tell them your feelings. If you still think it's a good idea after that talk, then do it. It'll have to be a serious talk though, don't be intimidated by them, but don't be disrespectful either.
Hope it all works out.

2007-07-23 07:37:18 · answer #10 · answered by UJ 2 · 0 1

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